New DCM Just Shows Up Early at My Door

[NightOwl]

Dang it, Tasha! Where's the update?

[Heidi]

These situations are almost always avoidable! How? Parents should enroll their child in a daycare program that operates within hours and policies that work for them. As in, the hours and policies work as they are already. Too many times, they sign up with hopes (or expectations) that they can have things changed to fit them.

well, women sometimes marry men with that same attitude! ::::::::

[momofboys]

Update when you can, Tasha! I hope all is okay!

[Josiegirl]

Well darn. I DO hope you're okay Tasha. An event like this can frazzle a person big time and cause lots of problems. Hope that's not the case.

[MissAnn]

I keep checking back. I really worry about people in here! It's as bad as waiting on my kids to call and my mind goes all kinds of places. Hope she posts soon!

[NightOwl]

Me too, it's driving me nuts. I hope everything is OK.

[daycare]

especially after reading the Parent attacks post from BC.

and didn't one of the unregistered on here say that we are crazy for thinking of being proactive and having a plan in case something like this was going to happen?? Or am I just reading too much ...

[SnowGirl]

especially after reading the Parent attacks post from BC.

and didn't one of the unregistered on here say that we are crazy for thinking of being proactive and having a plan in case something like this was going to happen?? Or am I just reading too much ...

If you're reading too much into it then I am too!

Tasha, I completely understand if you want to put this whole thing to rest and not talk about it anymore. If you could let us know you're okay, though, whenever you have a chance. Praying for you xoxo

[MotherNature]

Sooo,,,are you ok? What happened?

[Mariahsaint]

Kinda getting worried now. :/

I hope everything is okay.

[NillaWafers]

Perhaps she has decided to steer clear of the forums since all the lovely trolls decided to accuse her of fibbing ect.

[Blackcat31]

Perhaps she has decided to steer clear of the forums since all the lovely trolls decided to accuse her of fibbing ect.

Not all unregistered posters are trolls.

Like everyone they are entitled to their opinion.
Even if other's do not agree.

[NillaWafers]

Not all unregistered posters are trolls.

Like everyone they are entitled to their opinion.
Even if other's do not agree.

I was simply postulating why she wasn't coming back. There seemed to be one unregistered who was certain she was lying and followed the subject from one thread to the next. Maybe not a troll but certainly going out of her way.

If I received that kind of reply I'd make myself scarce too. I would most certainly be worried someone I knew had found me and was harassing me for a reason.

[Blackcat31]

I was simply postulating why she wasn't coming back. There seemed to be one unregistered who was certain she was lying and followed the subject from one thread to the next. Maybe not a troll but certainly going out of her way.

If I received that kind of reply I'd make myself scarce too. I would most certainly be worried someone I knew had found me and was harassing me for a reason.

I know but speculation only adds unnecessary fluff to the issue. We can speculate all day and still be no closer to the truth than before.

Also there was more than one unregistered and even the one that said she felt Tasha was lying didn't do it in a mean way.

She (or he) merely stated her opinion of the situation and because other's didn't agree... she (or he) was immediately made out to be the bad guy. :confused:

The responses of some of the regular registered members was far worse than the unregistered.

There are 3 sides to every story.

In this case;

Tasha's
the DCM's
and the truth.

We aren't privvy to all the details so we only know what Tasha has posted and a user name brings no more validity to her version than anyone else's.

It's only ONE side to the story.

Now I am not saying Tasha is lying at all. I am just saying I am personally astounded at how quickly others will rally when only hearing one side of things.

I don't give weight or merit to anyone just because they gave a user name.
I care only about content posted and facts as they are presented.

Considering different perspectives in every situation is how we learn and grow.

Taking things at face value limits growth and future perspective.

[SnowGirl]

I know but speculation only adds unnecessary fluff to the issue. We can speculate all day and still be no closer to the truth than before.

Also there was more than one unregistered and even the one that said she felt Tasha was lying didn't do it in a mean way.

She (or he) merely stated her opinion of the situation and because other's didn't agree... she (or he) was immediately made out to be the bad guy. :confused:

The responses of some of the regular registered members was far worse than the unregistered.

There are 3 sides to every story.

In this case;

Tasha's
the DCM's
and the truth.

We aren't privvy to all the details so we only know what Tasha has posted and a user name brings no more validity to her version than anyone else's.

It's only ONE side to the story.

Now I am not saying Tasha is lying at all. I am just saying I am personally astounded at how quickly others will rally when only hearing one side of things.

I don't give weight or merit to anyone just because they gave a user name.
I care only about content posted and facts as they are presented.

Considering different perspectives in every situation is how we learn and grow.

Taking things at face value limits growth and future perspective.

I don't know.

I went back to the thread in question ("Tasha!!!") and reread the conversation.

It wasn't until "unregistered" on that thread just wouldn't let go of the "Tasha is obviously lying and hiding because she can't back up her outlandish story" rhetoric for several posts that people finally started saying "Okay, enough, you're being mean". At first, all the regular posters were not making "unregistered" out to be a bad guy, but questioning where she came to that conclusion based on the evidence in this thread. Yes, they were questioning her logic, but not attacking her.

She came to a thread that was made to check up on and support Tasha, and brought the unkind speculation from this thread over to that one. Perhaps we could have all been more pragmatic about our approach and simply said, "You speculating like that isn't really helpful. We just want to check up on Tasha, not throw anymore speculation out there." And instead people got into a debate about it.

I think the only member who could have approached it more constructively is me (I simply said "Go away troll"). But, I had already read the whole conversation up to that point and I was frustrated that the debate was even a part of that thread. Yes, she's entitled to her opinion, and she has free speech and all of that. But, I feel like she chose the wrong place and thread to continue the unkind speculation. Those of us who debated and/or defended had a right to let "unregistered" know that, too.

I will, however, be more constructive in my feedback to posters I don't particularly agree with in the future.