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So I have a dcg, 18 mos, that I am having nap issues with. She has not ever had a great napping schedule and has been hit or miss. But she would rest quietly if she woke early or took a bit to fall asleep.
The past 3 months or so, she had been crying for upwards of an hour before falling asleep, waking after 30 mins-1 hour, and then crying again.
Since being sick a few weeks ago (approx 6 weeks), she hasn't been napping at all. If she does, it is 20 mins max. And then wakes crying.
She is only here for 3 more months and I am torn on how to work this out, or just replace (I have been interviewing with not much success, everyone has nap issues!), or just deal. If she would rest quietly all the time, it would not be a huge issue. If she was not exhausted come the end of the day, I would not be concerned. The last 2 hours of her day are awful, as you can imagine. She is also getting more clumsy because she is so tired. She is done by 4 pm and is here until 5:30. Mornings are now affected.
I have chatted with dcm briefly a few times. Dcm has alternated between thinking it's b/c dcg does not need a nap, making cutesy little jokes about it or just getting glassy eyed when I bring it up. Dcm hasn't seemed convinced that it was an issue until a few weeks ago when dcg missed her naps at home on the weekend. I recommended a book, and told her flat out that she needs to be napping here. At home, she is in bed at 7/7:30 and wakes up at 7. Here at 8 am. So getting all of her sleep at night. I told mom that she needs to be napping here 2 hours at the least and that may mean pushing night time back.
This convo was 2 weeks ago. Dcg was out last week due to illness and we are right back where we started. Now throw in the holidays, etc and I imagine January will be awful.
Wwyd? How can I put this back on the parents in a non confrontational way? Parents are not overly receptive to suggestions and dcg is very coddled. I plan to approach it from 'It is in dcg's best interest.... She needs to have daytime sleep here because..... It is affecting her day by.... Her balance is off when she is tired and I am afraid that she will hurt herself..." I guess it has been my experience that when I approach it via this method that dcps generally don't care because they don't have to deal with it, kwim? Maybe it's my delivery.
Now yesterday (her first day back after illness) she was whiny in the morning and looked exhausted. She did not sleep AT ALL. She had a horrible afternoon. I told dcd at pick up exactly what her day was like (I am upfront with parents). Dcm just sent a text that they let her sleep in today and that when she sleeps in at home that she generally does not need a nap until an hour later than normal. This is what I am up against (despite repeated 'group care' convos).
The only other options I can think of are:
* Dcg needs to be on the group schedule (including napping) or I will not be able to continue care for her
* Call for pick up when she is overly tired and not napping.
The past 3 months or so, she had been crying for upwards of an hour before falling asleep, waking after 30 mins-1 hour, and then crying again.
Since being sick a few weeks ago (approx 6 weeks), she hasn't been napping at all. If she does, it is 20 mins max. And then wakes crying.
She is only here for 3 more months and I am torn on how to work this out, or just replace (I have been interviewing with not much success, everyone has nap issues!), or just deal. If she would rest quietly all the time, it would not be a huge issue. If she was not exhausted come the end of the day, I would not be concerned. The last 2 hours of her day are awful, as you can imagine. She is also getting more clumsy because she is so tired. She is done by 4 pm and is here until 5:30. Mornings are now affected.
I have chatted with dcm briefly a few times. Dcm has alternated between thinking it's b/c dcg does not need a nap, making cutesy little jokes about it or just getting glassy eyed when I bring it up. Dcm hasn't seemed convinced that it was an issue until a few weeks ago when dcg missed her naps at home on the weekend. I recommended a book, and told her flat out that she needs to be napping here. At home, she is in bed at 7/7:30 and wakes up at 7. Here at 8 am. So getting all of her sleep at night. I told mom that she needs to be napping here 2 hours at the least and that may mean pushing night time back.
This convo was 2 weeks ago. Dcg was out last week due to illness and we are right back where we started. Now throw in the holidays, etc and I imagine January will be awful.
Wwyd? How can I put this back on the parents in a non confrontational way? Parents are not overly receptive to suggestions and dcg is very coddled. I plan to approach it from 'It is in dcg's best interest.... She needs to have daytime sleep here because..... It is affecting her day by.... Her balance is off when she is tired and I am afraid that she will hurt herself..." I guess it has been my experience that when I approach it via this method that dcps generally don't care because they don't have to deal with it, kwim? Maybe it's my delivery.
Now yesterday (her first day back after illness) she was whiny in the morning and looked exhausted. She did not sleep AT ALL. She had a horrible afternoon. I told dcd at pick up exactly what her day was like (I am upfront with parents). Dcm just sent a text that they let her sleep in today and that when she sleeps in at home that she generally does not need a nap until an hour later than normal. This is what I am up against (despite repeated 'group care' convos).
The only other options I can think of are:
* Dcg needs to be on the group schedule (including napping) or I will not be able to continue care for her
* Call for pick up when she is overly tired and not napping.
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