For Those That Put a Star On the Calendar?

[sahm1225]

What do you tell families? Do you put it for 2 weeks or 30 days later?

I've been thinking about this one for about a month now and I think I'm done

[Blackcat31]

What do you tell families? Do you put it for 2 weeks or 30 days later?

I've been thinking about this one for about a month now and I think I'm done

Sometimes when you know, you just know.

A star isn't always necessary.

For me, I use the star on the calendar when I feel like I can't separate the issue from my emotions and then I sometimes go with 30 days and sometimes I go with two weeks...it's strictly dependent on the issue Im stuggling with and whether or not I truly feel things have the possibiliy of changing (ie getting better).

If I KNOW there is no room for improvement or if I just want to be done, then be done. It's okay.

[Cat Herder]

I always do 30 days because it is how I plan my finances. Auto pay, auto save. "Is this problem worth $650 a month to me?" Nothing deeper than that. ::

If you are DONE and can afford it, letting it go another day is just opening yourself up to more stress. You make the final call. No worries.

With 100% kid issues the 30 days can also give the kid a chance to improve, but only you know what you can take.

[childcaremom]

The star isn't really anything I discuss with parents. I do discuss the issues with parents and make changes on my end. The star is there as a reminder to check in with myself: "Hey, you've been trying to fix this for a long time. You've done everything you can think of. Is this getting better? Is there an improvement?"

If my response to that self-query is a no, then I give 2 weeks' notice.

But like the pps said, I will differ on how much effort/time I will give to see things improve and that depends on a lot of factors. And generally, if I feel like I'm done, I'm done.

:hug:

[sahm1225]

I posted an ad saying we have a spot opening in the fall.

It's a sibling group and the oldest is leaving in the fall. Youngest has many behavioral issues and I'm beginning to get the impression that parents are in denial and causing a lot of the issues.