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Yes I have that dang elf on the shelf...going on the 4th year now I believe. Anyways my dcks won't stop spoiling the surprise for my own sons. Unfortunately my daycare and home are all together so I don't have much choice as to where I can place it without the dcks being involved. But I tell them constantly not to say anything to my boys, like every single morning! This morning one girl came in and demanded her mother help her look for it, and the mother looked for it...going into my kitchen and other areas!!!! Ugh rude!!! I cannot wait to be off and enjoy the holidays with my fily.
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"I dont know where he is. Hmmm that's a good question. Maybe he's telling Santa you spoiled the fun for ("insert sons name)
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Hide the elf after hrs (like before you go to bed) and have your kids look for him BEFORE the daycare kids show up... My dd always hides "Mr Elferton" after her kids are asleep. As to the nosy mom, give her a warning that your house has private places and to stop spoiling your children fun just because her snowflake demands to lookComment
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Perhaps this mom thought she was helping her DD engage in a daycare activity. Was she aware that it wasn't for the DCK's?
Personally I think that if you are going to do the Elf for just your kids then you need to do it only when daycare kids aren't present.
If DCK's are there when your kids are looking that isn't very fair in my opinion.Comment
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Sometimes, the daycare kids have to learn we're just providers/they don't live here. Like today, I had some banana bread that my mil made. Literally the last slice. DH ate half and the rest went to my kids. One of my girls was staring me down. I ate it right in front of her. When am I supposed to eat? I can't share it with all of them.Comment
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"Staring me down" :
: I have a special diet I have to follow due to allergies, so I have to eat different foods at every meal. And I always eat after the kids, because breakfast and lunch are way too busy. Just keeping telling them that this is "my food, my breakfast, my lunch," etc. Eventually it's not a big deal.
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Maybe I'm mean, but this is my business and more importantly my HOME. I eat what I want when I want. What they going to do when they go to school and someone else has a different lunch? Take it?"Staring me down" :: I have a special diet I have to follow due to allergies, so I have to eat different foods at every meal. And I always eat after the kids, because breakfast and lunch are way too busy. Just keeping telling them that this is "my food, my breakfast, my lunch," etc. Eventually it's not a big deal.Comment
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As far as the op's issue, I would try to put elf somewhere where the dcks don't have access to. If that is not a possibility, I would either wake my own up a bit earlier so they could search first before the dcks arrive OR elfie would make his reappearance after dinner and the hunt would happen in the evening and then he would visit the North Pole in the day. Santa may need some extra help with the toys
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I absolutely disagree. I do not think a provider wanting to do Elf on the Shelf in FRONT of daycare kids but ONLY allowing her children to participate is something the kids "just have to learn".
If I were the parent, I would and did pull my kids from a child care where the provider felt the same way.
Your example of eating something is in no way even comparable. I eat different things in front of my DCK's too but not because "this is my home".
I do it because I am the adult and I, as an adult do different things than the DCK's get to do because they aren't adults.
Playing a game such as EotS that is a delight to millions of kids this time of year is like sitting one kid at the table and giving him/her a candy bar but telling the other kids they don't get any. Or having Santa come visit but only letting one kid sit on his lap.
I think it's inconsiderate and rude to do. I think the fair, adult, logical and mature thing to do would be have any and all "special" family traditions/rituals etc when ONLY family are present. Doing these things in the presence of DCK's and expecting them to understand shows the OP's lack of empathy and understanding.
No one forced anyone to open a child care in their home BUT because that choice was made, there are simply certain things that I feel are no longer options.Comment
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I have to agree that if EOTS is part of your day then either have your kids look before Daycare starts or all together.I know its hard to share with daycare kids ,but we did start the in home business.I had a real hard time when my Grandsons were in my program. I so wanted to be a "nice"Grandmother.I had to treat them just like all the other kids I cared for. It was still better to have them everyday in my group as opposed to once and awhile. Your children have such a great day to be able to be in their home with their Mom all day. You can make it work.What about 2 elves one for DC hidden in your main playroom.The other could be in your childrens room or somewhere the DC kids do not go.Make up your own rules.Comment
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I got side tracked with the food thing, but yeah...EotS you really can't separate easily.I absolutely disagree. I do not think a provider wanting to do Elf on the Shelf in FRONT of daycare kids but ONLY allowing her children to participate is something the kids "just have to learn".
If I were the parent, I would and did pull my kids from a child care where the provider felt the same way.
Your example of eating something is in no way even comparable. I eat different things in front of my DCK's too but not because "this is my home".
I do it because I am the adult and I, as an adult do different things than the DCK's get to do because they aren't adults.
Playing a game such as EotS that is a delight to millions of kids this time of year is like sitting one kid at the table and giving him/her a candy bar but telling the other kids they don't get any. Or having Santa come visit but only letting one kid sit on his lap.
I think it's inconsiderate and rude to do. I think the fair, adult, logical and mature thing to do would be have any and all "special" family traditions/rituals etc when ONLY family are present. Doing these things in the presence of DCK's and expecting them to understand shows the OP's lack of empathy and understanding.
No one forced anyone to open a child care in their home BUT because that choice was made, there are simply certain things that I feel are no longer options.Comment
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I hide our elf in my dds room a lot and save the really special things for the weekend. Dd I also up before kids get dropped off though.Comment
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