Carried Away with Carrying In....

**Blackcat31** · 12-15-2015, 12:29 PM

I see the same thing here too... kids I KNOW behave so much older than their parent's give them the opportunity to.

I think a lot of it is that it's easier to manage your child when they are carried etc... or that parents don't want their child to grow up so they baby them as long as they can.

**Thriftylady** · 12-15-2015, 12:30 PM

I have a kindy kid who comes in at 6 every morning. She is 6. Mom carries her in crying. Mom sets her on the couch and she continues to cry until the door shuts when mom leaves. The second the door shuts, she quit crying. And there are never any tears!

**MissAnn** · 12-15-2015, 12:34 PM

Originally posted by Blackcat31

I see the same thing here too... kids I KNOW behave so much older than their parent's give them the opportunity to.

I think a lot of it is that it's easier to manage your child when they are carried etc... or that parents don't want their child to grow up so they baby them as long as they can.

They don't realize it, I'm sure. It hinders their development. Last year I had a very capable group. The parents were on board with the self help skills training and the kids were so much more confident. They saw themselves as capable and beamed with pride with each new accomplishment. It makes such a difference.

I just hope this one boy will go to kindergarten I underwear!

**MissAnn** · 12-15-2015, 12:39 PM

Originally posted by Thriftylady

I have a kindy kid who comes in at 6 every morning. She is 6. Mom carries her in crying. Mom sets her on the couch and she continues to cry until the door shuts when mom leaves. The second the door shuts, she quit crying. And there are never any tears!

Exactly!!!!! The boy I have is also an early kid. She is always asking him what is wrong.....using a baby voice. I tell her that he is putting on a show. She doesn't buy it. That's why I'd like to have a video of it.

**daycare** · 12-15-2015, 01:24 PM

you guys would hate me. My son is 8 and I still try to carry him if he will let me.

One day he won't want to let me hold him, hug him and love on him like he does not and each year he gets more and more distant. He only does it at home, he would kill me if I even thought of doing that outside of the home. BUT if he let me I would...

**Thriftylady** · 12-15-2015, 01:31 PM

Originally posted by daycare

you guys would hate me. My son is 8 and I still try to carry him if he will let me.

One day he won't want to let me hold him, hug him and love on him like he does not and each year he gets more and more distant. He only does it at home, he would kill me if I even thought of doing that outside of the home. BUT if he let me I would...

I don't think I would hate you, but you know who will before you know it? Your poor poor back!

**daycare** · 12-15-2015, 01:43 PM

Originally posted by Thriftylady

I don't think I would hate you, but you know who will before you know it? Your poor poor back!

nah...I figure that I have about a few months left of being able to over do the loving with him. He knows that anywhere else he has to be a young man and manage himself.

I have older kids and I can hardly hug them so i am getting in all I can until I can't...

**spud912** · 12-15-2015, 02:13 PM

Originally posted by daycare

you guys would hate me. My son is 8 and I still try to carry him if he will let me.

One day he won't want to let me hold him, hug him and love on him like he does not and each year he gets more and more distant. He only does it at home, he would kill me if I even thought of doing that outside of the home. BUT if he let me I would...

I still carry my 6 year old downstairs in the morning when I wake her up for school

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**daycare** · 12-15-2015, 02:51 PM

Originally posted by spud912

I still carry my 6 year old downstairs in the morning when I wake her up for school

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hahahahha. is she your youngest?

**Ariana** · 12-15-2015, 03:59 PM

I just had to "force" a mom to hold her child's hand to the car instead of picking her up. DCG doesn't want to be picked up but mom has major control over everything she does which contributes to so many issues, especially anger from DCG towards her mom. Mom flat out told me "she refuses to hold my hand" so I showed her how to create expectations for the child "Hold mommies hand or mommy will have to pick you up". I reiterated to her that if she didn't hold moms hand she was going to be picked up and guess what? she held her hand the whole way!!

A lot of parents just want control at the expense of the child's normal development and boundary testing.

**spud912** · 12-15-2015, 05:37 PM

Originally posted by daycare

hahahahha. is she your youngest?

NO :

:

! She is my oldest!! My youngest IS practically a baby still (she is 15 months). For some reason I get this weird mom guilt that my oldest is growing so fast and I won't be able to do it much longer and I need to take it all in before it's gone forever.

**mommiebookworm** · 12-15-2015, 05:57 PM

I still carry my five year old. When she lets me! Shes tiny though, only 30 lbs.

**Mad_Pistachio** · 12-15-2015, 07:37 PM

when we just started the daycare, every time at pickup, I'd carry my daughter out to the car (she was 2). the director once commented on "why is Mommy carrying you, you can walk just fine" and I answered that I was not carrying her because she wanted me to, but because it was me who had attachment issues, and I was working on it, but it may take some time. I just couldn't get my hands off of her after she was there for 6-7-8 hours.
now, 1.5 years into, she won't let me hold her anymore. miss Independence... boy, am I glad I didn't stop holding her cold turkey after the director's comments cause now she ended it. (and half a year ago she demanded her Dad put her to bed every night, so I lost that one, too.)
yeah, I have issues all right.

**NoMoreJuice!** · 12-15-2015, 09:19 PM

Lol, as soon as I saw the title of the post I totally rolled my eyes.

I have SO MANY of these baby-talking large-kid-carrying moms. It's so hilarious to watch the self-sufficient smart kids that I teach revert to sobbing toddlers when their moms show up. One mom in particular is having the absolute worst time...she has such a tiny frame, but two children (3 and almost 5) who both INSIST on being carried. She tried doing one at a time but the one left behind threw horrendous fits (which, honestly, I don't mind...I'm totally fine with kids drowning in a pool of their own tears for things like that, but she couldn't handle it). So now she hoists the big kid onto her and the little one clambers up. It's insane.

One mom insists on baby-talky-wocky to her wittle boy, who is a gigantic 5 year old. When she talks about him in her presence, she talks in baby talk. "My wittle boy doesn't wike weaving his fwends!" she will say to me. I seriously just stare blankly at her until she realizes we're both adults and translates back to engwish.

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