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  • lovemydaycare0912
    Daycare.com Member
    • Oct 2015
    • 756

    Termed Parent Complained and I Got a Visit...

    ...But too bad for them. Remember the termed family who made false accusations to me about not feeding their child? Yeah, they called my state licensing a whole month and then some later to complain.

    The state came today, saw all my paperwork and documentation and closed the case. She saw how efficient I was and knew the parent was just upset and trying to get back at me.

    Definitely DOCUMENT EVERYTHINGGGGGG even if your parents get mad. Had I not had that, it could have gone differently. It's very sad parents can be so spiteful, but God was on my side today. I am glad I do things right so I have nothing to be worried about.
  • Thriftylady
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2014
    • 5884

    #2
    Originally posted by lovemydaycare0912
    ...But too bad for them. Remember the termed family who made false accusations to me about not feeding their child? Yeah, they called my state licensing a whole month and then some later to complain.

    The state came today, saw all my paperwork and documentation and closed the case. She saw how efficient I was and knew the parent was just upset and trying to get back at me.

    Definitely DOCUMENT EVERYTHINGGGGGG even if your parents get mad. Had I not had that, it could have gone differently. It's very sad parents can be so spiteful, but God was on my side today. I am glad I do things right so I have nothing to be worried about.
    It is so sad, but we have to write down every little thing. Late payments? Better write it down. Non-payment? Better write it down. Every.Little.Thing. I hate it, but I digress. Sorry you had to deal with the visit though. Even though there was nothing to it, there was time out of your day and stress.

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    • lovemydaycare0912
      Daycare.com Member
      • Oct 2015
      • 756

      #3
      Thank you. I'm actually kind of happy. The parent will find out I am still running. See everything was washed away, and she did it all for nothing. There's always a storm before the calm. I know the saying goes the other way, but you need rain in order for your seeds to grow.

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      • yodaone
        Daycare.com Member
        • Dec 2014
        • 71

        #4
        I'm just curious what did you use for documentation?

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        • lovemydaycare0912
          Daycare.com Member
          • Oct 2015
          • 756

          #5
          Originally posted by yodaone
          I'm just curious what did you use for documentation?
          Everything. I showed e-mails and texts between parent and I. I had my sign/in out attendance sheets where parents document what time child enters daycare, and what time child leaves daycare. I had my contract, a copy of the handbook the parent had, and copies of any letters(memos) sent home. All copies of addendum that the parent signed I also had. Copies of the daily reports I give each parent daily.

          Also, being that the parent made a false accusation but kept her child here an extra 7 days and it probably would have been longer had I not termed. On top of that, she did not make the complaint until over a month after her child's last day in care.

          All of that, including what I had in writing, and my verbal side of the story, the licensor knew she did it out of spite. Some parents are "good people," but when they get a no and feel like they've lost all control, they turn on you so quick. It's a lesson learned in my books.

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          • Thriftylady
            Daycare.com Member
            • Aug 2014
            • 5884

            #6
            Originally posted by lovemydaycare0912
            Everything. I showed e-mails and texts between parent and I. I had my sign/in out attendance sheets where parents document what time child enters daycare, and what time child leaves daycare. I had my contract, a copy of the handbook the parent had, and copies of any letters(memos) sent home. All copies of addendum that the parent signed I also had. Copies of the daily reports I give each parent daily.

            Also, being that the parent made a false accusation but kept her child here an extra 7 days and it probably would have been longer had I not termed. On top of that, she did not make the complaint until over a month after her child's last day in care.

            All of that, including what I had in writing, and my verbal side of the story, the licensor knew she did it out of spite. Some parents are "good people," but when they get a no and feel like they've lost all control, they turn on you so quick. It's a lesson learned in my books.
            That is so true, some people just can't handle no.

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            • Alwaysgreener
              Home Child Care Provider
              • Oct 2013
              • 2519

              #7
              The hard part is you think they are a good family so you don't take notes and then it happens. I let my case worker know that a good family left unhappy. I heard through the grapevine that DCM was going to report me. I never heard a thing from my case worker on it.

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              • DaveA
                Daycare.com Member and Bladesmith
                • Jul 2014
                • 4245

                #8
                Been there done that. Glad it was at least quick for you. Is stunning how small some people can be.

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                • lovemydaycare0912
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Oct 2015
                  • 756

                  #9
                  Originally posted by 284878
                  The hard part is you think they are a good family so you don't take notes and then it happens. I let my case worker know that a good family left unhappy. I heard through the grapevine that DCM was going to report me. I never heard a thing from my case worker on it.
                  Well I knew they were a good family as in they didn't beat their child. However, I knew they wanted nanny care for the price of group care. Upset at every new policy, etc. She's some big boss of a company so when she couldn't control me it went south. Glad you didn't have to deal with that.

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                  • lovemydaycare0912
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Oct 2015
                    • 756

                    #10
                    Originally posted by DaveA
                    Been there done that. Glad it was at least quick for you. Is stunning how small some people can be.
                    I am sorry you had to deal with this as well. It is the reason why I do no more special for any family. My motto is, you either like it, or leave. I can replace you. Sounds tough, but I do NOT want another situation like that if I can try to prevent it.

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                    • AmyKidsCo
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Mar 2013
                      • 3786

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Thriftylady
                      It is so sad, but we have to write down every little thing. Late payments? Better write it down. Non-payment? Better write it down. Every.Little.Thing. I hate it, but I digress. Sorry you had to deal with the visit though. Even though there was nothing to it, there was time out of your day and stress.
                      No kidding. I was once told to document drop-off and pick-up conversations, especially any dealing with child development issues, payments, policies, injuries, etc. But who has time for that?!

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                      • lovemydaycare0912
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Oct 2015
                        • 756

                        #12
                        Originally posted by AmyKidsCo
                        No kidding. I was once told to document drop-off and pick-up conversations, especially any dealing with child development issues, payments, policies, injuries, etc. But who has time for that?!
                        I know. I feel like I need a composition book or something, but it's just so sad. I am trying to do better with my interviews to weed the crazies out but sometimes you don't know until the end.

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                        • Blackcat31
                          • Oct 2010
                          • 36124

                          #13
                          Originally posted by AmyKidsCo
                          No kidding. I was once told to document drop-off and pick-up conversations, especially any dealing with child development issues, payments, policies, injuries, etc. But who has time for that?!
                          I have video cameras inside in every room covering every angle.

                          The entire system records sound too.

                          Documentation has never been so easy.

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                          • Baby Beluga
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Aug 2014
                            • 3891

                            #14
                            Originally posted by AmyKidsCo
                            No kidding. I was once told to document drop-off and pick-up conversations, especially any dealing with child development issues, payments, policies, injuries, etc. But who has time for that?!
                            If I have a problem parent, or know I am going to have a discussion on behavior, payments, etc I record the conversation on my phone then save it on my computer. I have also started recording interviews. I put my phone on record and pop it in my pants pocket. That way if a parent lies about something important and I have to term over it I have proof they were dishonest from the beginning.

                            ETA: before recording, check the laws in your state. My state has a "one party consent law."

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                            • grandmom
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Mar 2010
                              • 766

                              #15
                              Originally posted by Blackcat31
                              I have video cameras inside in every room covering every angle.

                              The entire system records sound too.

                              Documentation has never been so easy.
                              Blackcat! What system do you have? I'm especially interested.

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