Language Issues

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I have a DCG with a severe language delay. Of the 10 language milestones she is meeting 2 of them. She cannot form words properly with her mouth and I am pretty sure there is something wrong. She cannot finish a word but simply puts the two syllables together and most words are just pure nonsense that her parents have assigned meaning to. She has zero babbling which is pretty typical at this age during play.

I have mentioned my concerns to the parents but they are in denial. She just had her 2 yr checkup and of course the DR said she is developing normally The DR just asked them questions and they answered. These parents just refuse to see anything wrong with their little snowflake and now are in complete denial about her.

What would you do in this situation? I feel like they are not really taking my concerns seriously and it is making it hard for me to work with them, not to mention the child. Have you ever termed over something like this? I don't want to "force" them to get her assessed but I am not sure how to give them the push they need. Any ideas? I don't want to sound like a broken record with my concerns but I am VERY concerned!!

[laundrymom]

Have you done a standardize assessment?
Like ages and stages?

[lovemydaycare0912]

I am kind of in same boat. Have a dub who just turned 2 and barely talks, doesn't listen to simple directions and only runs not walks. Mom already stated she doesn't think doctor knows what she's talking about when it comes to dub developing so I don't know how to go about that either.

I will be following this post for advice. But I think I may do my own evaluation and go over it with dcm.

[lovemydaycare0912]

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Have you done a standardize assessment?
Like ages and stages?

Yes I have done the developmental checklist for my area and she is developing normally in other areas. She does use words but just not correctly. When I do a specific language checklist she is only meeting 2 of the 10 milestones. Basically her development seems normal in every aspect except for language.

In my opinion she has a speech disorder. She is not able to make certain sounds and cannot complete a word. For example Down is Do. Dog is Do. Door is Do. If a word has two syllables she will say DoDo. So doorway is DoDo. Her language is very much at the 12 month old level. She also spits and drools a lot when talking.

[Blackcat31]

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I have a DCG with a severe language delay. Of the 10 language milestones she is meeting 2 of them. She cannot form words properly with her mouth and I am pretty sure there is something wrong. She cannot finish a word but simply puts the two syllables together and most words are just pure nonsense that her parents have assigned meaning to. She has zero babbling which is pretty typical at this age during play.

I have mentioned my concerns to the parents but they are in denial. She just had her 2 yr checkup and of course the DR said she is developing normally The DR just asked them questions and they answered. These parents just refuse to see anything wrong with their little snowflake and now are in complete denial about her.

What would you do in this situation? I feel like they are not really taking my concerns seriously and it is making it hard for me to work with them, not to mention the child. Have you ever termed over something like this? I don't want to "force" them to get her assessed but I am not sure how to give them the push they need. Any ideas? I don't want to sound like a broken record with my concerns but I am VERY concerned!!

Did these parents enroll with you for care of for you to teach their child academics?

If they are simply signed on for child care, then you can't force them to do anything. Just care for the child.

If you are a preschool program and the child is not meeting the developmental milestones for your program and parents are not complying with your assessment of her, then you have no choice but to let the family go since they aren't meeting your requirements.

I dont think child care providers have an obligation to do anything other than share their concerns with a family about a child and if the family is willing; share resources but if they aren't looking for your professional opinion I wouldn't take it any further.

If it becomes so much of an issue that you can't deal with it, then your only option is to term.

[Thriftylady]

Did these parents enroll with you for care of for you to teach their child academics?

If they are simply signed on for child care, then you can't force them to do anything. Just care for the child.

If you are a preschool program and the child is not meeting the developmental milestones for your program and parents are not complying with your assessment of her, then you have no choice but to let the family go since they aren't meeting your requirements.

I dont think child care providers have an obligation to do anything other than share their concerns with a family about a child and if the family is willing; share resources but if they aren't looking for your professional opinion I wouldn't take it any further.

If it becomes so much of an issue that you can't deal with it, then your only option is to term.

This. I know it is frustrating. I am going through the same issue with a 4 yr old right now. He has issues for sure. But parents either can't or won't see it. There is nothing I can do, except wait until he starts kindy next year and hope that the school sees it and maybe the parents will believe it then.

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Did these parents enroll with you for care of for you to teach their child academics?

If they are simply signed on for child care, then you can't force them to do anything. Just care for the child.

If you are a preschool program and the child is not meeting the developmental milestones for your program and parents are not complying with your assessment of her, then you have no choice but to let the family go since they aren't meeting your requirements.

I dont think child care providers have an obligation to do anything other than share their concerns with a family about a child and if the family is willing; share resources but if they aren't looking for your professional opinion I wouldn't take it any further.

If it becomes so much of an issue that you can't deal with it, then your only option is to term.

This makes sense thank you. They did ask me for my professional opinion and I gave it to them but you are right they don't have to do anything about it. I think I may term because they are not taking my concerns seriously.

[Blackcat31]

This makes sense thank you. They did ask me for my professional opinion and I gave it to them but you are right they don't have to do anything about it. I think I may term because they are not taking my concerns seriously.

After so many years of doing this....I've learned one very important thing....well I've learned lots of things but the MOST important thing is that YOU have to be happy waking up and doing your job every day or it will slowly nip at your sanity and for the few $'s a day we earn, I'm not selling my sanity that easily!

YOU have to be happy and have to feel as if you and the families in your program are working together towards a common goal or at the very least that your work is valued and respected. If not, then don't do it.

As childish as this sounds it's still soo true.... you don't have to do anything you don't want to do and I agree with you 100% that if you can't deal with the situation, then term.

YOUR happiness in the work you do IS most important.

[Leigh]

I had a foster child who came to me severely neglected. He was 4.5 months when he came to me (was born 2 months early, too), and it took him just over a year to catch up developmentally. All but the language. I brought it up with the pediatrician several times, and we had quarterly assessments by Birth to Three. They told me that they usually don't worry about speech development until age 3. He left us in September, and he was starting to talk when he left, words were starting to just fall out of his mouth. We saw him in January, and he is still developing speech. It's coming. All you can do is suggest an assessment. Most of the time, speech does come on its own. You can do more reading with him-nothing helps more! I like the idea of starting speech therapy at age 2 if a kid isn't talking at all, but the experts don't seem to worry until 3.