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  • lovemykidstoo
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2012
    • 4740

    #16
    Originally posted by laundrymom
    i had a neighbor once call my husband at work and let him know i had several male visitors throughout the mornings and they seemed to start to arrive just after my husband left for work.
    He thanked her for watching out for us and told her they were just my "clients" and that he'd already met them and sometimes watched while they were here.
    Nosey old biddy never called him again. Lol

    lmao!!

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    • Josiegirl
      Daycare.com Member
      • Jun 2013
      • 10834

      #17
      Originally posted by laundrymom
      I had a neighbor once call my husband at work and let him know I had several male visitors throughout the mornings And they seemed to start to arrive just after my husband left for work.
      He thanked her for watching out for us and told her they were just my "clients" and that he'd already met them and sometimes watched while they were here.
      Nosey old biddy never called him again. Lol
      Oh Lawdy that is too funny!!

      Yeh BC, I can understand that. But also it doesn't sound like they're an overly rowdy bunch all the time. Maybe it's as annoying to her as having 3 of the neighbors start mowing their lawns as soon as the dcks all fall asleep during the summer is to me.
      If I didn't operate a dc and had to tolerate one next door, I'd probably feel differently. But kids do get loud, dramatic and cry. I'll need to remind mine more often to be more respectful too. I'm sure there are times the neighbors are glad to see us come back inside. If they get too crazy I tell them to quiet down because some of the neighbors might be napping.
      Thanks for the reminder BC.

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      • Thriftylady
        Daycare.com Member
        • Aug 2014
        • 5884

        #18
        Originally posted by laundrymom
        I had a neighbor once call my husband at work and let him know I had several male visitors throughout the mornings And they seemed to start to arrive just after my husband left for work.
        He thanked her for watching out for us and told her they were just my "clients" and that he'd already met them and sometimes watched while they were here.
        Nosey old biddy never called him again. Lol
        ROFL at "clients" I bet she about rolled over!

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        • Play Care
          Daycare.com Member
          • Dec 2012
          • 6642

          #19
          Good point, BC!

          I went by the OP's story that is was occasional/rare crying.
          And it may very well be. But I do try to be a good neighbor and keep loud noises to a minimum. I've also planted some large shrubs/trees on my one property line with my nearest neighbors to help block sound and give both of us more privacy. There definitely has to be consideration on both sides.

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          • MarinaVanessa
            Family Childcare Home
            • Jan 2010
            • 7211

            #20
            Originally posted by laundrymom
            I had a neighbor once call my husband at work and let him know I had several male visitors throughout the mornings And they seemed to start to arrive just after my husband left for work.
            He thanked her for watching out for us and told her they were just my "clients" and that he'd already met them and sometimes watched while they were here.
            Nosey old biddy never called him again. Lol
            I just sprayed coffee all over my screen ... thanks Laundry ::

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            • laundrymom
              Advanced Daycare.com Member
              • Nov 2010
              • 4177

              #21
              I'm all for respecting neighbors. Don't get me wrong. But I'm of a mindset that kids outside is as natural as birds. As long as it's between 7a and 11 p. I don't think neighbors should gripe. I've never had anyone call for a noise issue. I'm super respectful. But kid noise is just that. Kid noise. And if someone is super sensitive to it maybe they need to move out of a neighborhood where kids will yell cry laugh scream and cause a ruckus.

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              • Blackcat31
                • Oct 2010
                • 36124

                #22
                I am definitely not siding with one or the other, just trying to see both sides.

                When I first opened my daycare, a neighbor (Audrey) lived next door. If my clients parked on her side of the street, she would come outside FLIPPING out! If she thought I did not attend to a crying child within 3 seconds, she would YELL crazy stuff to me from across the street. If the kids were running through the sprinkler, she would tell (yell) them to not get water on the sidewalk (public one) so that others didnt fall or get wet feet. :confused:

                Basically she was just a nasty ornery angry lady.

                Anyways.....fast forward a few years and I started saying things back to her (not yelling) but more in response to what I thought were ridiculous complaints about ridiculous things. After a while our tense bantering back and forth across the street led to us being friendly somehow... it was VERY gradual so I dont really know what exactly happened to change it but our relationship changed.

                Audrey passed away last year. She was 94
                I miss her. The kids miss her.

                I wont get into details about her life or why I "think" she was initially the cranky town cryer but she had her reasons and right or wrong, they were her reasons and although things turned out positively for our neighbor relationship the one thing it taught me was there are two sides to every fence, every street and every persons perspective and before I would be willing to be as annoying as I could in retaliation, I'd try hard first to be a good neighbor or at the very least to be a tolerable one.

                It's good role modeling for the kids we are caring for.

                One day, they will be someone's neighbor too.

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                • DaveA
                  Daycare.com Member and Bladesmith
                  • Jul 2014
                  • 4245

                  #23
                  Originally posted by laundrymom
                  I had a neighbor once call my husband at work and let him know I had several male visitors throughout the mornings And they seemed to start to arrive just after my husband left for work.
                  He thanked her for watching out for us and told her they were just my "clients" and that he'd already met them and sometimes watched while they were here.
                  Nosey old biddy never called him again. Lol
                  ::::::::
                  Now I have to clean soda off of my desk! Thanks for the laugh.

