Hit on by a DCD

[Danny]

Hi guys,

Just wanted to share my wife's experience this past week. I wanted to know if anyone has had a similar experience and what you did.

So my wife started taking care of a 1.5 yr old boy at the beginning of this year. His parents are separated. So last Friday as the dad was leaving after picking up his son he had the nerve to ask my wife out on a date. We are absolutely sure that he knew my wife was married. What's worse is that he did it in front of two other moms that were there picking up their kids. To make this story short, my wife felt so uncomfortable that she told the mom that she could no longer watch her son. What a week...

[Rockgirl]

Wow! Your wife did the right thing in letting them go.

[Blackcat31]

Hi guys,

Just wanted to share my wife's experience this past week. I wanted to know if anyone has had a similar experience and what you did.

So my wife started taking care of a 1.5 yr old boy at the beginning of this year. His parents are separated. So last Friday as the dad was leaving after picking up his son he had the nerve to ask my wife out on a date. We are absolutely sure that he knew my wife was married. What's worse is that he did it in front of two other moms that were there picking up their kids. To make this story short, my wife felt so uncomfortable that she told the mom that she could no longer watch her son. What a week...

It's actually more common than you'd think.

One of our long time members wrote a book about the different types of parents.

She has a chapter called "Creeper Dad"

It sounds alot like your wife's client.

Here is the link to the book.

http://www.amazon.com/Daycare-Whisperer-Doing-Would-Parents/dp/1501035843/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1453331633&sr=8-1&keywords=Tori+Fees

It's an EXCELLENT read!

[Cat Herder]

Very common. All. The. Time.

Eventually she will become a pro at redirecting adult behaviors as well as the children's.

[Thriftylady]

I had it happen years ago in KS. To be fair though, DH knew the guy before I started care. He told me the guy had boundary issues. Back then, I thought I had to take every family that wanted care, and I needed the money. Wish I had not taken that one!

[Josiegirl]

I've never been hit on??

[DaveA]

Unfortunately it is fairly common, and not just the DCDs. Some people are just morons. I used to have a memo a friend gave me from the center she worked at. It said "Although we are not in the habit of telling staff what to do in their personal lives, we strongly encourage staff not to date the parents. Especially the married ones."

Your wife did the right thing terming care for the child. People who don't get it aren't worth the headache.

[Play Care]

I've never been hit on??

Me either. Now I feel like a dumpster fire.

[Thriftylady]

I've never been hit on??

Your DCD's are probably just scared of all those kiddos!

[Josiegirl]

Your DCD's are probably just scared of all those kiddos!

Haha yeh, they've seen them all in action. ::::
Nah I think I have happily married couples. Go figure.

[Silly Songs]

Wow. The stories I could tell ! Not about myself , but other teachers I know in daycare centers ! Yes , even teachers hitting on dads. Very common, although they try to be discreet about it. Big problem with dads and daycare employees dating, even when both are single/divorced. It crosses the line and makes things uncomfortable.

[Annalee]

Wow. The stories I could tell ! Not about myself , but other teachers I know in daycare centers ! Yes , even teachers hitting on dads. Very common, although they try to be discreet about it. Big problem with dads and daycare employees dating, even when both are single/divorced. It crosses the line and makes things uncomfortable.

We have a problem here with teachers hitting on other teachers.....they are getting caught way too much here!

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I have had the "lingering" dad, but I didn't feel uncomfortable by it. I think they were just wanting some conversation, so it didn't feel funny to me. I think it is a good idea to terminate ANY parent who makes you feel uncomfortable or objectified. If you dread pick up or drop off, simply because you will be in contact with a parent who makes you feel weird, it is best to move on

[Ariana]

Yes I have had the "lingering" dad too but I have never been hit on. I also had a dad who would call me about something but then would keep me on the line for a while which to me began to feel uncomfortable....he was one of the lingerers.

I would be so upset if a dad ever crossed that line if I was not single.

[AmyKidsCo]

I've never been hit on??

Ditto! I'm not sure if I should feel disappointed or relieved... ::