DCF Is Quitting Via Text

[SnowGirl]

Term her today. No notice is necessary. Her case worker told her that, after all.

[daycare]

this is why I refuse to take state paid, among a million other reasons, but I agree with the others, this has nothing to do with the state at all.

I would not allow one more second of care to take place until this was taken care of.

[Annalee]

I do not take state paid children because the subsidy offices here DO NOT support how I charge..they tell clients that "they don't have to do that"....... Well, I guess they will need to find other daycare then won't they!

[Thriftylady]

It amazes me some how differently each state handles this. In some states, providers are not allowed to charge the client a penny, in others the state will allow and even almost enforce your contract.

It is why I am not licensed in Ohio. The only real reason to get that way was to take subsidy payments and honestly they are not worth the hassle to me.

[Unregistered]

She already acknowledged that she is aware that she owes you two weeks notice. She confirmed it in her original text.

Keep that text. It will help you if you go to collections.

[sharlan]

My bet is that the state confirmed the 2 X 0 = 0.

She has paid you nothing since day one, so a two week payment from her is 0.

I doubt the state will be willing to pay more than one minute of unused time, they will have to pay her new provider.

I'd meet her at the door with DCK's things and tell her it is nothing personal, just business.

This is it in a nutshell. I would kindly hand her her children at pickup along with a termination letter and the children's belongings. End of story and move on.

[e.j.]

My bet is that the state confirmed the 2 X 0 = 0.

She has paid you nothing since day one, so a two week payment from her is 0.

I doubt the state will be willing to pay more than one minute of unused time, they will have to pay her new provider.

I'd meet her at the door with DCK's things and tell her it is nothing personal, just business.

I love the suggestion of terming her and telling her it's not personal - just business but then I went back and re-read the info highlighted below:

So this morning she informs me that she contacted her county caseworker and she told her there is no requirement of a notice when our parent/provider agreement says caregiver shall give at least a 10 written notice 😡 I'm on hold now with the state office, why do I need to worry about paperwork, if they are not going to in force it!

So basically....you can't term on the spot. You, as the caregiver have to provide her with 10 days written notice but she doesn't have to provide noticed at all???

[Thriftylady]

I love the suggestion of terming her and telling her it's not personal - just business but then I went back and re-read the info highlighted below:



So basically....you can't term on the spot. You, as the caregiver have to provide her with 10 days written notice but she doesn't have to provide noticed at all???

Honestly if she refused to pay my notice period as per her contract, I would say she termed herself. No pay, no stay!

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I love the suggestion of terming her and telling her it's not personal - just business but then I went back and re-read the info highlighted below:



So basically....you can't term on the spot. You, as the caregiver have to provide her with 10 days written notice but she doesn't have to provide noticed at all???

I read that too, but the provider is not the one terminating care, the mom is, so can't she just be done today? I took it as though the mom wants to start new care on monday, not do a two week notice, so I would think the OP could be done today and that will make everyone happy. Not sure if I am reading it all correctly, but I hope you can be done today OP! That mom is not worth the headache!

[Provider_Manda]

Little update..

So just doing an update.. I allowed her to finish out her two weeks, after her county caseworker admitted her mistake. I'm sticking it out bc that will be $400 for my family. She has made remarks as to "I don't know how'll they will do" and " why can't our schedules work out" well yesterday topped it all. I text her to bring enough diapers and wipes to finish out the week. Her reply was" have you filled their spots yet?, I've been crying and just sick over moving them.i don't think I can" my reply was, yes I fillied one spot already. New baby starts Monday." And then I assured her that it may take some time but that they will adjust. I honestly hated to type that, I've had these kids since birth and I truly love them. But I cannot and will not be her door mate anymore. Did I say the right thing?? I'm just kinda beating myself up over all of this.

[sharlan]

YES!!!! You did the right thing.

[Josiegirl]

I agree with Sharlan!! If you were to take them back now, that would essentially be telling dcm she can call the shots. She should have thought of that in the beginning. I let my emotions in so much with this profession(probably too much at times)but once they give notice there is no coming back. It'd be too easy for them to put you through this all over again.

[Josiegirl]

Just wanted to add:
To answer your question I think what you said was just fine.
I know you're connected to the kids and that's the hard part but you know what?? Monday a new baby starts and you will bond with that child too. And you will soon fill the other spot with another child. And those new kids will capture your heart. lovethis

[Ariana]

It's unfortunate that some great kids have asshats for parents. You did good! She needs to know she can't treat good people like this. Abusers need to be put in their place. Good for you for being strong on this. She is trying to manipulate you.

[Provider_Manda]

I seen her today and she started crying. I felt bad, but reminded her that she is the one that put her 2 wk notice in.