Day Care Parents Don't Leave After Coming To Pick Up Child

[Unregistered]

Hello! Do any of you have issues with parents staying for long periods of time when coming to pick up their child? I have a parent that has stayed 2 hours here and there when coming to pick up their child. It's driving me nuts! This is my time when the other kids are napping and my time to clean, relax, prepare food, etc. I look forward to this quiet time every day. Any suggestions?

[Michael]

Here are some other threads relating to lingering parents: https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.p...gering+parents

[nannyde]

Hello! Do any of you have issues with parents staying for long periods of time when coming to pick up their child? I have a parent that has stayed 2 hours here and there when coming to pick up their child. It's driving me nuts! This is my time when the other kids are napping and my time to clean, relax, prepare food, etc. I look forward to this quiet time every day. Any suggestions?

She wants a free place to hang out with her child where she doesn't have to pay for the electricity, cable, phone, internet, toys, furniture etc. There's no price for admission and she gets the added benefit of "getting to know you" on a level that isn't usually afforded to home day care clients. She gets to pick the time... she gets to make it last as long as she wants... she gets free child care during it... in other words she is holding you hostage for free and it's AWESOME for her. She won't quit doing it until you don't offer it for free.

Have the kid ready to leave when she gets there. Do the departure as close to the door as you can. Do a quickie communication and then use the phrase "I gotta scoot... cya in the a.m.".

If she insists on it then put a fee on it. A dollar a minute will cure this real quick like. Give the normal three/five minutes to communicate with her the goings on of her kid during the day and then anything after is charged at one dollar per minute.

[alyssyn]

She wants a free place to hang out with her child where she doesn't have to pay for the electricity, cable, phone, internet, toys, furniture etc. There's no price for admission and she gets the added benefit of "getting to know you" on a level that isn't usually afforded to home day care clients. She gets to pick the time... she gets to make it last as long as she wants... she gets free child care during it... in other words she is holding you hostage for free and it's AWESOME for her. She won't quit doing it until you don't offer it for free.

Have the kid ready to leave when she gets there. Do the departure as close to the door as you can. Do a quickie communication and then use the phrase "I gotta scoot... cya in the a.m.".

If she insists on it then put a fee on it. A dollar a minute will cure this real quick like. Give the normal three/five minutes to communicate with her the goings on of her kid during the day and then anything after is charged at one dollar per minute.

What a great idea! This should remedy any lingering parent! Love it!!

[kendallina]

Have the kid ready to leave when she gets there. Do the departure as close to the door as you can. Do a quickie communication and then use the phrase "I gotta scoot... cya in the a.m.".

I agree with this. I'd make it clear that it's time for the kiddo to go when mom gets there and say, "see you tomorrow" and walk away making yourself busy. I also discuss pick-up and departure when I sign parents up, so my parents know that I need pick-up to be quick.

[Abigail]

I agree to have something mentioned in your handbook about keeping pickup and drop off times brief and if they need to talk to you more then they need to call you later or send you an email or arrange for a meeting ahead of time. How did you ever put up with two hours of a parent being around? Did you have other kids around and other parents pick up while this annoying parent was still there?! LOL

[Blackcat31]

I also put it in my handbook saying that pick up and drop off is the most stressful time of the day for a child so keep it quick...if a parent needs to discuss something with me either call, or set up a time where the child is not with so we can talk in private. I have not had too many issues with parents who linger...just one who always says "I just love to watch her play" I am close enough with this mom though that I just say "I'll make you a video now scram!"

[littlemonkeys]

I have this issue with one parent and the worst thing is she is the last one to pick up. I close my DC at 5:30pm... and she comes at 5:30pm and doesn't leave my house until 5:45-6:00ish. I'm usually way too nice to say something, so I gradually migrate to the door hoping she gets the hint. It makes it hard when 6 rolls around and my dinner isn't started. I feel bad for my family sometimes.

[E Daycare]

Im usually getting all my stuff for dinner going by the time the last kid is picked up at my house and so far the smells of dinner and the sound of the vent fan have worked with hauling them out my door. If not, my husband coming home and having to wait for them to move their cars so he can get to his side of the garage usually moves them too. Once the parent is in my house then Im off the clock and its their responsibility to watch their kid and I can go on my merry way. If they dont get the dinner and hubby hint then me walking up to the 3rd level to start my washer is the final kicker.

I once was outside waiting for a friend with their kid in my car because it was well past pick up time and I had plans. Last time I ever babysat for that friend.

[momma2girls]

Now I have the last child in the car seat, ready to go home at his scheduled time to go home. I have supper to get started, places to be, etc....... I don't have time to talk another 10 min. when she is almost always 5 min. late to begin with!! UGHHH!!!!

[laundrymom]

I say,.... Ok guy I love ya but I'm kicking you out and open the door. Smile and say have a great evening.

[MARSTELAC]

I have this issue with one parent and the worst thing is she is the last one to pick up. I close my DC at 5:30pm... and she comes at 5:30pm and doesn't leave my house until 5:45-6:00ish. I'm usually way too nice to say something, so I gradually migrate to the door hoping she gets the hint. It makes it hard when 6 rolls around and my dinner isn't started. I feel bad for my family sometimes.

I have this problem as well. So at 530 when parent arrives, it takes a freaking long time to get the kids' stuff on. I've never seen anyone move so slowly! Do you charge the late fee for the time they are getting their kid ready? FRUSTRATING! I know I have let it go on for toooooo long.

[Kaddidle Care]

I have this issue with one parent and the worst thing is she is the last one to pick up. I close my DC at 5:30pm... and she comes at 5:30pm and doesn't leave my house until 5:45-6:00ish. I'm usually way too nice to say something, so I gradually migrate to the door hoping she gets the hint. It makes it hard when 6 rolls around and my dinner isn't started. I feel bad for my family sometimes.

Go and start the vacuum, smile and wave goodbye to her!

[jen]

This is why I don't allow daycare parents past the entry way! LOL!

[Unregistered]

I had this problem also with a parent, a couple of times she would come in at pick up and sit down with her kids to play becuase they wanted her too. She would stay anywhere between 30 mins to an hr. She would be on an hrly schedule and she would show up unexpectedly all the time. I fixed this problem by writing up a contract stating her set hours, even through she was hrly, had the children ready at the front door or sometimes by the driveway when she was to arrive. Worked out great.