I Think It’s Time to Term

[lovemydaycare0912]

You know the family I have that complains about everything. Same family we spoke with about that breakfast is over at 830 but "forgot" that if he comes after he won't get fed. Now claiming I am withholding meals and just being rude over texts. Dad xomes to give child food in car but is fake and its not my fault they dont communicate effectively.

I think its time to say goodbye give 2 week notice and hope they pay so i dont have to take to court. I already called licensing and gave heads up. Im just over it. Im really emotional like angry right now so i am trying to calm down before I make a decision.

He is a private payer but i dont think I should continue for the sake of money. We will be alright.

Advice plz

[Ariana]

Anyone claiming I am being rude for enforcing rules or accusing me of "withholding meals" from children when I am not is immediately terminated.

Did they pay a deposit?

[MunchkinWrangler]

I just don't think it is your responsibility to make sure a child gets breakfast. If we served food on a whim, that is all you would be doing and nothing else. I know you have laid out the rule to them. Can you write up a statement, specifically for them, have them sign it that breakfast is started at a certain time and include the time the child needs to be there to be served otherwise they must make sure to feed their child. To be honest, it is technically neglect on their part for not having ample time in the morning to get breakfast for their OWN kid and to make sure he/she (I missed gender) is there for breakfast before it is not being served. They need to get their act together. Period. I would say in no less words that it is their responsibility as a parent to make sure their kid is fed or is on time to have breakfast. At this point if they're offended, screw 'em. I wouldn't even worry about sounding rude either. I would even bring up neglect, ON THEIR PART because their actions are preventing their child from having breakfast in the first place.

[Thriftylady]

I agree, we set meal times for a reason. Without them our days would be chaos, not to mention if one kid eats they all want to. I also agree put it back on the parents, the parents are withholding food, they know the rules and are bringing kiddos without being fed. I might be inclined to term also. And if they were accusing me of withholding food, it would be immediate with no refunds.

[Snowmom]

You know the family I have that complains about everything. Same family we spoke with about that breakfast is over at 830 but "forgot" that if he comes after he won't get fed. Now claiming I am withholding meals and just being rude over texts. Dad xomes to give child food in car but is fake and its not my fault they dont communicate effectively.

I think its time to say goodbye give 2 week notice and hope they pay so i dont have to take to court. I already called licensing and gave heads up. Im just over it. Im really emotional like angry right now so i am trying to calm down before I make a decision.

He is a private payer but i dont think I should continue for the sake of money. We will be alright.

Advice plz

So sorry :hug:. It's frustrating when parents pass of their parental responsibility as our problem.

It sounds as if you've just had enough and I don't blame you. Throwing out accusations like "withholding food" can be pretty damaging.

Are you looking for advice on how to word a term to the parents?

[lovemydaycare0912]

Anyone claiming I am being rude for enforcing rules or accusing me of "withholding meals" from children when I am not is immediately terminated.

Did they pay a deposit?

No unfortunately not. They were with me since i first opened and I didnt require it then. I will probably have to go to court on them

[lovemydaycare0912]

I just don't think it is your responsibility to make sure a child gets breakfast. If we served food on a whim, that is all you would be doing and nothing else. I know you have laid out the rule to them. Can you write up a statement, specifically for them, have them sign it that breakfast is started at a certain time and include the time the child needs to be there to be served otherwise they must make sure to feed their child. To be honest, it is technically neglect on their part for not having ample time in the morning to get breakfast for their OWN kid and to make sure he/she (I missed gender) is there for breakfast before it is not being served. They need to get their act together. Period. I would say in no less words that it is their responsibility as a parent to make sure their kid is fed or is on time to have breakfast. At this point if they're offended, screw 'em. I wouldn't even worry about sounding rude either. I would even bring up neglect, ON THEIR PART because their actions are preventing their child from having breakfast in the first place.

That is a good idea but i dont know if i care to deal with them anymore.

[lovemydaycare0912]

So sorry :hug:. It's frustrating when parents pass of their parental responsibility as our problem.

It sounds as if you've just had enough and I don't blame you. Throwing out accusations like "withholding food" can be pretty damaging.

Are you looking for advice on how to word a term to the parents?

I guess so. Im getting kids down for nap now. Going to eat lunch then relax so I can figure out what i want to do. If I decide to term, I will post a copy of it here

[lovemydaycare0912]

Forgot to mention my husband and I are on different terms. We run the daycare together as our only spurce of income. We have 6 kids, fully enrolled now but this dcb is a orivate payer. If we lose him, we would only have 2 private payers and 3 state subsidy. I just feel like where do you draw the line? Im a woman so I get upset and can't let go of it quick. I loveeeeee dcb but I don't think it's right.

