DCD Rubbed Me The Wrong Way At Pick Up Today...

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I may be wrong, but I think she was saying since supervised nap is a regulation, it wouldn't be 'special' to have the pnp in the room with everyone else. It would be the only way to supervise all children.

Oh boy, I need to get some more coffee! My brain is not working yet it seems Thank you for clarifying!

[Ariana]

I would have zero issue with a parent watching me sleep train and I assume these cameras have no sound? I will gladly show them how to be a good parent by showing their child that they can soothe themselves to sleep . If the parent is not comfortable with me sleep training then that parent is not a right fit for my program period. If the parent is ok with it, I would simply go over what I do so if they want to tune in to see the show they know what I am doing . I will also make sure to tell them that if they tune in they will be sure to see lots of crying which is part of the training as kids hate change in routine.

Confidence is KEY to dealing with these types of parent. There is reason they are not taking the lead with their child, they have no confidence in themselves as parents so you need to be their parent if you know what I mean. Someone needs to take the lead. They will thank you for it in the end.

[Blackcat31]

Its a regulation that parents can supervise naptime?

If OP offers cameras, then I don't think dad is asking anything out of the ordinary for what he has been promised by the provider, but I do think, especially if they have never sleep trained, he will have major issues watching you sleep train the kid through a video feed. I would be very wary of that

I read the OP's situation as if the parents DID and DO have their child sleep trained to a PNP in their bedroom.

Its the previous provider that "trained" or allowed him to sleep in the swing and/or car seat.

OP never said but I wonder if that is why the parents switched daycares?

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I guess you cant really fit a whole weeks story into a single post, haha!

DCB sleeps in crib at home in parents room. Just fine, they say. Here he does not want to be in the pack N play, I am guessing because his last provider had him since 10 weeks and always used his car seat or swing, so thats what parents said to do here. So, I guess it really isnt sleep training him if thats how he sleeps at home..its just sleep training him for my house, if that makes sense.

As far as terming..I am not bonding w this baby at all. My other 9m old I was in love with since day 1. I also don't feel like the parents and I really mesh (besides DCDs comment). It just doesn't feel right. I dont fill myself to the max with kids but I do have a waiting list for my 4th spot (new DCBs spot) so I feel if it doesnt feel like a good fit, why not term when I have the chance to end it without hard feelings?

I read the OP's situation as if the parents DID and DO have their child sleep trained to a PNP in their bedroom.

Its the previous provider that "trained" or allowed him to sleep in the swing and/or car seat.

OP never said but I wonder if that is why the parents switched daycares?

Ya I was kind of confused by that too, but it sounds like there will be a little bit of training to get him used to the PNP at her house, but if the parents are being truthful about his sleeping at home, then hopefully it won't be too tough to get him to sleep at her house.

I guess I am just confused because the parents say he sleeps in a crib at their house, a swing/carseat at the old providers house, and the OP said the parents wanted her to continue that, but then got upset seeing him in his carseat:confused: I guess it just seems like it would be easier to keep his sleep routine the same as it is at home...in a crib/pnp. The old provider may have made that transition a little harder by using the swing and stuff, but if he is capable of sleeping in a crib at home, he should be able to do it at daycare and I kind of wonder why the parents didn't want that from the get go. Unless I am missing something, which is super possible as my coffee is not nearly strong enough for me this morning

[Blackcat31]

Ya I was kind of confused by that too, but it sounds like there will be a little bit of training to get him used to the PNP at her house, but if the parents are being truthful about his sleeping at home, then hopefully it won't be too tough to get him to sleep at her house.

I guess I am just confused because the parents say he sleeps in a crib at their house, a swing/carseat at the old providers house, and the OP said the parents wanted her to continue that, but then got upset seeing him in his carseat:confused: I guess it just seems like it would be easier to keep his sleep routine the same as it is at home...in a crib/pnp. The old provider may have made that transition a little harder by using the swing and stuff, but if he is capable of sleeping in a crib at home, he should be able to do it at daycare and I kind of wonder why the parents didn't want that from the get go. Unless I am missing something, which is super possible as my coffee is not nearly strong enough for me this morning

Yeah, the whole thread is confusing. ::
Too much information that seems to be either mis-interpreted or relayed oddly to readers. :confused:

After continuing discussing it with DCD, he suggested putting the pack N play in our playroom because DCB isn't used to sleeping in a room alone. I have a fairly small house where the pack N plays/cribs are in a seperate bedroom so that thise sleeping are able to do so peacefully. I am all about the transition and making him comfortable but good lord...it really really rubbed me bad. I'm also PMSing so who knows ::

I guess you cant really fit a whole weeks story into a single post, haha!

DCB sleeps in crib at home in parents room. Just fine, they say. Here he does not want to be in the pack N play, I am guessing because his last provider had him since 10 weeks and always used his car seat or swing, so thats what parents said to do here. So, I guess it really isnt sleep training him if thats how he sleeps at home..its just sleep training him for my house, if that makes sense.

As far as terming..I am not bonding w this baby at all. My other 9m old I was in love with since day 1. I also don't feel like the parents and I really mesh (besides DCDs comment). It just doesn't feel right. I dont fill myself to the max with kids but I do have a waiting list for my 4th spot (new DCBs spot) so I feel if it doesnt feel like a good fit, why not term when I have the chance to end it without hard feelings?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I am a provider but as a parent I would take the camera access as an invitation to monitor, imo

I have a friend enrolled in a daycare with a camera system. She videos the video system and posts it on Facebook (don't get me started...I already know...) and also takes screenshots.

There is absolutely zero chance I would ever permit parents to have access to a camera. YIKES.

So sorry for so much anxiety being caused by one family.