Need Help with Wording for Term Letter

[mama2one]

sorry if this is long....I am at a blank on how I write a termination letter to a dcp, not because of the dcg but because of dcm.
Im going to try to do this as short as possible... DCM has been trying for full custody of dcg and in and out of court for the year I have had her, recently I was asked for another letter for her lawyer and I refused to do it as I had already written one. She tells me at that point she does not know if dcg will be coming anymore as she is not working as of XX date. 2 days later dcm tells me dcg will continue to come to me for now.Fine with me. I get a call from her lawyer today about me testifying against her ex at court tomorrow!!!! I knew nothing about this, no notice no nothing. Obviously I was taken off guard and felt betrayed she never told me a week ago when she knew. (i have only met dcd one time for 10 minutes.... why do i have anything to do with this case)
I immediately call dcm and ask her why she never told me and to figure this all out... Right off the bat she screams at me and is very rude and disrespectful and i was unable to get much talk time. I ended up having to tell her to please come pick up her child I was terminating immediately ... i then was told i was f**** crazy !!!!!
dcms bf arrives to pick up and starts disrespecting me (i have known him for 20 plus years and dcm sat in the car)
I immediately shut him down as I have 1 other dcg in my care and was not discussing it with him. I have put a phone call in to the lawyer just waiting to hear back.
how do i write a term paper for this?? I was unable to get one done before they arrived within 15 minutes from the phone conversation. I plan to mail one to her and her lawyer .

[thrivingchildcarecom]

First of all, try to take a deep breath and give yourself a minute to calm down. I know this is crazy hectic and can be super stressfull too. Sometimes it helps me to take a minute (or two) to process whats happening. Then I feel I can make more rational decisions and moves.

Ok, first of all I don't know about anyone else, but when I got into the business I never thought would have to deal with as many custody and family issues as I have had to. In recent years, I try not to get as involved for various reasons, the first of which is my own sanity. Everyone has a story or a side. Anyway, I think you are doing the right thing by term this family. Moving forward, I would try to be as civil (i.e. professional) as possible to all parties. Parents have too many ways of retaliating these days and I wouldn't want you to suffer even after they are gone.

If you send me a PM I will forward you the brief termination letter that we use. First, make a template to have should you ever need to make an immediate termination again.

I hope this helps to alleviate some of this stress.

[mama2one]

PM sent. Thank you. This entire situation is not something I expected myself in.

[laundrymom]

Dear mom
Childcare services are terminated effective immediately due to your profanity and screaming at me on the phone yesterday. Thank you
Provider.

[sharlan]

DCM

As of today's date, I will no longer be able to provide care for Baby Doe.

DCP

Keep it very short and sweet. Do not add anything extra. I would not bother calling her attorney. That's her problem.

[Thriftylady]

I would be telling the lawyer I will not be in court. Obviously they didn't subpoena you or you would have known about it. If I had no legal obligation to be there, I wouldn't.

[laundrymom]

This.

DCM

As of today's date, I will no longer be able to provide care for Baby Doe.

DCP

Keep it very short and sweet. Do not add anything extra. I would not bother calling her attorney. That's her problem.

[LysesKids]

sorry if this is long....I am at a blank on how I write a termination letter to a dcp, not because of the dcg but because of dcm.
Im going to try to do this as short as possible... DCM has been trying for full custody of dcg and in and out of court for the year I have had her, recently I was asked for another letter for her lawyer and I refused to do it as I had already written one. She tells me at that point she does not know if dcg will be coming anymore as she is not working as of XX date. 2 days later dcm tells me dcg will continue to come to me for now.Fine with me. I get a call from her lawyer today about me testifying against her ex at court tomorrow!!!! I knew nothing about this, no notice no nothing. Obviously I was taken off guard and felt betrayed she never told me a week ago when she knew. (i have only met dcd one time for 10 minutes.... why do i have anything to do with this case)
I immediately call dcm and ask her why she never told me and to figure this all out... Right off the bat she screams at me and is very rude and disrespectful and i was unable to get much talk time. I ended up having to tell her to please come pick up her child I was terminating immediately ... i then was told i was f**** crazy !!!!!
dcms bf arrives to pick up and starts disrespecting me (i have known him for 20 plus years and dcm sat in the car)
I immediately shut him down as I have 1 other dcg in my care and was not discussing it with him. I have put a phone call in to the lawyer just waiting to hear back.
how do i write a term paper for this?? I was unable to get one done before they arrived within 15 minutes from the phone conversation. I plan to mail one to her and her lawyer .

If you weren't served a subpoena then you have no legal reason to show up and if they threaten you, then call the cops & file charges; her lawyer can't just call & say we need you to testify... there are procedures for a reason & he can't prove you were served notice

[mama2one]

thank you all for your help.

[Blackcat31]

I would be telling the lawyer I will not be in court. Obviously they didn't subpoena you or you would have known about it. If I had no legal obligation to be there, I wouldn't.

I WOULD willingly go to court.

I'd tell them exactly what went down at your house yesterday.

[Unregistered]

I WOULD willingly go to court.

I'd tell them exactly what went down at your house yesterday.

Hellz yeah!

[mommyneedsadayoff]

You are not obligated to go to court unless you are issued a subpeona. I would issue the termination letter and STAY OUT OF IT! Document your interactions with dcm and keep them handy, just in case.

[daycarediva]

I WOULD willingly go to court.

I'd tell them exactly what went down at your house yesterday.

YUP! ::

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I will respectfully disagree with willingly going to court and testifying. First off, its best to stay out of it, because you said you have been only dealing with mom and this custody issue since dck started, so you don't know the other side. I would never willingly enter myself into someone's legal battles unless ordered by a court. Mainly because I don't have time for it Taking time off work to go to the hearing, potentially being recalled as a witness, ect. It's time and it's money and it is a pain to find back up care for the other kids in my care. The biggest thing, though, is that even though dcm is being rude and disrespectful, I would not want to testify against her in court and open myself up for future issues. Unless you have had direct contact with her ex, then I don't see how you would be able to offer anything to her case anyway, so it would basically be a waste of time and a headache for you.

[Blackcat31]

I will respectfully disagree with willingly going to court and testifying. First off, its best to stay out of it, because you said you have been only dealing with mom and this custody issue since dck started, so you don't know the other side. I would never willingly enter myself into someone's legal battles unless ordered by a court. Mainly because I don't have time for it Taking time off work to go to the hearing, potentially being recalled as a witness, ect. It's time and it's money and it is a pain to find back up care for the other kids in my care. The biggest thing, though, is that even though dcm is being rude and disrespectful, I would not want to testify against her in court and open myself up for future issues. Unless you have had direct contact with her ex, then I don't see how you would be able to offer anything to her case anyway, so it would basically be a waste of time and a headache for you.

I was being facetious


I'm the loudest member of the forum in regards to providers minding their own business and not crossing those types of boundaries.