Appointments

[DanceMom]

What do you do for appointments? I rarely go to the doctor, my husband takes our kids to 95% of their appointments. If I do have to schedule one or take one I make it for the last hour possible and when it doesn't affect the daycare parents...

But..this appontment I had to make for a surgery consult for my daughter was made a bit before one daycare mom was off work so I need an early pick up. Like seriously 20 min.
Her response was"I'll do what I can to get there"
Which I interpret there's a possibility she cannot be here early to pick up.
I bend over backwards for these people and feel like they have zero cares about me or my life.

WWYD? Am I overreacting ? Would u respond or just hope she gets here on time.

[Leigh]

What do you do for appointments? I rarely go to the doctor, my husband takes our kids to 95% of their appointments. If I do have to schedule one or take one I make it for the last hour possible and when it doesn't affect the daycare parents...

But..this appontment I had to make for a surgery consult for my daughter was made a bit before one daycare mom was off work so I need an early pick up. Like seriously 20 min.
Her response was"I'll do what I can to get there"
Which I interpret there's a possibility she cannot be here early to pick up.
I bend over backwards for these people and feel like they have zero cares about me or my life.

WWYD? Am I overreacting ? Would u respond or just hope she gets here on time.

She MAY just have responded like that to let you know that she's going to make it work. She may have meant that she'll get there if it doesn't inconvenience her too much. I would just respond with something like: I will be leaving my house at 4:20, if you're not able to ensure you can get here, please be sure to arrange for someone else to get her picked up. I can not leave any later than 4:20.

[Thriftylady]

I have had to learn not to "ask" people to do things. When you ask, they seem to always think they have an option. So instead of saying "could you please pick up by 4 as I need to leave", I say "I am going to have to close at X time on this day, I need all children than X".

[MunchkinWrangler]

She MAY just have responded like that to let you know that she's going to make it work. She may have meant that she'll get there if it doesn't inconvenience her too much. I would just respond with something like: I will be leaving my house at 4:20, if you're not able to ensure you can get here, please be sure to arrange for someone else to get her picked up. I can not leave any later than 4:20.

I agree. Texts are so hard to read, and definitely make it known that you cannot miss this appointment and give her options, like her getting someone else to pick up. Do you have anyone that can sub for you, just in case. I'm sure she meant she will get there and she's going to make her best effort to do so.

[Annalee]

Never "ask" but always "tell". I have taken all holidays and follow the school schedule with the exception of summer...this gives me several days to schedule my appointments without getting into my vacation, personal time. I tell parents at interview that if something arises, i can't just place anyone in my home therefore leading to emergency closings. This is our livelihood and our HOME. Good luck

[Blackcat31]

I operate on contracted hours so I know EXACTLY when parents will be here to pick up. If they are late, there is a hefty fee to pay so it rarely if ever happens.

Contacted hours assures me that I wont have to worry and wonder when and if a parent will arrive on time. Contracted hours also allows me to plan and go to appointments pretty far in advance too.

I agree with the others though....never ask; tell.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I agree with the PPs. Just as with children, if it is a non negotiable, then I tell them what I need from them, not ask.

[DanceMom]

I did not "ask" - I told her I was having to close at 4:15 and needed dcb picked up by then. It wasn't and isn't an option.

To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.

[Thriftylady]

The only reason I brought up asking, is because that is what I used to do. Hopefully you get it worked out. Sometimes we have to take care of our family and they have to understand that.

[Blackcat31]

I did not "ask" - I told her I was having to close at 4:15 and needed dcb picked up by then. It wasn't and isn't an option.

To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.

Maybe reply back with something like "I know you will do your best but it absolutely vital that I am at this appointment on time. If you are unable to leave your work by X time, please make sure you send your back up person. Thank you"

[DanceMom]

The only reason I brought up asking, is because that is what I used to do. Hopefully you get it worked out. Sometimes we have to take care of our family and they have to understand that.

Same with me - I used to ask and learned to tell.
Thanks !!

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I did not "ask" - I told her I was having to close at 4:15 and needed dcb picked up by then. It wasn't and isn't an option.

To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.

In that case, as a previous poster said, a text back may be in order. "Okay, we will see you at 4:15! If you have issues being here on time, just let me know who you will be sending as a back up to pick up dck instead."

[DanceMom]

Maybe reply back with something like "I know you will do your best but it absolutely vital that I am at this appointment on time. If you are unable to leave your work by X time, please make sure you send your back up person. Thank you"

Ha ! Love this ! Thanks !

[Play Care]

Agree with what everyone else said BUT I take time off as needed to deal with appointments. I refuse to let my health suffer for a job.

I also have a substitute that covers for me as needed. I've been able to take younger DD to all her orthodontist appointments so far without having to close. happyface
If you can swing it I highly recommend it.

[DanceMom]

Agree with what everyone else said BUT I take time off as needed to deal with appointments. I refuse to let my health suffer for a job.

I also have a substitute that covers for me as needed. I've been able to take younger DD to all her orthodontist appointments so far without having to close. happyface
If you can swing it I highly recommend it.

This is what it's for too - ortho appointments (gum surgery to get her gap to close ) - they will be the death of me 😁