Advice On Child Seeking Attention or Is It Social/Emotional Issues?

[daycarediva]

This is one of those times where I feel really bad...for all the OTHER kids in your care.

It makes me sad that months are going by and he's deliberately hurting other children.

Maybe I'm too old fashioned, but I don't think I'd spend months trying to help one child at the expense of all the others. Especially when I was the only one making an effort.

I would write up a probationary period notice. Outline violations, if they occur within X time frame, they will need to seek other care.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would implement a behavior plan now.

In mine I outline what needs to be corrected in list format, the consequences of those things continuing (1 strike and a 1 day suspension or 3 strikes and a 1 day suspension are ones I have both used - after the suspension it is 1 strike and then a termination of contract occurs), and place the responsibility of instilling proper values and disciplining on the parents because of our limited disciplinary options here. I say we do not wish to terminate the arrangement and look forward to assisting them in raising a happy and well adjusted child. I implement this after having several conversations and things not changing with a child, usually. Unfortunately, it almost always ends in a termination because the parent doesn't take me seriously until they are handed this paper OR strike 1 has occurred.

[Cinderella]

Thank you all for you input. It is truly appreciated. If nothing else but just to be heard...

Unregistered Guest, I provide a 1:4 ratio and have implemented RIE principals with no luck. Mom says she has spoken to the child's doctor and has been reassured it is typical behavior for a child of his age and that he sounds like he's just an active child.

If that's the case, then I need more training/education in child development and this child has just outgrown my facility.

Again, thank you for taking the time to respond.