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  • Unregistered
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    Gangster Dancing

    Hi, I need your help
    I have this 5 year old african american boy that likes to gangster dance. What I mean by that is throwing gang signs up and like dance similar to a gang member walking around most of the day doing this. (big strides and arms outstretched)
    And he talks like this too.. but no cussing or anything
    Would you discourage this?
    Or do you think it's an important part of his heritage?
    Some of the other kids are picking this up and some of the snooty parents are getting upset by it
    advice?
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    • Blackcat31
      • Oct 2010
      • 36124
      #2
      Originally posted by Unregistered
      Hi, I need your help
      I have this 5 year old african american boy that likes to gangster dance. What I mean by that is throwing gang signs up and like dance similar to a gang member walking around most of the day doing this. (big strides and arms outstretched)
      And he talks like this too.. but no cussing or anything
      Would you discourage this?
      Or do you think it's an important part of his heritage?
      Some of the other kids are picking this up and some of the snooty parents are getting upset by it
      advice?
      Any behavior that you feel is unacceptable in your program should be discouraged.

      I'd refrain from using words like "snooty" etc though while trying to make your point with parents.
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        • TwinMama
          Daycare.com Member
          • Nov 2014
          • 343
          #3
          Acting like a gangster is not a heritage.

          When kids have certain mannerisms that might be accepted in their own home but not in mine I say, "No Billy. We don't do that here. We speak so people can understand."

          Then if he starts using slang or not speaking properly you say...I'm sorry I don't understand that. We don't speak that way here. This is your rule and he needs to follow it.

          It's no different than a kid that picks his nose or I use the example of parents being big hunters. I have a family that is super big into hunting, but we don't talk about killing animals or guns here. That's for at home. You're not changing him, your setting boundaries and letting him know what your expectations are. You're creating a certain environment and that's not it.

          I also have parents that are super into wrestling. I had to put the kibosh on that. We don't wrestle or rough house here. That's for at home.
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            • Ariana
              Advanced Daycare.com Member
              • Jun 2011
              • 8969
              #4
              Gangs are not a part of black heritage so definitely don't encourage it based on that false premise. If it were me I would talk to him about it and ask him why he acts like that. Not in an accusatory way but just to understand. It is likely being heavily influenced at home and it is how he sees males acting in his house and on tv. I wouldn't do anything about it to be honest because he is not being disrespectful or cussing so what is the harm?

              If you have an issue with it then definitely ask him to stop.
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                • Unregistered
                  #5
                  We have two little boys (from different ethnicity) that do that too but it has nothing to do with heritage! And I would avoid that term when speaking with the parents, because is a bit offensive. Our little boys can only do this during dance & music class (but they also do ballet, hip hop and more!), is a fun pretend game for them (they must see it on Music video or on TV).

                  I would simply reinforce good manners and take this "attitude" as a pretend "role/game" he can use while you have music on.So that he still feel like he can express himself but with certain boundaries.

                  It definitely something I wouldn't encourage during the rest of the day.
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                    • Unregistered
                      #6
                      wow Thank you so much, this really helps me
                      great advice
                      It seems to be very noticeable after a weekend with dad
                      Ok, I think I will just have a time when we do our dancing he can express himself
                      thanks guys
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                        • daycarediva
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                          • Jul 2012
                          • 11698
                          #7
                          I had a 2yo dcb say "What's up my n-word?" to my then 3yo son. That was when I put the brakes on it. He could DANCE though!

                          If it isn't appropriate behavior, stop him, correct him, 'that's for home, not school.'
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                            • EntropyControlSpecialist
                              Embracing the chaos.
                              • Mar 2012
                              • 7466
                              #8
                              Originally posted by daycarediva
                              I had a 2yo dcb say "What's up my n-word?" to my then 3yo son. That was when I put the brakes on it. He could DANCE though!

                              If it isn't appropriate behavior, stop him, correct him, 'that's for home, not school.'
                              I do this often with certain dances, poses, sayings, etc. since I'm a Christian program.
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