How Do You Deal With Crying?

[DBug]

Yeah, I totally get what everyone's saying about walking away, diffusing the situation, etc. But am I the only one who still gets stressed out by the crying and fit-throwing?

Even if I'm dealing with the child by the book, when I walk away the tension doesn't go away ... so I end up grabbing a handful of chocolate chips or a cookie since that seems to make me feel better. Does anybody else do anything like that?

And more to the point, does anybody have a better way of dealing with the stress (immediately, not later on in the day ... although a foot rub from hubby does wonders at the end of the day!).

[lil angels]

I ignore it to. If they don't stop either they go in a time out or a pnp. They normally get really quiet.

[DBug]

As far as the stress eating - you've already started to correct it by identifying the problem and what triggers it. I used to be the same way, but as soon as I recognize the triggers I stop, sit down, close my eyes, take deep breaths, rub my temples, and remind myself that I'm not doing anyone any good by going for that donut.

I'm glad I'm not the only one . Since naptime is rapidly coming to a close, I'll be able to try this method very soon ... thank you for the ideas!!

[E Daycare]

But am I the only one who still gets stressed out by the crying and fit-throwing?

Nope! One of my dck crying INSTANTLY makes my heart race and I bet my blood pressure rockets up because I get real warm and clench my teeth. I walk away but I really need a hole in the ground in the neighbors yard to go to as the cry (to me) is so loud and awful my eyes cross.

I feel you.

[Michelle]

omg you are too funny!

[lvt77]

oh yes the fun part about our job...the crying fits..

when a child is throwing a fit, i tell them: I can see you are very upset about something and that is ok to be mad or sad about something, however screaming and throwing yourself onthe floor or _____________ is not ok. If you would like to scream and throw yourself on the floor then you need to go to the other room (its a room where I can see them . it has soft floor mats and pillows) After putting them in a safe place to get it all out, i walk away.

I do not return to them until they stop. If after 25 minutes they do not stop, mom and dad get a call warning them that if it continues they will need to pick up the child. after 45 min they go home. I dont deal wtih forced screaming or crying. I think that the only thing you can do is walk away from it for your own sanity.... I ask parents to also ignor the fits....
Then at 7pm get those glasses out baby....lmao

[My Daycare]

Looks like you already know how to react to the child and it sounds like your doing great.

As far as the eating, maybe find some other, more positive thing to do. I'll try to brainstorm...gum, water, coffee (not too much coffee). Maybe calf(sp?) raises, stand on tip toes over and over until you can't stand it anymore; one or 2 feet at a time. I really don't know.

There has got to be something on the internet about it. Now I'm curious.