[childcaremom]

So your dh would like to keep them as clients? I would sort that out first and then that would determine the course of action. I would also let my dh do all the dealings with them, too. I'd be done.

I would not want to deal with dcps who accused me of that, either. I would put that right back on them, as pp suggested.

When I term immediately, I do not require 2 weeks payment. I just am done. I have even refunded money just to get rid of horrible dcps even though it is in my contract that I don't have to.

If money is the issue, then I would be interviewing and replacing, asap.

[lovemydaycare0912]

So your dh would like to keep them as clients? I would sort that out first and then that would determine the course of action. I would also let my dh do all the dealings with them, too. I'd be done.

I would not want to deal with dcps who accused me of that, either. I would put that right back on them, as pp suggested.

When I term immediately, I do not require 2 weeks payment. I just am done. I have even refunded money just to get rid of horrible dcps even though it is in my contract that I don't have to.

If money is the issue, then I would be interviewing and replacing, asap.

Yes so we wouldn't have to rely on the state to pay rent because sometimes our payment from the State takes a little while. I would give 2 weeks if terming and definitely start interviewing. Ill keep yous updated

[childcaremom]

Yes so we wouldn't have to rely on the state to pay rent because sometimes our payment from the State takes a little while. I would give 2 weeks if terming and definitely start interviewing. Ill keep yous updated

Good luck with whatever you decide.

[Blackcat31]

Dear DCP

Please note, accusing me of not following my program policies (providing X with meals and/or snacks) is not something I take lightly and strive to make sure ALL the policies in my parent handbook are followed for not only the best interest of the child and family but in an effort to meet the needs of all children enrolled in ABC Daycare.

At this time, I want to point out that ALL children present between the hours of 7am-8am are served a healthy, nutritious breakfast. As stated in my parent handbook (section 4, paragraph 2, under MEALS & SNACKS) ABC Daycare's policy is that ANY child dropped off after 8am needs to have been fed PRIOR to drop off.

Attached is a copy of the sign in/out sheet clearly showing the times each day that X was dropped off.

I have consulted with my licensor and am confident that I am conducting my program as required according to state regulations and in accordance with the written Parent Policy Handbook.

Should you have any further issues you would like to discuss, please contact me via e-mail so that we can set aside a time to speak privately.

Moving forward, should further accusations be made about my program and the policies in the parent handbook, services will be terminated immediately and any monies paid will be forfeited.

Thank you

~Provider

Or you can just go with the "terminated immediately" route. Which is the route I probably would have gone with. I don't take kindly to being accused of starving a child.

I would NOT agree to continue services to a family that makes an accusation in regards to my program when they know it is 100% false. That's playing dirty in my opinion and I wouldn't be willing to continue allowing them in my home so that additional accusation can be created/made up.

[lovemydaycare0912]

Dear DCP

Please note, accusing me of not following my program policies (providing X with meals and/or snacks) is not something I take lightly and strive to make sure ALL the policies in my parent handbook are followed for not only the best interest of the child and family but in an effort to meet the needs of all children enrolled in ABC Daycare.

At this time, I want to point out that ALL children present between the hours of 7am-8am are served a healthy, nutritious breakfast. As stated in my parent handbook (section 4, paragraph 2, under MEALS & SNACKS) ABC Daycare's policy is that ANY child dropped off after 8am needs to have been fed PRIOR to drop off.

Attached is a copy of the sign in/out sheet clearly showing the times each day that X was dropped off.

I have consulted with my licensor and am confident that I am conducting my program as required according to state regulations and in accordance with the written Parent Policy Handbook.

Should you have any further issues you would like to discuss, please contact me via e-mail so that we can set aside a time to speak privately.

Moving forward, should further accusations be made about my program and the policies in the parent handbook, services will be terminated immediately and any monies paid will be forfeited.

Thank you

~Provider

Or you can just go with the "terminated immediately" route. Which is the route I probably would have gone with. I don't take kindly to being accused of starving a child.

I would NOT agree to continue services to a family that makes an accusation in regards to my program when they know it is 100% false. That's playing dirty in my opinion and I wouldn't be willing to continue allowing them in my home so that additional accusation can be created/made up.

I like your letter but am with you on the last part. Because I feel that everytime I change something, they are going to have a t*tty attack. I can't with the false accusations. Well I have until 6pm to figure out. Let me clear my head, and see.

I just know if I keep them, tonight's conversation will not go well.

[MunchkinWrangler]

That is a good idea but i dont know if i care to deal with them anymore.

There's your answer. Make sure you and your husband talk and come to an agreement before moving forward. I wouldn't take kindly to this at all and would be just as steamed, especially because they're not making changes.