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I need help, advice and guidance. I have a dcb who is going to be 4 the end of April. He is still not potty trained. He asks to go to the bathroom but that's only when its clean up time or doing something he doesn't want to. He doesn't know how to empty his bladder or have a full pee. Anytime he goes he only dribbles and diaper is always soaked. He has major issues with bowl movements he will sometimes go days (2 to 5) without having one and its a major struggling when it's finally time to go. He panics, complains his bum is sore, his belly is sore, jumps around flailing his arms it's a huge ordeal. I at a loss at what to do. He is on meds to help with his bowl movements. Help!
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sounds like there is a lot going on with this kid.
I would start with the parents and find out what they are doing at home to help the child toilet train.
no way would I approach this at DC if the parents are not doing anything about it at home.
I might also ask the parents to talk to their doctor about the bowl issues to see if they suggest any methods that might be helpful. -
I have a similar situation with a 4, soon to be 5 year old.
However, your dcb is technically still 3 years old until the end of April (you mentioned above) and 3 yrs old is a typical age for potty training- not a late age at all, especially for boys.
Yes, it sounds like he's having tummy issues and holding it in isn't good for their system. It sounds as if the parents are addressing it since you said he's on medication?
When you say "it's major struggling when it's time to go", are you forcing him to sit on the potty?
If so, I'd stop. It just doesn't sound like he's ready.
If he's acting strange while doing a BM in his diaper, then I'd suggest the boy needs to go see an internal specialist.Comment
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I agree with Snowmom and think his unwillingness to go means he is not ready.
If he asks to go before being expected to clean up, I'd be two steps ahead of him and and have a quick potty break right before you announce clean up. Dont remind or tell him to go, just offer the opportunity to all as a blanket opportunity.
Once the planned potty break is over, announce clean up.
If he says he has to go, tell him he had an opportunity to do so before clean up so he'll have to hurry and clean up and then he can go. Part of being trained means being able to wait a few minutes so....
Otherwise, I'd just lay off the potty training all together and wait until he shows signs of being more prepared/ready.Comment
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Always remember it is not your job to potty train a child in your care, especially if he's not showing signs of readiness in your care. BC is right, be 2 steps ahead of him.
I wouldn't even participate in training him, that's the parent's responsibility. 2 weeks accident free and showing signs of readiness, otherwise, it's not my problem.Comment
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