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I have a dck that is almost 2. Dck was 41 lbs in Jan when dck went to dr for ear infection, so this is a BIG kid. Dcm and dcd carry dck around everywhere, and so of course dck expects that I should as well. There are no developmental or medical problems. This child will sit where they are and cry until they are either picked up and carried, or at the very least I can get them moving by lifting them to their feet and leading by the hand.
Well, with this child's weight, even pulling them to their feet is getting to be too much. I have been trying this week to use some tough love, and if dck cannot move themselves for whatever it is they want (unless it is something pertinent like a diaper change, eating, or nap) then I ignore. Of course, this has resulted in some frustration for me and all the other kids listening to him go on and on the last 3 days, but I know with consistency this too, shall pass.
Now for the problem. Last night when dcm came to pick up dck I was changing a baby's diaper, and the dck in question was across the room when dcm came in. She called dck to come over to her, and as usual dck sat and cried and held up arms waiting for her to pick them up. She called and called, and they cried and cried. I could not "help" dck up as I was changing a baby. Then...a preschooler says to the dcm, "Dck's name is lazy." I handled it immediately and appropriately, telling the preschooler that it was an unkind comment, blah blah blah. Dcm finally walks in and picks up and carries her dck, angry now, and is saying all the time she is getting dck ready to go that she doesn't appreciate mean comments and that they are working with dck to be better about this. I remained calm and professional and stated that while it is trying for all of us (dck, dcm and dcd, me, and even the other kids in my care) for different reasons, we'll get through it. Dck WILL come around soon. Smiles. Time to move on. Good-night.
Well, this morning when dcm drops off she is very angry. Says that she does not want dck being made fun of, and that she is aware that dck is behind on things but that dck shouldn't be teased. I told her that teasing or mocking is absolutely not allowed here, and that I am very upset that she would think that. I also told her that the preschooler that made the comment last night was reprimanded, which she witnessed. I also told her that dck is where they should be developmentally, and that dck is able to stand up and walk or at the very least crawl to move about, but chooses not to if dck thinks that someone will do it for them. Dcm left for work in a huff then.
I feel like I should say more to this dcm. I think it is more embarrassment for her child's behavior/issue than anything, but I don't like her saying that he is being mistreated verbally at daycare. It doesn't sit well with me. Should I say more, or just let it blow over?
I have a dck that is almost 2. Dck was 41 lbs in Jan when dck went to dr for ear infection, so this is a BIG kid. Dcm and dcd carry dck around everywhere, and so of course dck expects that I should as well. There are no developmental or medical problems. This child will sit where they are and cry until they are either picked up and carried, or at the very least I can get them moving by lifting them to their feet and leading by the hand.
Well, with this child's weight, even pulling them to their feet is getting to be too much. I have been trying this week to use some tough love, and if dck cannot move themselves for whatever it is they want (unless it is something pertinent like a diaper change, eating, or nap) then I ignore. Of course, this has resulted in some frustration for me and all the other kids listening to him go on and on the last 3 days, but I know with consistency this too, shall pass.
Now for the problem. Last night when dcm came to pick up dck I was changing a baby's diaper, and the dck in question was across the room when dcm came in. She called dck to come over to her, and as usual dck sat and cried and held up arms waiting for her to pick them up. She called and called, and they cried and cried. I could not "help" dck up as I was changing a baby. Then...a preschooler says to the dcm, "Dck's name is lazy." I handled it immediately and appropriately, telling the preschooler that it was an unkind comment, blah blah blah. Dcm finally walks in and picks up and carries her dck, angry now, and is saying all the time she is getting dck ready to go that she doesn't appreciate mean comments and that they are working with dck to be better about this. I remained calm and professional and stated that while it is trying for all of us (dck, dcm and dcd, me, and even the other kids in my care) for different reasons, we'll get through it. Dck WILL come around soon. Smiles. Time to move on. Good-night.
Well, this morning when dcm drops off she is very angry. Says that she does not want dck being made fun of, and that she is aware that dck is behind on things but that dck shouldn't be teased. I told her that teasing or mocking is absolutely not allowed here, and that I am very upset that she would think that. I also told her that the preschooler that made the comment last night was reprimanded, which she witnessed. I also told her that dck is where they should be developmentally, and that dck is able to stand up and walk or at the very least crawl to move about, but chooses not to if dck thinks that someone will do it for them. Dcm left for work in a huff then.
I feel like I should say more to this dcm. I think it is more embarrassment for her child's behavior/issue than anything, but I don't like her saying that he is being mistreated verbally at daycare. It doesn't sit well with me. Should I say more, or just let it blow over?
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