DCF Is Quitting Via Text

[laundrymom]

Do you not have a contract? Whatever it says is what she agreed to when she signed it.

[Provider_Manda]

Do you not have a contract? Whatever it says is what she agreed to when she signed it.

Yes I do.

[MunchkinWrangler]

If she signed your contract ,it is legally enforceable no matter what the case worker says. I know there are rules you have to follow but any contract signed between provider and parent is legally binding. For all you know, she didn't talk to anyone and is just playing games.

This mom sounds like a nightmare and I would not be very accepting of this behavior at all. This just goes to show that with everything you had to put up with from her was a huge sign of disrespect. She has done nothing but try to sway her authority over you. You are the boss, not her.

[Play Care]

Today is her last day. Period.

At pick up I'd hand her child out the door with a:

"Mom, as you do not want to pay your contractually obligated two week notice, care is finished today."

And have the formal term letter in the bag.

Then, shut the front door.

[laundrymom]

This.

Her contract w whatever person she's talking to is between them and her. Her contract w you is what you're enforcing.

If she signed your contract ,it is legally enforceable no matter what the case worker says. I know there are rules you have to follow but any contract signed between provider and parent is legally binding. For all you know, she didn't talk to anyone and is just playing games.

This mom sounds like a nightmare and I would not be very accepting of this behavior at all. This just goes to show that with everything you had to put up with from her was a huge sign of disrespect. She has done nothing but try to sway her authority over you. You are the boss, not her.

[Blackcat31]

So this morning she informs me that she contacted her county caseworker and she told her there is no requirement of a notice when our parent/provider agreement says caregiver shall give at least a 10 written notice 😡 I'm on hold now with the state office, why do I need to worry about paperwork, if they are not going to in force it!

You do not need to discuss this with the state or county.

It has nothing to do with them and EVERYTHING to do with the agreement DCM signed upon enrollment.

Type up the final bill for the two weeks.

Give it to her today and tell her she needs to arrive Monday morning WITH the two weeks payment IN FULL in CASH or DCG will NOT be allowed to stay.

If she fails to show up on Monday morning, then you can proceed to make arrangements for further collection action.
Do not discuss this with her any more. She is trying to bait you into a discussion/disagreement/drama-filled tug-of-war and it honestly has NOTHING to do with the money and everything to do with attention.

You did not bite when she dangled the "personal" concept so she is going to continue trying to be trouble in any way she can just to garner that sought after attention.

Two weeks payment IN FULL IN CASH ON MONDAY AT DROP OFF (or today at pick up if you require payments on Fridays) or NO SERVICES. Period. End of story.

If she balks, I would honestly just tell her to go. GO NOW.

Close the door and be done.

If you can't afford to lose that income, then you can pursue other avenues to collect.

[Blackcat31]

So yesterday evening I came down with a terrible stomach bug. I made the decision to close for the day, trust me it was the best thing to do. Well my dcf that I've had some issues with (vaccine reaction, snack drawer etc.) decided to send me a text last informing me that she is going to be taking them to a center, and did state require a 1-2 wks notice. Already sick, and not wanting to deal with it, I told her 2 wks. She then writes me back late last night and says, you know it's nothing personal right?
Well under the circumstances, the way it was handled I do feel irate. Dh is happy, but I have had this family's kids for 4 1/2 years. I'm aggravated that she done it that way. How it was said. Just on and on. I feel like I should just chalk up my loss and say don't worry about the two weeks. How should I respond to her personal comment? I don't want my feeling to get in the way. I guess I need to start advertising two opens.. Which I don't want to do. But I'm losing over $200/week now
This family has been giving me fits for probably the 4 1/2 years I've had them, but I'm connected to the kids and I just feel like my services meant nothing if you can't even tell me in person.

She already acknowledged that she is aware that she owes you two weeks notice. She confirmed it in her original text.

[Provider_Manda]

She already acknowledged that she is aware that she owes you two weeks notice. She confirmed it in her original text.

She pays me nothing it's all through the state. Ohio redone there poverty levels so she does not even have a copay. But your right she knew about it.

[Play Care]

You do not need to discuss this with the state or county.

It has nothing to do with them and EVERYTHING to do with the agreement DCM signed upon enrollment.

Type up the final bill for the two weeks.

Give it to her today and tell her she needs to arrive Monday morning WITH the two weeks payment IN FULL in CASH or DCG will NOT be allowed to stay.

If she fails to show up on Monday morning, then you can proceed to make arrangements for further collection action.
Do not discuss this with her any more. She is trying to bait you into a discussion/disagreement/drama-filled tug-of-war and it honestly has NOTHING to do with the money and everything to do with attention.

You did not bite when she dangled the "personal" concept so she is going to continue trying to be trouble in any way she can just to garner that sought after attention.

Two weeks payment IN FULL IN CASH ON MONDAY AT DROP OFF (or today at pick up if you require payments on Fridays) or NO SERVICES. Period. End of story.

If she balks, I would honestly just tell her to go. GO NOW.

Close the door and be done.

If you can't afford to lose that income, then you can pursue other avenues to collect.

[MunchkinWrangler]

Honestly, at this point I would just term immediately. I wouldn't put up with this push and pull game. I would even go as far to term right now, tell her to pick up immediately and any texts or any other communication block, don't answer, whatever you can do to just end it and be completely done with her.

If you hear anything from the county, tell them she breached her contract with you and she has been harassing you and you don't want her to contact you anymore. I'm sure she will do this once you get the upper hand.

[Cat Herder]

My bet is that the state confirmed the 2 X 0 = 0.

She has paid you nothing since day one, so a two week payment from her is 0.

I doubt the state will be willing to pay more than one minute of unused time, they will have to pay her new provider.

I'd meet her at the door with DCK's things and tell her it is nothing personal, just business.

[Unregistered]

Do yourself a big favor and save yourself the stress and aggrivation. Be done today. When she picks up have all of their stuff waiting for them at the door. Have them ready and term her immediately.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Is the kids there today? If so, I agree that you should pack up their stuff and tell her goodbye and good luck at pick up. And then breathe a sigh of relief that she is gone!:hug:

[Rockgirl]

Honestly, at this point I would just term immediately. I wouldn't put up with this push and pull game. I would even go as far to term right now, tell her to pick up immediately and any texts or any other communication block, don't answer, whatever you can do to just end it and be completely done with her.

If you hear anything from the county, tell them she breached her contract with you and she has been harassing you and you don't want her to contact you anymore. I'm sure she will do this once you get the upper hand.

I agree--I would be done now.

[laundrymom]

Do yourself a big favor and save yourself the stress and aggrivation. Be done today. When she picks up have all of their stuff waiting for them at the door. Have them ready and term her immediately.

Yes. If you want. And then notify state that she left owing you two weeks. That she refuses to pay.
Here, people get kicked off vouchers for this.