Binkies

[Blackcat31]

Thats a new one on me... I stay in the same room my babies sleep in & I am required to check breathing a minimum of every 15 minutes. Unless you provide scientific proof... I disagree with your use

"Pacifiers aren't just for soothing colicky babies anymore. A new study has found that use of a pacifier during sleep reduced the chances of a baby suffering from sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) by 90 percent."

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/pacifier-greatly-reduces/

[LysesKids]

We are encouraged to have infants under 1 year old use pacifiers because it may reduce the risk of suid.

Thats a new one on me... I stay in the same room my babies sleep in & I am required to check breathing a minimum of every 15 minutes. Unless you provide scientific proof... I disagree with your use; BTW, 99% of my babies are breast fed & refuse a pacifier

[Annalee]

I have heard that about the paci, too.

[LysesKids]

I have heard that about the paci, too.

I looked it up... it says if a baby is BF and refuses, not to force it... most my babies refuse and all except the one is BF; Not one infant needs it here for nap or otherwise. The one parent that does force it, is for a Bottle fed, formula kid that they want to keep quiet during a car ride to & from care. The Paci disappears before he comes in the door

[Unregistered]

I can't offer you "proof" but it has been in our mandatory training for several years.
We don't force them to use a paci (like that would work!) But we are encouraged to offer them.
All of mine in the last 20 yrs have been BF also, and I also check at least every 15 minutes.
Not trying for an argument, just sharing information that has been provided to us in training.

[Unregistered]

I NEVER said that we are supposed to force pacifier use.

[Annalee]

I looked it up... it says if a baby is BF and refuses, not to force it... most my babies refuse and all except the one is BF; Not one infant needs it here for nap or otherwise. The one parent that does force it, is for a Bottle fed, formula kid that they want to keep quiet during a car ride. the Paci disappears before he comes in the door

I didn't say anything about forcing just that a paci may help in the prevention of SIDS. I was also told in the same training that running a fan also helped prevent SIDS with the the circulating of air near the child. Not the fan blowing at the child but placed so the air circulated well.

[Annalee]

I have two bf babies now and both take a paci.

[LysesKids]

I have two bf babies now and both take a paci.

16 years down the line & only 2 of my BF babies took binkies... heck even my own children didn't use them. I do use a fan during warm weather also... the babies love it. As a license exempt childcare I don't go thru as much training here in TN (I do take some thru the Food program & on my own), but I also rely on my almost 35 years of parenting and grand parenting experience and the previous trainings when I was a licensed childcare home... things change constantly so nobody will be up to date on everything regardless of training

[Cat Herder]

The new SUIDS research is based on belly sleeping infants.

Yes, it is better than sleeping a newborn on their belly without a binky.

A DIY nasopharyngeal airway kit would make it even safer.

Both are options I would pass on.

[Indoorvoice]

I don't recommend things to parents anymore unless they specifically ask me because they don't listen much. They are going to continue doing what works for them and I will do here what works for me. If the pacifier was causing me issues in my daycare, I would work on it with him on my own before bringing it up to the parents. But if he was coming in and willingly giving it up, I would try not to let it bother me. Now things like speech issues, I do bring up gently, but I don't ever make suggestions on what I think is causing it. Imo, our job is to bring up things like that we notice because we spend the majority of time with them, but it is not our job to diagnose or make recommendations. That is the parents job to seek out a professional.

[Nothankyou]

If it's not an issue I don't take it. The SECOND I notice it's an issue in care i.e. throwing it out of their mouth playing with it on their cot or not wanting to give it up after nap I tell parents it will no longer be allowed to come to care. Personally my daughter had one until 15 months she started to throw it off her cot and then it was gone. I've had a 2 year old girl who ONLY used it at nap never took it out and handed it to me when nap was over so I never had a problem with it. Fast forward 18 month old girl who still uses one becoming a problem wants to toss it spin it so as of Monday it will not be returning to my care. Every kid is different. As far as what I require at home I literally just tell parents "Pacifier will be ended XXX date and not be returning to care for XXX reason (impeding nap, sanitation requirenments ect." if parents want to take it at home great if not the kid will adjust....if the kid doesn't adjust I just tell parents failure to adjust will result in termination but unless it's a problem here I don't care what they do at home.

[JackandJill]

I don't recommend things to parents anymore unless they specifically ask me because they don't listen much. They are going to continue doing what works for them and I will do here what works for me. If the pacifier was causing me issues in my daycare, I would work on it with him on my own before bringing it up to the parents. But if he was coming in and willingly giving it up, I would try not to let it bother me. Now things like speech issues, I do bring up gently, but I don't ever make suggestions on what I think is causing it. Imo, our job is to bring up things like that we notice because we spend the majority of time with them, but it is not our job to diagnose or make recommendations. That is the parents job to seek out a professional.

I have mentioned my concern about his delay and left it at that, def didn't give reasons or opinions as to the cause.

I don't know why it bugs me. I suppose because I know this little guy gets shipped off to grams on the weekend, and is plopped in front of the TV or iPad at night, and is in bed as soon as humanly possible during the week. I guess it just annoys me. I see it as her trying to keep him quiet as opposed to asking him how is day was and encouraging him to speak.

But I see what a lot of you are saying. I will probably just keep my thoughts to myself about it, since he is a doll while he is here!

[MunchkinWrangler]

Pacifier use during infancy while sleeping keeps them from going into too deep a sleep. It has been proven to help with SUIDS, not all but some. It also keeps the air passages open.

I, personally, have nothing against the use of a pacifier. I actually recommend it for sleep. I've had some babies need blankets over their heads to sleep, I have no idea why I've seen this trend and the parents are ok with it. Obviously I refuse to allow it in my home. A pacifier is a safer option compared to being swaddled past a certain age, which I also have found is a trend, to other obvious things I can't do like holding and rocking to sleep. However, I discourage use while awake for older infants and toddlers because of health and safety.
Every child has their "vice" or "security blanket", I don't think having a special blankie, stuffed animal, nook, etc causes any harm to development and such. Case and point, we all survived. I personally was a bottle baby, I didn't go to kindy with one or even preschool. My son has a nookie, he's 2 1/2 he likes it to sleep and when he gets overwhelmed or anxious. To each their own.

[Indoorvoice]

I have mentioned my concern about his delay and left it at that, def didn't give reasons or opinions as to the cause.

I don't know why it bugs me. I suppose because I know this little guy gets shipped off to grams on the weekend, and is plopped in front of the TV or iPad at night, and is in bed as soon as humanly possible during the week. I guess it just annoys me. I see it as her trying to keep him quiet as opposed to asking him how is day was and encouraging him to speak.

But I see what a lot of you are saying. I will probably just keep my thoughts to myself about it, since he is a doll while he is here!

Oh I totally get it! I have one here who sticks her thumb in her mouth and starts playing with mom's hair as soon as mom picks up. It bugs the crap out of me because I know she is overly babied and it's a personal pet peeve of mine. I would love to tell mom my true thoughts. It's hard when you put a lot of time into a child and then see the parent completely screwing up what you worked on. I've just learned that for me in particular, parents do not see me as the expert, and if I do offer suggestions that they become resentful. So it's been easier for me just to accept that they will ask me if they actually want advice. I think you are right to be concerned, I just wanted to share that I've learned from this forum to be picky about what I let bother me. :hug: