Hit on by a DCD

[Unregistered]

I had a dcd hit on me. And dcb said he and dad came to my house at night and looked in the windows. I didn't worry about that since he couldn't see in anywhere that I was at night. I confided in a dcm who was also my friend and she made a point of coming at closing time and being the last one out.
I never told the wife, but ran into her a few years later and they were divorced.

[KidGrind]

It’s common.

A peer had one a couple of father’s test their boundaries. She termed both.

Also a potential client requested a photo of her before the interview to see if she was attractive. The DCM didn’t want an attractive childcare provider.

At Fort Meyers one of the staff ended up pregnant by one of the married DCDs.

[Mad_Pistachio]

The DCM didn’t want an attractive childcare provider.

I was working through the agency for a while, and an agent has found a family that needed a full-time nanny. so, I call the family and talk to the mother, and it's all fun and interesting, and we have a few things in common (both immigrants, both with accents, we know our visas, and all that), and then she asks me how old I am. I go, "I'm 25, ma'am." there is a slightly pregnant pause (about 20 weeks or so), and then she hesitantly says, "I think you are a little too young..." I asked what age nanny she would be more comfortable with (after the "too young" comment I already knew I wasn't getting the job, so I didn't care if she got mad), and she said that someone in their 50's would be appropriate.
now, I don't know for certain, but I kind of felt some insecurity coming from her. it may have been that she was looking for a nanny for a few years, and younger ones tend to get married, pregnant, and leave their jobs... but something told me that she was just cautious to hire a young nanny because she may hit on her husband. maybe she had bad experience before, or she was just plain prejudiced... whatever.
when my agent called me back to ask how it went, I told him exactly what she said. he laughed really hard and then said, "well, I guess we keep searching."

[Josiegirl]

I was working through the agency for a while, and an agent has found a family that needed a full-time nanny. so, I call the family and talk to the mother, and it's all fun and interesting, and we have a few things in common (both immigrants, both with accents, we know our visas, and all that), and then she asks me how old I am. I go, "I'm 25, ma'am." there is a slightly pregnant pause (about 20 weeks or so), and then she hesitantly says, "I think you are a little too young..." I asked what age nanny she would be more comfortable with (after the "too young" comment I already knew I wasn't getting the job, so I didn't care if she got mad), and she said that someone in their 50's would be appropriate.
now, I don't know for certain, but I kind of felt some insecurity coming from her. it may have been that she was looking for a nanny for a few years, and younger ones tend to get married, pregnant, and leave their jobs... but something told me that she was just cautious to hire a young nanny because she may hit on her husband. maybe she had bad experience before, or she was just plain prejudiced... whatever.
when my agent called me back to ask how it went, I told him exactly what she said. he laughed really hard and then said, "well, I guess we keep searching."

Maybe that mom had seen the movie The Hand That Rocked The Cradle. Creepy thriller where the nanny wants the life the mother has and tries to steal it away from her, and murder is not beneath her.

[Mad_Pistachio]

Maybe that mom had seen the movie The Hand That Rocked The Cradle. Creepy thriller where the nanny wants the life the mother has and tries to steal it away from her, and murder is not beneath her.

I had a desire to spank a parent before, but never to kill one ::

[Nisaryn]

Also a potential client requested a photo of her before the interview to see if she was attractive. The DCM didn’t want an attractive childcare provider.

THIS! I have had two DCMs meet me and then decide they didn't want me to care for their children b/c their husbands would have to pick their kids up and were worried about my 'appearance'....at first I didn't know what they meant, did I have something on my face? It was my hubby who clued me in....unfortunately it happens a LOT in the military communities....lonely guys/gals.

[KidGrind]

THIS! I have had two DCMs meet me and then decide they didn't want me to care for their children b/c their husbands would have to pick their kids up and were worried about my 'appearance'....at first I didn't know what they meant, did I have something on my face? It was my hubby who clued me in....unfortunately it happens a LOT in the military communities....lonely guys/gals.

