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Throwing Fits!
How do you all deal with children throwing fits first thing in the morning? I have a 3 1/2 yearold who has done this everyday this week. I am done with it! I lay the child down until they stop crying then they can come join the group. What else can I do? Tips to deal with this????
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I agree with this depending how bad it is. I have a six year old that will come in crying, and as soon as mom is out the door it stops. Mom can literally be on the porch and it stops. This mom will carry her in and give her extra hugs and kisses for the crying. She has learned though that throwing a fit here gets you sent right to the crying spot, so she simply quits. If it isn't improving, I may do as BC suggest and send home. I might tell mom at pick up today that you will no longer allow it and if the child comes in throwing a fit, you will be sending home.Comment
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It's always at drop off and the crying last 10 minutes + I know he is doing it for attention. He has done this every day this week!Comment
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I would first try a "crying spot" away from his friends, preferably in another room. I have found with some, if you take away the audience that it is no longer fun because you can't get attention when there is no one near you.
If that didn't work, I would start sending home after a few days. It must be "working" from the child's point of view or they wouldn't be doing it.Comment
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My handbook addresses behaviors during transition. This is what it says:
Transition Issues
Transition times such as drop off and pick-up can be a difficult time for children. Please try to make these times as short as possible.
Years of experience have taught me that children are resilient and usually transition quickly upon drop off if the parent is swift, firm and regular in their separation routines.
Children often feed off of any anxiety or stress a parent exhibits so it is important that you address the child's fears with a reassuring hug/kiss, state your plans to return at the end of the day and follow with a quick exit.
If your child is experiencing any separation anxiety or issues, please rest assured that I will do everything necessary to welcome your child and make their transition from parent to childcare a comfortable and pleasant one.
If your child does not calm down and join the rest of the group within a reasonable amount of time, you will be notified and requested to pick-up if necessary.
If there is anything you need to discuss with me, please set up a time to talk in which we can do so privately and uninterrupted.
Behavior During Transitions
Behavior for some children during these times can result in needing to be disciplined. Should this occur, you will need to be the one in charge.
As your child's parent, you need to be the ultimate authority.
If it becomes necessary for me to step in and discipline your child, alternate drop off/pick up routines will be discussed.Comment
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AGREE! I had a child start doing this around month 6. She was 2 and tantrumming during the day a bit too but I had gotten that under control somewhat. Anyway she started doing this. Bawling her face off at my door, refusing to come in etc. I started calling the parents to come and get her. I once called the dad and he clearly did not believe me that she cried for 45 minutes straight. Anyway after about 2 weeks of this I termed (there were other factors involved in the termination however)Comment
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I had the same problem. He is now 4 and this morning he used his words and told me every morning he feels nervous about joining the group and feels like everyone is looking at him. I just did a training on this yesterday. Not everyone wants attention (I am one of them). I give dcb a spot to warm up and he jumps into the group when he is ready. Some kids don't transition well. I will get the link to the training and post it shortly.
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The webinar was yesterday but they have posted a recording. I agreed with most of the information and there were some good tips and pointers.
Here is the link
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