Former DCM Won't Give Address

[Unregistered]

I termed a dcf last week. Dcm has moved and won't give me her address for her refund (about $150). It's a recent move. She's hurt I termed, but I had good reason.

She asked me to give the money to her friend, who has a dcb who also attends here, but I told her I wasn't comfortable with that. Now silence for a few days...what to do?

[Mariahsaint]

I termed a dcf last week. Dcm has moved and won't give me her address for her refund (about $150). It's a recent move. She's hurt I termed, but I had good reason.

She asked me to give the money to her friend, who has a dcb who also attends here, but I told her I wasn't comfortable with that. Now silence for a few days...what to do?

It's perfectly reasonable to not want to pass off money to a random person and hope it gets to the proper recepient. Tell her that you need the address so you can mail it, or she needs to come and pick it up.

If she's refusing to do either, well then it's her loss. You gave her options.

If she were to go to bank for a withdrawal, they wouldn't give it to a friend and hope it gets to her.

[Unregistered]

It's perfectly reasonable to not want to pass off money to a random person and hope it gets to the proper recepient. Tell her that you need the address so you can mail it, or she needs to come and pick it up.

If she's refusing to do either, well then it's her loss. You gave her options.

If she were to go to bank for a withdrawal, they wouldn't give it to a friend and hope it gets to her.

I did give both of those options...just don't want her coming back and saying I didn't try...! This dcf, or ex-dcf, is super wealthy, so I'm sure it doesn't matter. I just don't want my name smeared over it.

[Mariahsaint]

I did give both of those options...just don't want her coming back and saying I didn't try...! This dcf, or ex-dcf, is super wealthy, so I'm sure it doesn't matter. I just don't want my name smeared over it.

Personally, I wouldn't worry about it. You gave both options and they are still available for her to take advantage of.

I'd just make sure I have it some form of writing be it e-mail or text. You really can't do much more than that.

I'm sorry they're being such a pain in the you-know-what.

[Thriftylady]

I wouldn't worry about it either! I would let her know that she needs to choose one of the two options you gave her, or she will forfeit the refund. And I would put a time limit on it.

[Mariahsaint]

I wouldn't worry about it either! I would let her know that she needs to choose one of the two options you gave her, or she will forfeit the refund. And I would put a time limit on it.

The time limit is a good idea. I wouldn't want dcm showing up two years from now demanding it!

[Heidi]

I would mail the check to her old address. If she forwarded her mail, she'll get it, cash it, and you'll have a cancelled check to prove you returned it.

If she didn't forward her mail, you'll get it back. Leave it in the envelope marked "return to sender", unopened, and put it in your files. After 6 months, the check will be stale dated and you can safely assume she's not wanting her refund.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would mail the check to her old address. If she forwarded her mail, she'll get it, cash it, and you'll have a cancelled check to prove you returned it.

If she didn't forward her mail, you'll get it back. Leave it in the envelope marked "return to sender", unopened, and put it in your files. After 6 months, the check will be stale dated and you can safely assume she's not wanting her refund.

Such great advice!

[CityGarden]

I would mail the check to her old address. If she forwarded her mail, she'll get it, cash it, and you'll have a cancelled check to prove you returned it.

If she didn't forward her mail, you'll get it back. Leave it in the envelope marked "return to sender", unopened, and put it in your files. After 6 months, the check will be stale dated and you can safely assume she's not wanting her refund.

this is what I would do.

[Thriftylady]

I would mail the check to her old address. If she forwarded her mail, she'll get it, cash it, and you'll have a cancelled check to prove you returned it.

If she didn't forward her mail, you'll get it back. Leave it in the envelope marked "return to sender", unopened, and put it in your files. After 6 months, the check will be stale dated and you can safely assume she's not wanting her refund.

If I did this, I would put a "void in X days" note on it.

[LysesKids]

If I did this, I would put a "void in X days" note on it.

Exactly... I don't want someone cashing a check 6 months later; Limit it to 30 days MAX, of course my contract states no prepaid fees are refundable for any reason (especially nice to have when a client is violent and I have to terminate immediately or they quit no notice)

[Thriftylady]

Exactly... I don't want someone cashing a check 6 months later; Limit it to 30 days MAX, of course my contract states no prepaid fees are refundable for any reason (especially nice to have when a client is violent and I have to terminate immediately or they quit no notice)

Mine also says that, but I can see some situations where I may refund, entirely up to me of course.

[Unregistered]

OP here, great advice everyone, thanks!

[MyAngels]

If I did this, I would put a "void in X days" note on it.

Even if you were to put that notation on the check, the bank doesn't have to honor it. The only way to be sure the check won't be cashed eventually is to put a stop payment on it.

[Thriftylady]

Even if you were to put that notation on the check, the bank doesn't have to honor it. The only way to be sure the check won't be cashed eventually is to put a stop payment on it.

Well they may not have to honor it, but it would be a deterrent.