Are You a Hugger?

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  • e.j.
    Daycare.com Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 3738

    #31
    I hug and kiss the kids all the time. Often, one child will be giving me a hug and before I know it, the rest of the kids are all gathered wanting a "group hug". I get hugs when they come in in the morning and good-bye hugs when they leave for the day. Often, they hug each other as they're leaving, too.

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    • spud912
      Trix are for kids
      • Jan 2011
      • 2398

      #32
      I know some kids especially love hugs and I really struggle with that part of the job. It just feels awkward when I hug people outside of my immediate family, but I do try to make a concerted effort.

      I have had some kids who say "I love you" repeatedly within a couple of days of knowing me and I struggle with a response to that too.

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      • DaveA
        Daycare.com Member and Bladesmith
        • Jul 2014
        • 4245

        #33
        Originally posted by spud912

        I have had some kids who say "I love you" repeatedly within a couple of days of knowing me and I struggle with a response to that too.
        I just say some variation of "Thank You" and "I think you're pretty special too".

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        • Jazzii
          Daycare.com Member
          • Jan 2016
          • 75

          #34
          Honestly, depends on the kid. Like there's this one girl that I've known since she was 6 months (she's about to be 4 ๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝ) and I hug her all day long, I hug the babies all day long and others when they ask. A lot of my kids aren't huggers so it's not too often

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          • Miss Suzanne
            Daycare.com Member
            • Jan 2015
            • 10

            #35
            Originally posted by Blackcat31
            same here.

            I am NOT a touchy-feely person by nature and have to make a conscious effort to hug sometimes.

            If my DCK's want one, I have zero issues providing one but its not something I just naturally do.

            If someone makes a movement towards me when greeting me (to hug me, touch my shoulder etc), my natural instinct is to back away.
            Thanks for validating my personality!

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            • Silly Songs
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jun 2014
              • 705

              #36
              This is one thing Um going to miss about my class ! They are mostly buffers and so am I. Of course I'll hug the children I will be with in my new job, but they are a bit older. Thinking about it makes me sad.

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              • MsLisa
                Daycare.com Member
                • Jun 2014
                • 288

                #37
                I'm generally not an "affectionate" person. But when I worked at the Y I always welcomed their hugs and often showed "mom-like" affections for them daily. You know, that shoulder touch or a ruffling of hair. I looked forward to their love. They brought it out of me I guess.... I miss them.

                When I did my time as an infant assistant teacher I was actually reprimanded for "coddling crying babies". Apparently this made it harder for any floater to come in when it was my break (they would get hysterical when I left the room). Especially specific babies who took to me immediately. That made me hate the place. I knew when to hold them and when to let them cry. I'm a mom and i'm not sorry my instinct told me to the right thing. I wasn't going to stop cause other people are jealous/cold/unmotherly. They were just idiots. Goodbye good riddance.

                But yes, kids bring out the love in my usual hard-a*s heart.

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                • Unregistered

                  #38
                  If someone wants a hug I give them one. Some parents try to make their child hug me, but I discourage that. The relationship with each child is slightly different and I try to honor that. It's even true with infants, some are snugglier than others.

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