It’s no more prevalent in the military communities than civilian. We’re just a microcosm of larger society.

The photo requesting DCM did state father would be doing all drop offs and pick ups.

[Laurel]

Me either. Now I feel like a dumpster fire.

Me either. Was I not good enough? ::

There was this one time when I worked in a preschool in the early years that this one dad who just happened to be handsome wore this cologne that smelled amazing. I don't like perfumes or colognes or even scented candles as a rule but he smelled great. It took a lot of courage for me to ask him what kind it was because I was afraid he might think I was hitting on him. It took a few weeks but I finally asked and he was really nice about it. It was Polo. I guess that doesn't count though. :dislike:

[Play Care]

I was working through the agency for a while, and an agent has found a family that needed a full-time nanny. so, I call the family and talk to the mother, and it's all fun and interesting, and we have a few things in common (both immigrants, both with accents, we know our visas, and all that), and then she asks me how old I am. I go, "I'm 25, ma'am." there is a slightly pregnant pause (about 20 weeks or so), and then she hesitantly says, "I think you are a little too young..." I asked what age nanny she would be more comfortable with (after the "too young" comment I already knew I wasn't getting the job, so I didn't care if she got mad), and she said that someone in their 50's would be appropriate.
now, I don't know for certain, but I kind of felt some insecurity coming from her. it may have been that she was looking for a nanny for a few years, and younger ones tend to get married, pregnant, and leave their jobs... but something told me that she was just cautious to hire a young nanny because she may hit on her husband. maybe she had bad experience before, or she was just plain prejudiced... whatever.
when my agent called me back to ask how it went, I told him exactly what she said. he laughed really hard and then said, "well, I guess we keep searching."

It could be, but I really think it had to do with you being pregnant. I was on a parenting forum years ago and what I read made me never ever want to nanny. People are brutal to them. They don't like them to have lives and Heaven forbid they got pregnant. There was even a thread, IIRC, titled "oh sh!t, my nanny got knocked up!" And basically it was moms moaning about how they had to figure out how to fire the nanny legally because they didn't want her pregnancy and mat leave interfering with their plans.

[Ariana]

It could be, but I really think it had to do with you being pregnant. I was on a parenting forum years ago and what I read made me never ever want to nanny. People are brutal to them. They don't like them to have lives and Heaven forbid they got pregnant. There was even a thread, IIRC, titled "oh sh!t, my nanny got knocked up!" And basically it was moms moaning about how they had to figure out how to fire the nanny legally because they didn't want her pregnancy and mat leave interfering with their plans.

She said "pregnant pause" not that she was really pregnant. The "20 weeks or so" was a joke.....I think!

[Nisaryn]

It’s no more prevalent in the military communities than civilian. We’re just a microcosm of larger society.

Oh I know that, it's just it is much more visible in the military communities and we're under a lot more scrutiny, especially where our family currently stationed. I mean it's a big base but the housing communities are super tightly knit so you hear a lot, some of it's true and some of it isn't. I know that when I was active duty though it was a game for people to try to hit on the spouse (whether they were AD or civilian) and see if they could get them to cave in and cheat. I had friends that would joke about it...it was more than a little gross and I did have several guys try to see if they could "break" me into going out with them , it never worked . But back to the subject, I have had other spouses tell me that they were uncomfortable with how young I looked and that they didn't trust their husbands not to say/do anything.

[Play Care]

She said "pregnant pause" not that she was really pregnant. The "20 weeks or so" was a joke.....I think!

OMG! I totally read that as she was pregnant! ::

Yeah, it was your age, ::

[Unregistered]

I've had women hit on me (I'm a woman) and other women asked for three ways. The best was all of these women were married to men. The one who wanted a three way said she didn't like having sex with her husband. :/ OK. On the flip side, I had a very unattractive aide when I was in a head start. She got jumped by a bunch of moms who were from her country, because she had been doing their husbands. This woman was like 200lbs. It was like an episode of Jerry Springer.