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                  • Laurel
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Mar 2013
                    • 3218

                    #24
                    Originally posted by childcaremom
                    I like the suggestions above but I would even do it for the neighbour. Maybe even have the dcks make her a card. Get to know her and all that.

                    Sorry you are dealing with that. That makes for an uncomfortable situation. I have gotten to know all of my neighbours and they all know I do daycare so understand that when crying happens, I am not neglecting a child, there just happens to be a lot of them here.


                    I'd at least have to meet her. Something like "Hi, I live over there and wanted to introduce myself. I'm sure we get a little noisy sometimes but everything is okay, I run a home daycare." Then see how it goes from there.

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                    • Fiddlesticks
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Apr 2015
                      • 162

                      #25
                      Originally posted by Blackcat31
                      I am definitely not siding with one or the other, just trying to see both sides.

                      When I first opened my daycare, a neighbor (Audrey) lived next door. If my clients parked on her side of the street, she would come outside FLIPPING out! If she thought I did not attend to a crying child within 3 seconds, she would YELL crazy stuff to me from across the street. If the kids were running through the sprinkler, she would tell (yell) them to not get water on the sidewalk (public one) so that others didnt fall or get wet feet. :confused:

                      Basically she was just a nasty ornery angry lady.

                      Anyways.....fast forward a few years and I started saying things back to her (not yelling) but more in response to what I thought were ridiculous complaints about ridiculous things. After a while our tense bantering back and forth across the street led to us being friendly somehow... it was VERY gradual so I dont really know what exactly happened to change it but our relationship changed.

                      Audrey passed away last year. She was 94
                      I miss her. The kids miss her.

                      I wont get into details about her life or why I "think" she was initially the cranky town cryer but she had her reasons and right or wrong, they were her reasons and although things turned out positively for our neighbor relationship the one thing it taught me was there are two sides to every fence, every street and every persons perspective and before I would be willing to be as annoying as I could in retaliation, I'd try hard first to be a good neighbor or at the very least to be a tolerable one.

                      It's good role modeling for the kids we are caring for.

                      One day, they will be someone's neighbor too.
                      I agree with this. I try to keep the crying to a minimum and I don't let the children scream outside (talk loud, yes. Ear piercing screams, no). If a child screams I jump up and act very concerned and ask them what the danger is. When the children say nothing, I say, "Oh, when someone screams other people assume they are in danger or are hurt and need help. Please don't scream here, or all of the adults around will worry you are in danger." I do this because *I* cannot handle the shrieking, but I am sure my neighbors appreciate it also. Where I used to live, some neighbor girls down the street spent nearly every minute outside shrieking at the top of their lungs, it was grating. We often said that we hoped nothing ever happened to them because no one, including their parents was ever going to figure out that they needed help.

                      That being said, I would be EXTREMELY annoyed if a neighbor called the police because a child was crying when he/she knows that there are children at your house everyday. It's not like she can't figure out where the noise is coming from and is worried there is an abandoned child wandering around. I would ask the police if there is anything you can do about repeated false reports of trouble. Then I would try to buddy up to her so that she would at least feel guilty for calling. Kill them with kindness.

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                      • MunchkinWrangler
                        New Daycare.com Member
                        • Nov 2015
                        • 777

                        #26
                        I would definitely try to reach out to your neighbor and let her know you run a home daycare. I would also let your neighbors know if you have any particularly noisy events that could happen just so no one is alarmed or could tell you if they might be disturbed or not and then carry on.

                        My neighbors all know I run a daycare especially my immediate next doors. I think it is also a good idea in the event of an emergency, people will know that there are several small children in your home during the day.

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                        • SquirrellyMama
                          New Daycare.com Member
                          • Mar 2012
                          • 554

                          #27
                          I understand everyone who is saying to be a good neighbor, and there are always two sides, but... The neighbor has called the cops twice, and sent a nasty gram. Maybe not nasty in wording, but in method of delivery.

                          I have neighbors with dogs that make more noise than children. I'd much prefer listening to the children.

                          Good luck with your crazy neighbor! I think the police will catch on that she's a nutter.

                          Kelly
                          Homeschooling Mama to:
                          lovethis
                          dd12
                          ds 10
                          dd 8

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                          • Ariana
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • Jun 2011
                            • 8969

                            #28
                            Originally posted by MunchkinWrangler
                            I would definitely try to reach out to your neighbor and let her know you run a home daycare. I would also let your neighbors know if you have any particularly noisy events that could happen just so no one is alarmed or could tell you if they might be disturbed or not and then carry on.

                            My neighbors all know I run a daycare especially my immediate next doors. I think it is also a good idea in the event of an emergency, people will know that there are several small children in your home during the day.
                            Yes this! I also would reach out and apologize and explain the situation. The sound of a crying child can give someone a painful psychological reaction. I know I personally have a visceral response to a crying child that is very hard to ignore.

                            I have a fire pit in my backyard and when we bought it we told all of our neighbours, gave them out number and told them that anytime the fire is bothering them to give us a call and we will put it out. I also told them I run a home daycare and apologized in advance for "crazy kid chaos" during the day! It is just a common courtesy.

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