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I'm at my wit's end. This boy (14 mos) is SO attached to his huge blanket that he won't even eat without it. In fact, he doesn't do much eating, he just sits there clutching the blanket in front of him, usually on his plate of food or threatening to knock the plate on the floor.
Taking the blanket away results in a screaming, hysterical, thrashing fit during which he almost falls out of his seat and onto his head. I've tried leaving the blanket where he can see it, putting it where he can't see it, and reassuring him that he'll get it when he's done...nope. Tucking it behind him so he knows it's there, he drags it all in front of him and snuggles it instead of eating.
Picking him up to come to the table when he's already separated from the blanket results in the same things.
Telling him that it's time to eat and letting him come in his own time results in him never coming to the table--he'd rather hold the blanket.
Sneaking the blanket away when he's not looking and across the room playing happily results in hysterical crying when he can't find it (usually happens within a minute or two).
His mom has mentioned the problem, too, of him not being able to eat without it, and mentioned that they have the same rule about no blanket at the table. I haven't asked her yet how and when he eats or how he behaves without it.
I outright don't care what they do at home, though. I'm done. Absolutely done with the blanket. Totally at my wits end with the hysterics and the thrashing and the not eating. Tried to feed the kids, he was thrashing and screaming, DD was nagging me, and I yelled at them all so bad that my throat hurts and my DD got so upset she thought she was going to throw up. I feel awful about reacting like that but I am so over this behavior.
Right now I have tossed the blanket up onto a closet shelf, behind a closed door, and I'm seriously considering not even giving it back at naptime. He cried hysterically for ten or fifteen minutes and has finally settled down and is watching the other kids play, and starting to play himself. Sort of...he's crying again now.
PLEASE...tell me that this will work eventually (taking his blanket away cold turkey while at daycare), or tell me a better way to do it, or at least tell me that I'm right to be composing a "no lovies, period" clause to add to my contract along with the sibiling and extended leave clauses.
Taking the blanket away results in a screaming, hysterical, thrashing fit during which he almost falls out of his seat and onto his head. I've tried leaving the blanket where he can see it, putting it where he can't see it, and reassuring him that he'll get it when he's done...nope. Tucking it behind him so he knows it's there, he drags it all in front of him and snuggles it instead of eating.
Picking him up to come to the table when he's already separated from the blanket results in the same things.
Telling him that it's time to eat and letting him come in his own time results in him never coming to the table--he'd rather hold the blanket.
Sneaking the blanket away when he's not looking and across the room playing happily results in hysterical crying when he can't find it (usually happens within a minute or two).
His mom has mentioned the problem, too, of him not being able to eat without it, and mentioned that they have the same rule about no blanket at the table. I haven't asked her yet how and when he eats or how he behaves without it.
I outright don't care what they do at home, though. I'm done. Absolutely done with the blanket. Totally at my wits end with the hysterics and the thrashing and the not eating. Tried to feed the kids, he was thrashing and screaming, DD was nagging me, and I yelled at them all so bad that my throat hurts and my DD got so upset she thought she was going to throw up. I feel awful about reacting like that but I am so over this behavior.
Right now I have tossed the blanket up onto a closet shelf, behind a closed door, and I'm seriously considering not even giving it back at naptime. He cried hysterically for ten or fifteen minutes and has finally settled down and is watching the other kids play, and starting to play himself. Sort of...he's crying again now.
PLEASE...tell me that this will work eventually (taking his blanket away cold turkey while at daycare), or tell me a better way to do it, or at least tell me that I'm right to be composing a "no lovies, period" clause to add to my contract along with the sibiling and extended leave clauses.
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