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So I've had these same two daycare kids since I opened almost two years ago. They are now 21 months. They started around 3 months. They were good infants. Dcg had a few feeding issues but they resolved on their own. Dcb was a great infant but once he hit a year he became a whiny defiant child. Neither have ever been cuddly with me or lap sitters. They pretty much ignore me all day and wander around. They are both an only child so they are used to undivided attention at home. Dcb's mom has told me he was never a cuddler and doesn't really play with toys at home (which she said is normal to her because she doesn't know anything different). Mom has said he never whines at home. Any slight adjustment or touch from me or another child makes them both cry or whine and it lasts several minutes. I feel like I haven't made a connection or bond with either of them and feel they would be better suited for a nanny or a center where they can be in a room with kids of their own age only. My question is how do you explain to a parent that you think their child is bored and has been in your care too long and would be better suited elsewhere? Anyone ever have to do this?
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I have only been open just under a year and one thing I've learned is parents lie. If he's whining all day there chances are he whines at home. That not being so honest happens to me all the time. Mom drops off I bring up an issue to mom mom gives one answer. Dad picks up brings up the same issue with dad dad gives a totally different answer from mom which verifies what I thought. Moms lying! I totally understand you not wanting to deal with the whining all day. It could be a headache especially if other kids start copying their behavior. Best of luck! -
I've thought of that and also wondered if my definition of whining is different from mom's. I think parents give him what he wants when he wants it so he has no opportunity to whine either. Thanks for your reply. He's gone for a week and a half starting tomorrow so we shall see how he is upon return.Comment
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Tbh, I wouldn't expect cuddles until they get a little older. Kids this age want to explore and being held, to them, is like being restrained, even with the best of intentions.
Dcm's always say how their little one doesn't want to cuddle anymore and I assure them that it will happen again, when they 'settle down.' My ds has become a cuddler again at about 2.5 and once he could get on and off the couch on his own, would sit and relax, look at a book, etc.
It's ok if you don't bond with these children, not every one you'll have a connection with. You're there to meet their needs and care for them while mom and dad are away. Not to say you aren't interacting with them, but do you have toys that spark their interest or that they have a curiosity about? Mega blocks, shape sorters, puzzles(age appropriate), cars(anything with wheels), instruments like drums or shakers. They are also at an age where they haven't grasped the concept of playing together and this development is still a long way off. You could even start to get them to scribble with crayons and paper. Just some ideas as this is what my tots like.Comment
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I get out a variety of toys and they have access to toys all day. I'll play on the floor with all the kids but those two really won't join in. Off doing something else and barely acknowledge me. This dcb is done may 31. Just found out yesterday he's switching to a center. The dcg will color but the dcb doesn't really enjoy it or really know how to very well. Anyways thanks for suggestions. In a few weeks he won't be mine to deal with anymore.Comment
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Don't worry. I'm ignored too! Every time I get down to play, they scatter or I become a human jungle gym. It used to bother me now it doesn't. :hug:Comment
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