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Any suggestions for parents that are wanting to curb severely aggressive tendencies in their toddler? Ive run out of ideas on what to tell them. Any article recommendations? We're supposed to brainstorm ideas and I honestly don't know what else to recommend. This is pretty much a last ditch effort to keep this child in care. Aggression has gotten so bad that I am actually concerned she may seriously injure others in care. Thank you.
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Child psychologist. -
It honestly may be needed.
I think that's where we are. She shoved my toddler's head into a wooden piece of furniture today and smiled and said "boink" when it bounced off. I can't begin to tell you the mix of emotions I feel. Her parents are good friends so I am absolutely heartbroken at the thought of terming, but completely livid at the incident itself. And terrified at all the what ifs now running through my head. And disheartened at the fact that I've worked so very intentionally with this child for the last 3 mo to curb the aggression and its still come to this.
I was thinking if the parents really get on board and come up with a solution to follow through with at home I could give her another week, but I'm almost scared to even do that. My poor ds has taken the brunt of her abuse for far too long now.Comment
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If you are really wanting to keep the child, I would put the child on probation TODAY. The problem is that if this child hurts another child, you could have liability. I would also be calling the parents for pick up EVERY time the child did something to hurt another child, put on the probation form that you will be doing that. And I would only give it a week to start with, and if things didn't change in that week at least as far as seeing the parents follow through, I would term.Comment
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Term, your child has a right to be safe in his own house.Comment
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If this was my child she was doing this to she would have been gone after the first incident. Your child does not deserve that kind of abuse and didn't sign up for this. It honestly may be needed.
I think that's where we are. She shoved my toddler's head into a wooden piece of furniture today and smiled and said "boink" when it bounced off. I can't begin to tell you the mix of emotions I feel. Her parents are good friends so I am absolutely heartbroken at the thought of terming, but completely livid at the incident itself. And terrified at all the what ifs now running through my head. And disheartened at the fact that I've worked so very intentionally with this child for the last 3 mo to curb the aggression and its still come to this.
I was thinking if the parents really get on board and come up with a solution to follow through with at home I could give her another week, but I'm almost scared to even do that. My poor ds has taken the brunt of her abuse for far too long now.
The parents are causing this because there is clearly violence happening in the home. Violence does not naturally occur in children, they model it. Unless this is some sort of psychological disorder the parents are not going to be really doing anything to stop it.Comment
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I would term.
Don't think of it as something bad. If the child gets termed enough the parents will have no choice but to seek professional help. I worked in a preschool where the director kept kids she shouldn't have. That is just sending the message that this will be tolerated. The child/parents need help. I've heard former preschool teachers say that preschools will keep them but once they get to public school it won't be tolerated. They have the resources to force the parents to get help. My former next door neighbor's child was kicked out of kindergarten at a great public school. I supposed they refused the referral for help that was offered. Do the family a favor and tell them you can't have your child hurt.Comment
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