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A little background. I have posted about dcb and dcm before. Everyday at pick up dcm asks how his day was. Most days I simply say it was okay. There are days that are rough and I explain to her what made it that way. The rough days seem to have things in common. Like screaming for food, even though he had a good breakfast, screaming when I won't pick him up, screaming when he isn't allowed where the big kids play. Screaming is a common theme. He is also a lot more inquisitive shall we say then any other child I have ever had in care and requires LOTS of redirection.
So last week dcm picked up and asked her usual questions. I told her it was a rough morning but, I pulled out the pnp and sat him in while we did an activity at the table. I explained that he was in the dining room with us, and watched and played with his toys. She was amazed that he didn't scream. I told her he seemed to enjoy it and I was looking into getting a play yard. She didn't understand why. So I explained that there isn't consistency in what he can do at home and what he can do here. For instance, he can't stick things into the printer and he can at home, he can't throw anything here, but he can at home. So when he comes here it is hard to adjust. Plus, the fact that he is here 50hrs a week is hard on him. She then went on to say that those behavior things are things she considers normal and she lets him do what he wants so he won't scream. Also, Early Head Start has asked that I fill out a daily report for him and do an Ages and Stages Questionnaire. I said sure no problem to both. I already did the Ages and Stages. Waiting for her to ask for it. But, I'm dreading the daily report. Do they want to know every time he screams, hits, pinches and throws? Yes, all developmentally appropriate for his age. BUT, these are the reasons he will be put in a play yard. Her other concern is that some of this is the effects of his biological mother using drugs and drinking while pregnant. I told her we needed to be consistent between our two households and that would help immensely and that limits need to be put in place now as it was just going to get harder for her, him and everyone else involved. She agreed but, said she is just so tired(she naps before picking dcb up each day) and so confused on what to do. Now, this woman is a teacher/ teachers assistant for Head Start, has a degree in social work, can tell you everything you need to know about behavior issues but, can't tell her own kid no..
I guess this turned it to a vent.
So last week dcm picked up and asked her usual questions. I told her it was a rough morning but, I pulled out the pnp and sat him in while we did an activity at the table. I explained that he was in the dining room with us, and watched and played with his toys. She was amazed that he didn't scream. I told her he seemed to enjoy it and I was looking into getting a play yard. She didn't understand why. So I explained that there isn't consistency in what he can do at home and what he can do here. For instance, he can't stick things into the printer and he can at home, he can't throw anything here, but he can at home. So when he comes here it is hard to adjust. Plus, the fact that he is here 50hrs a week is hard on him. She then went on to say that those behavior things are things she considers normal and she lets him do what he wants so he won't scream. Also, Early Head Start has asked that I fill out a daily report for him and do an Ages and Stages Questionnaire. I said sure no problem to both. I already did the Ages and Stages. Waiting for her to ask for it. But, I'm dreading the daily report. Do they want to know every time he screams, hits, pinches and throws? Yes, all developmentally appropriate for his age. BUT, these are the reasons he will be put in a play yard. Her other concern is that some of this is the effects of his biological mother using drugs and drinking while pregnant. I told her we needed to be consistent between our two households and that would help immensely and that limits need to be put in place now as it was just going to get harder for her, him and everyone else involved. She agreed but, said she is just so tired(she naps before picking dcb up each day) and so confused on what to do. Now, this woman is a teacher/ teachers assistant for Head Start, has a degree in social work, can tell you everything you need to know about behavior issues but, can't tell her own kid no..
I guess this turned it to a vent.
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