Spinoff - Parents Leave Then Want to Come Back

[AmyKidsCo]

Lovemydaycare and Childcaremom's posts got me thinking...

There are lots of posts about a family leaving then changing their minds and wanting to come back.

What do you think would happen if WE terminated, then changed our minds and asked the family to come back?

[spedmommy4]

Does that happen? :: I've termed once and I definitely did not want to see the family again after that. I don't know about others, but it takes a lot to push me to terminate care.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I don't know of any terminated family that isn't slightly offended ...so I don't think any would come back.

[lovemydaycare0912]

Haha, they would curse us out or think we were crazy. I would not ever ask a termed family to come back.

I don't think people understand the power their words have. At one point or another, you have to grow up and learn to speak and communicate effectively as an adult. If you have a concern, learn to voice it in an appropriate manner. Blurting out things doesn't work too well in your favor.

[Rockgirl]

If I'm to the point of terming, I definitely won't be asking them to come back!

[AmyKidsCo]

If I'm to the point of terming, I definitely won't be asking them to come back!

Me neither!

So many parents think it's OK to term then expect us to welcome them back with open arms. I was just wondering what if the shoe was on the other foot.

[Rockgirl]

Me neither!

So many parents think it's OK to term then expect us to welcome them back with open arms. I was just wondering what if the shoe was on the other foot.

I have one that would come back in a heartbeat. She has hinted numerous times that she wished dcg was still with me. I wanted to say, "Yeah....guess all those late pickups on your days off weren't the best idea, huh?"

[Blackcat31]

It happened to me.

About three years ago I termed a family with a five-month-old baby. I waffled back-and-forth for a long time before finally deciding to terminate care. NOT because they were a bad family (they were actually very very good) but because I just didn't want a baby in care full-time. I hadn't had a baby in a long time and don't even know why I enrolled the baby in the first place....

Anyways, I made the decision that I wanted to be baby free so I termed the family. I gave them the names of several other providers that had openings so they found other care no problem.

About six months later I ran into the DCM in Target. We got to chatting and she started telling me how she was looking at other day cares because she just wasn't able to find anybody that she was really comfortable with.

Before I even knew what I was saying I said "I have space if you'd like to come back to my care" I had another child that I had been contemplating termination of care for so I figured I would just replace the tough child with this ex-family.

The family gave notice to their current provider and REstarted with me the following week. I still have the child in care today... they one of the best families I've ever had, termed and took back. ::

So I suppose anything is possible.... especially in this profession.

[KiwiKids]

I termed a family with a high needs infant because I was pregnant and knew that it would be too much for me to handle both babies along with three older preschoolers. I gave them three months of notice ( until my due date ) so they would have plenty of time to find a new daycare. Down the road when they needed care for that same child who was now a 2yr old, they came back and It worked out perfectly.

[Second Home]

I don't know of any terminated family that isn't slightly offended ...so I don't think any would come back.

I terminated 1 family because the older child became aggressive towards others . 2 years later dcm calls back and asks if I would watch the younger dck part time .

I said yes , then her schedule changed and they didn't stay .

[Controlled Chaos]

I termed a pair of twins that were here 2 days a week. I wanted to only do FT. I in reality still have 2 families that share a spot, but I had that hardest time finding 2 MWF families to fill in around the twins, I finally termed to make room for another family's infant and a new dcf. I know if the scheduling worked they would be happy to come back. The only other family I termed was due to them refusing vaccinating, if I changed my rule I know they would be back in a heartbeat. I fortunately have not had to term anyone for not following procedures or behavior...yet

[happymom]

Anyways, I made the decision that I wanted to be baby free so I termed the family. I gave them the names of several other providers that had openings so they found other care no problem.

About six months later I ran into the DCM in Target. We got to chatting and she started telling me how she was looking at other day cares because she just wasn't able to find anybody that she was really comfortable with.

Before I even knew what I was saying I said "I have space if you'd like to come back to my care" I had another child that I had been contemplating termination of care for so I figured I would just replace the tough child with this ex-family.

The family gave notice to their current provider and REstarted with me the following week. I still have the child in care today... they one of the best families I've ever had, termed and took back. ::

So I suppose anything is possible.... especially in this profession.

I wouldn't be shocked if my ex DCP did this for me. I left because I was having a baby a month after another DCM. She had committed to the other mom first and was unable to have both infants in her care.

Ultimately we ended up at a center and it meets our needs very well and we are happy, but if we were leaving the center and she had the space I think we'd absolutely be welcomed back with open arms. We love each other so much but I don't think we are a good fit anymore since she now transports children and I am not comfortable with my children being transported.

[Ariana]

If I'm to the point of terming, I definitely won't be asking them to come back!

[Unregistered]

No, because I don't term at the drop of the hat as it seems a lot here do. I would never term a good family. All of the families I termed we either manipulators and/or liars. A few have asked to be taken back and I say no.

[spud912]

I have one right now! I took a newborn despite advertising as a preschool. I loved the family and knew the older daughter would leave too if I couldn't take dcb. I quickly learned that it was not going to work out so I termed (while crying!). I actually became friends with dcm, took dcm during school breaks, and now have dcm AND the dcb temporarily over this summer. Dcb is 3 years old now. I wish we could keep him but dcm is pregnant with her 3rd and doesn't want to juggle her already long commute plus multiple child cares.