Getting sick of a DCK...

[KristinsHomeCC]

I've had this DCK for 9 months now. He is my orginal DCK. I freakin' *LOVE* his parents, man. They pay a whole month in advance and at once. I never have to ask, remind, or tell them when diapers are needed. They are just the perfect family home daycare family. My son has bit DCK several times since hes been here and they are more than understanding. I feel like I will never find a more perfect fit, family wise.

Child wise --he drives me nuts. He just turned 2. He cries the second I turn the corner to another room. His cry is loud, annoying and it really messes up my day when it wakes my 8 month old DCK and/or the 4 month old. He goes from normal to full on scream in 1.3 seconds. I feel like I don't enjoy him anymore. Is this normal? I shower all of my other DCKs with love all day but he is just a kid I don't connect with on that level.

He is going to be gone this week Tue-Fri and will return Monday. I think I may do an experiment this week and see if he is where my unhappiness lies.

[Thriftylady]

I have one right now I don't like very much. Her siblings are great, mom is great to work with. But she is 3 and whines and complains about everything. Not to the point it makes me miserable or anything, but it gets on my nerves.

[Stacy01]

I have a few kids like this the drive me nuts. I just keep telling myself it is only for x amount of time or in a year she will be in Kindergarten. I also always remind myself that I am not stuck with them and in so many hours I can give them back to mom and dad. Maybe try putting in 1 ear bud playing soft music so you can tune out the crying. When I get overwhelmed with noise I sing to myself or put on music soft so I have to really focus on the music to hear it.

[Play Care]

I truly believe that you're not going to "click" with every child in your care, and so long as you can do your job, I don't believe it matters.

I currently have two boys in my care who I just can't click with. The older boy is whiny, defiant at times, and generally just very immature for his age. The younger brother is similar. They were off Friday and it was a nice treat. But they are here today and it is what it is - a paycheck.
The key is this - they don't know we don't click. They get hugs and head pats and books read and projects offered. They get smilies and special activities. Yes they are more work but I refuse to let them ruin my mood.

Honestly, I've done this long enough that if I have good parents, I will do everything I can to make it work with the kids, ya know? So if I had to set up a crying spot away from everyone else and put him there every.single. time. I would. Or nap him separately so his attention seeking screams don't wake/bother others, etc. etc. etc. The few times I've termed it's been because the behavior was dangerous or it affected everyone in the day care and the parents were clueless.

[Blackcat31]

I've had this DCK for 9 months now. He is my orginal DCK. I freakin' *LOVE* his parents, man. They pay a whole month in advance and at once. I never have to ask, remind, or tell them when diapers are needed. They are just the perfect family home daycare family. My son has bit DCK several times since hes been here and they are more than understanding. I feel like I will never find a more perfect fit, family wise.

Child wise --he drives me nuts. He just turned 2. He cries the second I turn the corner to another room. His cry is loud, annoying and it really messes up my day when it wakes my 8 month old DCK and/or the 4 month old. He goes from normal to full on scream in 1.3 seconds. I feel like I don't enjoy him anymore. Is this normal? I shower all of my other DCKs with love all day but he is just a kid I don't connect with on that level.

He is going to be gone this week Tue-Fri and will return Monday. I think I may do an experiment this week and see if he is where my unhappiness lies.

It sounds like he is not a good fit for your program.

Perhaps he senses your dislike as well?
Also, the fact that he is a target for your DS and biting also says he may do better in a different environment.

[Ariana]

I find it really difficult to have both great parents AND a great kid and for some odd reason the great parents never have "great" kids!

You don't have to have that "loving feeling" for every DCK in my opinion. It sounds like this kid has attachment issues which can make it difficult to be around because they tend to be extremely clingy.