DCM Hurt My Feelings

[Unregistered]

I'm sorry your feelings are hurt and I don't blame you for feeling that way.
However, with everything you just mentioned above, I'm surprised you let this parent stay beyond the very first day with those problems.
She's a liability and potentially damaging to your business.

Thank you all for allowing me to vent and offering your support. I appreciate it greatly.


In response to the above, I know I let the situation continue far too long when warning signs that we weren't a good match were evident from the start.
I kept her in the beginning because of finances. I needed that slot filled with a full time child. Beyond that, I kept DCG because I like her a lot and she's doing very well in the program. After meeting with the family I hoped things would get better, and they were much improved with us dealing solely with DCD. I sent a termination email yesterday with two-weeks notice and I'm calling my licensor and food rep tomorrow. I have a hard time terming. I have a hard time saying 'goodbye' to the kids whom I've grown attached to. Unfortunately, I simply can not deal with mom anymore. Plus, DH gave me an ultimatum to either term her or he would. LOL!

[Thriftylady]

Thank you all for allowing me to vent and offering your support. I appreciate it greatly.


In response to the above, I know I let the situation continue far too long when warning signs that we weren't a good match were evident from the start.
I kept her in the beginning because of finances. I needed that slot filled with a full time child. Beyond that, I kept DCG because I like her a lot and she's doing very well in the program. After meeting with the family I hoped things would get better, and they were much improved with us dealing solely with DCD. I sent a termination email yesterday with two-weeks notice and I'm calling my licensor and food rep tomorrow. I have a hard time terming. I have a hard time saying 'goodbye' to the kids whom I've grown attached to. Unfortunately, I simply can not deal with mom anymore. Plus, DH gave me an ultimatum to either term her or he would. LOL!

One thing we have to remember is that although terming can hurt financially, keeping a liability around can cost us much more. It can be hard to see that balance, but we have to always look at the whole business.

[CityGarden]

We are suddenly seeing lots of angry parent confrontation posts.

I agree!!!!!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I've had parents like this and I am so sorry for the stress this has caused you. I remember how I felt and wish I could give you a hug. :hug:

Hopefully, this Mom will cease all of the drama but due to you issuing an actual termination letter I don't think this is the end of it. I've noticed those parents always have to get in the last word.

[LindseyA]

So sorry this happened! Congratulations on the new van! happyface I disagree politely with BC a little. Your post was very easy to follow. I like more emotional posts, and feel like they are more relatable. Let's face it, we all go through very similar emotions and have the same stressors for the most part. Now I would never expect one to be that emotional with communicating to a client, but on a forum made for us to vent, heck yeah! Let it out sister!

[Alisyn]

One thing we have to remember is that although terming can hurt financially, keeping a liability around can cost us much more. It can be hard to see that balance, but we have to always look at the whole business.

Yes, most definitely.

[Ariana]

Bottom line from your post, mom is acting irrational and not in a professional manner. You know you should have termed her long ago but we all make sacrifices sometimes for finances.

You did nothing wrong except provide superior transportation for your DCK and enforce rules. Some people are just plain psycho

[e.j.]

... it spilled over into a messy situation that ruined my happiness about the van and tainted the reputation of my program, even if only a little.

Don't give this woman the power to ruin your happiness. Enjoy that van! I'll bet the kids who rode it in it today were all smiles.

My guess is, she hasn't tainted your reputation at all. Anyone who read what she wrote on your FB page will probably "consider the source" and understand that her behavior has nothing at all to do with you and your day care.

[midaycare]

:hug: I hope things are better today.

[laundrymom]

I think you'll be fine. Maybe post a pic of the new van on the FB page and say, in all the confusion last week I forgot to show off the new van! I'm so excited to have a more reliable vehicle and know it will be a great asset to us.

[Unregistered]

I had a hard time reading all that. Too many other details about stuff that has nothing to do with the situation and not enough details about the actual issue.

What caused DCM to be so angry? I think there is more going on here and that there may have been some details about your (the daycare in general) relationship with this DCM that were left out.

Im not really buying that the mere sight of the new van caused her to be so instantaneously that angry and behave that badly. I feel like there's more to this and DCM is upset about alot more than just a new van.

You would be surprised what people will get upset over.