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Kicking myself in the butt for how I just handled this situation. Let me paint the picture.. up through the night a lot, overtired, period started lots of cramps... during clean up dcb 4 wasn't helping I hand over hand started him on cleaning and he helped, during his clean up he took a book and instead of putting it away he crumpled a few of the pages and through it on a shelf... he had a home toy in his hand so I took the toy and before I knew it the words were out of my mouth. "Your toy is going to the garbage, you don't ruin my books" yup the garbage... I'm obviously not going to throw it in the garbage but that's what came out of my mouth. How do I handle this I want him to know I'm serious but obviously cannot follow through with it.
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Well first off, keep in mind in the future we have to be very careful what we say.
After that, I would "offer" him the chance to give it back. I mean you are going to anyway so give him an easy way to "earn" it so it doesn't seem you went back on your word.
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You can tell him you are sorry, you made a mistake that adults aren't always perfect either. -
👍 This, one of the things children have the opportunity to learn from trusted adults is how to admit you made a mistake and correct it. If you think you could have handled it better, tell him. And then apologize and tell him how you plan to correct it. (Eg: have him fix the book)Comment
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I agree. He acted impulsively when he crumpled the pages and then you did the same with the garbage threat. Maybe insist that he apologize and then offer your own apology.
I admit, I've made the same mistake and had to back pedal. You aren't alone.Comment
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I agree with saying "I'm sorry, that wasn't nice of me to say. Your toy is going up here until the end of the day" and leave it at that.
I find I get short tempered when I haven't had a day off in a while. Maybe a "mental health day" is in order?
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Yup. ^^
I apologize all the time to the kids, no biggie. I have a habit of not getting the full story before I go making proclamations.
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I just say "Whoops, I'm sorry DCK, Ms. ___ needs to listen a little better."
If there's a consequence or disciplinary action in order, though, it doesn't get voided because I've made a mistake.Comment
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We've all said things before thinking. I agree with the others on handling it.
When I see a child mistreating a toy, I've said, "I wouldn't come to your house and treat your toys that way." Here's what I wanted to say: "Want me to come to your house and treat your toys that way?" :
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I apologize daily to my own kids for doing things like this and would definitely do it for a dck as well
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