Liability Question

[Thriftylady]

Okay I have a liability question. It is more about DH though . I think it is because DH isn't home much, but when he is the kids flock to him. I have one little girl in particular who is 6 who loves him to death. But she will climb on him, sit on him, if he is sitting down she will climb up and sit on his shoulder. It bugs me because I worry that something could be said and DH could be in a real legal bind. DH would NEVER do anything to a child, but we all know you don't have to, you just have to be suspected. DH thinks I am overboard with my worries I think, but I can't help it.

So am I worrying to much and need to lay off, or does he and the kids need to knock this off? I am still very much in this needs to stop mode myself.

[Mike]

Hard to say because because I know of 3 cases of false accusations, but in all 3, the child was older. In 2 cases, everyone knew they were false, but they went through the courts, the guy got let off by the courts, but not by CAS. In the 3rd case, we're pretty certain it's false charges, but it is possible for it to be true, so he got 2 years jail. 1 year later his step-daughter dropped the charges and said she made it up. He got released from the jail, but not from CAS.

In all 3 cases, CAS said the accused was no longer allowed any contact with the supposed victim. In 1 case, it's his own son, and even his son wants his father back, but CAS says he's not allowed. The kids found out the hard way how much damage a false charge can do. In 2 of the cases, the man is even required to stay away from any place children might be, and he can never go with a woman who has children, or she would lose her children.

In Ontario, Canada, we have a well known saying that CAS is above the law. One false charge, and even if it's dropped before going to court, CAS says you can't have anything to do with children.

[spedmommy4]

The rational side of me knows that's likely completely harmless but, parents can be screwy. My oldest son went to a wonderful home daycare/preschool when he was little. It ended up being shut down because the woman's husband was falsely accused of doing something.

I was close to the providers family and watched the situation between the parent and provider build. The provider finally termed for non payment and the accusations flew. It was awful. She lost everything.

A similar situation to what you are describing happened when I owned my first daycare years ago. A school ager was way too affectionate with my husband and we enacted a "high fives only" rule. Her parents were my best/favorite clients but you just never know.