My Foot in Mouth Moment

[Baby Beluga]

I have a DCB - he is sweet and funny but stubborn and strong willed to a T. He is my most challenging DCK.

I have a security door and he likes to play with it during pick up. In fact a couple of days after the door was installed DCB slammed it into my wall and made a large hole in the stucco. To this day DCB still plays with the door. He pushes it, kicks it, runs his hands on the metal - you name it, he does it. I have tried correcting him. Taking his hand, etc and DCD does nothing. He will half heartily say "DCB...." At pick up while I was trying to talk to DCD, DCB was messing with the door. I told him to stop and he continued. I tried to take his hand and he pulled away. I said "DCB, why do you think it is funny to push buttons. You know we don't touch the door." After I said it I immediately regretted it. It was said out of frustration for this child and DCD's lackadaisical attitude. I should have handled the situation better.

[Rockgirl]

I have a DCB - he is sweet and funny but stubborn and strong willed to a T. He is my most challenging DCK.

I have a security door and he likes to play with it during pick up. In fact a couple of days after the door was installed DCB slammed it into my wall and made a large hole in the stucco. To this day DCB still plays with the door. He pushes it, kicks it, runs his hands on the metal - you name it, he does it. I have tried correcting him. Taking his hand, etc and DCD does nothing. He will half heartily say "DCB...." At pick up while I was trying to talk to DCD, DCB was messing with the door. I told him to stop and he continued. I tried to take his hand and he pulled away. I said "DCB, why do you think it is funny to push buttons. You know we don't touch the door." After I said it I immediately regretted it. It was said out of frustration for this child and DCD's lackadaisical attitude. I should have handled the situation better.

Honestly? I think you did fine. Dcd should be taking control, but he isn't, and dcb has already damaged your property. I hope dcd does better at handling him now.

[Thriftylady]

That doesn't seem so bad to me. Hopefully DCD took a hint!

[NillaWafers]

That sounds like you sticking up for yourself, not putting your foot in your mouth.

Even if DC parents are there I will correct their kids if they don't. I have boundaries and I don't think letting them cross it just because mom and dad are there is the best for me or them.

I hope the DCD just takes a hint and is more proactive with enforcing rules next time!

[daycarediva]

I don't think that's out of line AT ALL. I would have said

"dcb, you know the rule is not to touch the door. If you do it again, you will have to sit in time out."

Don't care if Dad's there or not. Kid is probably doing it because he knows your power is limited.

[Baby Beluga]

I don't think that's out of line AT ALL. I would have said

"dcb, you know the rule is not to touch the door. If you do it again, you will have to sit in time out."

Don't care if Dad's there or not. Kid is probably doing it because he knows your power is limited.

Exactly.

Thank you all for making me feel slightly better about this. I am not upset with myself for saying something - but more for how I said it. If that makes sense.