New Kid New Problems

[TXhomedaycare]

I have finally got my 4 yo old son under control at daycare and I now have my just turned 4 yo dcb tantrum thrower under control (had come to Jesus moment with mom and she is finally on board) happyface . This week I have a new 3 yo dcb whose mom is a director at a daycare center . When I interviewed he was fine but he does really well with his mother around. I think what he is used to is misbehaving when she is not around. I think she decided to not send him to daycare because he is a handful and needs a lot of one on one attention. He is loud always talking with an outside voice. He is disrespectful, stomping, pouting and grunting when I tell him to clean up, walk or anything he does not want to hear. He fake cries and throws tantrums on a regular basis. He talks and does not listen and he assumes everyone is attacking him and handles everything in an aggressive manor. The reason for my post is that I have a 2 week trail period to see if we can make this work and I have seen a lot of improvement from when he started till today (5 days). I truly think he ran the show at his other daycare and he is learning that is not the case here and depending on how much he improves next week I will have to decide if this is a challenge I want to take on or not. Mom is on board but I don't know if I am. I just would like some feedback and suggestions on if this is something I should take on and tips on how to get him to not feel everyone is a threat to him. My one year old son went to give him a high five and he ducked and started yelling at him

[Blackcat31]

I have finally got my 4 yo old son under control at daycare and I now have my just turned 4 yo dcb tantrum thrower under control (had come to Jesus moment with mom and she is finally on board) happyface . This week I have a new 3 yo dcb whose mom is a director at a daycare center . When I interviewed he was fine but he does really well with his mother around. I think what he is used to is misbehaving when she is not around. I think she decided to not send him to daycare because he is a handful and needs a lot of one on one attention. He is loud always talking with an outside voice. He is disrespectful, stomping, pouting and grunting when I tell him to clean up, walk or anything he does not want to hear. He fake cries and throws tantrums on a regular basis. He talks and does not listen and he assumes everyone is attacking him and handles everything in an aggressive manor. The reason for my post is that I have a 2 week trail period to see if we can make this work and I have seen a lot of improvement from when he started till today (5 days). I truly think he ran the show at his other daycare and he is learning that is not the case here and depending on how much he improves next week I will have to decide if this is a challenge I want to take on or not. Mom is on board but I don't know if I am. I just would like some feedback and suggestions on if this is something I should take on and tips on how to get him to not feel everyone is a threat to him. My one year old son went to give him a high five and he ducked and started yelling at him

Personally I think you are using your trial period exactly as one should and I think you already know the answer to your question and I agree.

If the improvement is not enough or he still causes a great deal of stress by the end of this next week, let mom know its not working out.

If he continues to get on board with your routine and rules, then cool!

Some kids will surprise you... both in good and bad ways.

[Ariana]

Personally I think you are using your trial period exactly as one should and I think you already know the answer to your question and I agree.

If the improvement is not enough or he still causes a great deal of stress by the end of this next week, let mom know its not working out.

If he continues to get on board with your routine and rules, then cool!

Some kids will surprise you... both in good and bad ways.

I agree! I personally have a 6 week trial period because I'm not sure I could decide in 2 weeks myself. Good luck!

[Thriftylady]

If you are seeing some improvement but not enough, write up an agreement with mom to extend the trial period. Put on it what you want to see improving and how long you will give it.