How to Give a Final Warning

[Ariana]

Actually we are told to recommend being evaluated if the child is not standing unassisted (NOT walking but standing) by 12 months.

NOT walking until 16-18 months MAY fall into the normal range but I think the thinking is that IF early intervention is needed, the earlier the better so NOT standing unassisted by 13 months would be a flag for me.

Like I said, NOT that anything is wrong or not normal...but just so that it can be monitored and watched just in case.

I think we have very different standards for this stuff in Canada. I have noticed we have strictor standards for language than you guys do as well. In my child development textbook 15 months is average for standing unassisted for example.

[Blackcat31]

I think we have very different standards for this stuff in Canada. I have noticed we have strictor standards for language than you guys do as well. In my child development textbook 15 months is average for standing unassisted for example.

....and it probably is by most developmental charts (both US and Canada) but Ive noticed the more QRIS/star rating programs get involved with early childhood "development" the more things are viewed as possible red flags.. You know, the more kids needing intervention the more money/funding involved..

[Ariana]

....and it probably is by most developmental charts (both US and Canada) but Ive noticed the more QRIS/star rating programs get involved with early childhood "development" the more things are viewed as possible red flags.. You know, the more kids needing intervention the more money/funding involved..

Absolutely! I am not licensed so don't have to follow those types of guidelines thankfully but yeah I totally get it. Seems insane to me to be worried about this at 13 months without any other developmental issues. I would be worried if this was coupled with a few other things for sure.

[Mom2Two]

They aren't going to fix anything.

Parents parent in ways and styles that work for them.

It's nearly impossible to "fix" what they are/aren't doing at home and certainly not in a few short weeks.

If the child is not adjusting and you've reached your limit, just give notice. He needs a different environment.

Nothing wrong with that. There's a right and wrong fit for everyone.

ITA

It didn't sound quite right to be using the term "fix" for stuff that may just be the way that particular 13 month old is. Either you are willing and able to do it or not.

I think quite a few young children are kinda high needs. For me, I may simply charge more in the future for kids that aren't walking yet.

[Nurse Jackie]

They aren't going to fix anything.

Parents parent in ways and styles that work for them.

It's nearly impossible to "fix" what they are/aren't doing at home and certainly not in a few short weeks.

If the child is not adjusting and you've reached your limit, just give notice. He needs a different environment.

Nothing wrong with that. There's a right and wrong fit for everyone.

[Unregistered]

Original poster

Thank you for all the responses. As far as the development goes, the child is not able to stand unassisted at all for any amount of time. I was advised to encourage the parents to contact the early intervention services since the child is not standing. The moms response is oh "A" is just lazy but can stand, walk and talk. I havent seen the child do any of those things. Mom mentioned "A" is just a big cry baby as well, when I mentioned that we need to help the child be more independent and cry less during the day. This child is big for the age and is in 24 month clothes. Sometimes the mom will say "A" is so fat and cute I can't help but hold "A" all day . I don't think the parents will change much since it hasn't changed in 3 months although I was hopeful that the child would adjust and it would all balance out. I know it's time to term though because it's affecting the rest of the kids, when nap time is interrupted or an outing is cut short because "A" is not able to settle down once the crying begins. I will post back once I have spoken to the parents again. The child is on vacation again until Tuesday so I can already see how next week will be. I just think it's so unfair to the child and don't think that group care is the right fit.

[daycarediva]

They aren't going to fix anything.

Parents parent in ways and styles that work for them.

It's nearly impossible to "fix" what they are/aren't doing at home and certainly not in a few short weeks.

If the child is not adjusting and you've reached your limit, just give notice. He needs a different environment.

Nothing wrong with that. There's a right and wrong fit for everyone.

Hand them a termination notice with whatever time frame you are contractually obligated to give.

Actually we are told to recommend being evaluated if the child is not standing unassisted (NOT walking but standing) by 12 months.

NOT walking until 16-18 months MAY fall into the normal range but I think the thinking is that IF early intervention is needed, the earlier the better so NOT standing unassisted by 13 months would be a flag for me.

Like I said, NOT that anything is wrong or not normal...but just so that it can be monitored and watched just in case.

My own ds didn't walk until he was 15 months. He was standing and walking on furniture though, and our pediatrician was still referring us to EI.

It IS normal to not walk until that age, but it is at the absolute latest range of normal and that's when we need to think ahead about the potential for referral.