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I have a 4 month old baby that I've had for about 2 months now. Recently (about the last couple weeks) she has given me a complete fit about taking the bottle. I have to swaddle her and listen to her scream for nearly 20 minutes and fight with her to take the bottle. She has to have to have it because I know she's hungry and it's naptime for her and she won't go to sleep without it. The problem I suspected is that seh doesn't want the bottle she wants to be breastfed. So I asked dad last night, ummmm does baby have a bottle at home or is it strictly breast with mom? He kinda stutters and says just mom 99% of the time. I said, yes, that's what I suspected because I'm having a really hard time with him and told him what she was doing. He then told me that lately when she's feeding, she will fall asleep right there and that's where she naps. UGH! I cannot term them at all. We are beyond having trouble with money right now. If I termed, I would be living under a bridge. Anyone ever have this issue?
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If I try unsuccessfully to get a breast fed baby to nurse for more than an hour, I call mom for pick up.
It's REQUIRED that breast fed babies be able to take a bottle for obvious reasons and NO WAY will I struggle to feed a child simply because of the confusion between nursing and the bottle.
I 100% support breastfeeding mothers however it is THEIR responsibility to continue to provide baby with the tools to THRIVE not just SURVIVE in care and dropping a baby off KNOWING the baby will be hungry and resist or refuse the bottle is not fair to baby and not fair to you.
Try (also trying to keep your anxiety down) for a bit and if you cant get baby to take bottle, call mom.
She is not going to change her behavior until it becomes an issue for her. Right now its only an issue for you and the poor hungry baby. Babies shouldnt have to be stressed about a basic need. :confused: -
Thanks BC. Mom always drops off and dad picksup. I told dad last night and this morning mom dropped off. I asked her if dad mentioned anything to her about what we talked about. Of course not
. So I told her the whole thing again. She said that she gets 1 or 2 bottles on the weekend, but other than that she feeds her, but that she would change that to make it easier here. She said that her mom had to come up (she lives downstate) for 10 days when she was born to help her take the bottle and that it took that long and it was horrible. Not sure why she had to have her mom do that, but whatever. She said to the baby, don't make me call grandma and have her come and stay with us again. She is also going to change the nipple to a bigger flow. She said maybe she's getting frustrated with the flow since she has always been on the same nipple for her bottle. I usually feed her at about 2-3:00 and dad picks up at 4:15, so he does not need to feed her at all during the day of course. So when mom gets home from work, she feeds her. Maybe if I adjust her feeding here, she'll be hungry when dad gets her home and he will have to feed her a bottle.
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So much this! This is moms fault and so mom has to deal with it. I breastfed two of my kids and it is really hard to get babies onto bottles. I was never successful with it but my kids weren't at daycare. Some of the feeds at home should be breast and some should be bottle. The child has to be able to transition easily. Also at this age a faster flowing nipple is better because they are much more effecient at getting milk and controlling intake and their mouths are more mature.Comment
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What are her hours of care?
I have had 2 like this. One mom changed to a shorter day the other comes at lunch every day.Comment
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With baby eating 3 times a day here sometimes, it would be nearly impossible for mom to come here to breastfeed, not to mention tremendously disruptive. I have a relatively small home and am licensed for 6. I can't imagine her coming that many times a day. My other 5 would go nuts. I have had alot of breastfed babies over my 15 years of business, but normally the baby is able to take a bottle as well. Usually I have a dad that wants to feed the baby as well.
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My dcm feeds dcg right before daycare, she comes at lunch and feeds in her car, then feeds her again after pickup. It helped a lot once I could serve veggies at breakfast and lunch.With baby eating 3 times a day here sometimes, it would be nearly impossible for mom to come here to breastfeed, not to mention tremendously disruptive. I have a relatively small home and am licensed for 6. I can't imagine her coming that many times a day. My other 5 would go nuts. I have had alot of breastfed babies over my 15 years of business, but normally the baby is able to take a bottle as well. Usually I have a dad that wants to feed the baby as well.
Either that or wait and see if she follows through, or send home daily...Comment
It's important for dad to be able to feed baby as well! 
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