How to Tell If a Child Has Been Drugged?

[Rockgirl]

Even if he was sick or injured I still would send home. To much liability either way. The child wouldn't be in my home very long acting so out of the normal range.

Absolutely--I would've sent the child home, too. I was responding to the above poster who had said OP should've had a backbone and told dcm to take her own child to the parade....we don't actually know that dcm drugged the child for a nap.

[auntymimi]

Sorry I didn't update, very busy day! Grandma came to pick up and was super irritated. "You send him home because he's sleeping, you send home because he won't sleep. What is it you want!?" I explained that I thought his lethargy was abnormal and I thought he should be checked out. She was pissed but took him and left. When mom came to pick up the other 2 I asked her "did dcb have any medicine or anything, he was just acting so weird". She said no but looked guilty. I then went on to talk about how dangerous even over the counter meds are for kids that age and that's why they don't even make cough syrup for kids under 6, it can depress the nervousness system blah, blah, blah. This is the same family with the little girl with bad teeth. I'd hate to term, these kids have come so far with me and I'd be losing 3 kids but it's coming to that. This family is a mess. Dcb was back with me today, though, and his usual screamer self. Never thought I'd be so happy to see a difficult kid in all his glory! I do think mom KNOWS that I know, I doubt she'll pull that again.

[Ariana]

Wow!! I am in shock!! Drugging her child and Rude behavior from grandma?! This family needed to be terminated yesterday.

[auntymimi]

This is why we have to grow back bones as providers. This could have all be avoided if you just said "That's great you want to go to. However do to X,Y, and/or Z, you can WILL take your kids and I will take mine. I just can't manage to take all of the children with me because of X,Y, and/or Z. See you at pick up time". Big smile.

I didn't fully explain it in the post but mom knew that my Dh would take my kids and I would have to keep her 3 at the house with me if baby was super tired. She could have stayed at work either way, but her 4 and 10 yo would have been disappointed. Or her mom and dad (grandma and grandpa) could have picked up on early/on time. There were options. I also can't prove that she did this. Maybe he was just coming down with something. I have my suspicions, though.

[childcaremom]

I didn't fully explain it in the post but mom knew that my Dh would take my kids and I would have to keep her 3 at the house with me if baby was super tired. She could have stayed at work either way, but her 4 and 10 yo would have been disappointed. Or her mom and dad (grandma and grandpa) could have picked up on early/on time. There were options. I also can't prove that she did this. Maybe he was just coming down with something. I have my suspicions, though.

When I have my suspicions about dope and drops, I look at the big picture. How are the clients overall? If they are good clients, I will give the benefit of the doubt. If they are already on shaky ground, I will term.

I don't need proof, I just need to doubt enough. Once my trust is eroded, it doesn't take much for it to disappear completely.

[auntymimi]

Wow!! I am in shock!! Drugging her child and Rude behavior from grandma?! This family needed to be terminated yesterday.

You are right. I can't prove the drugging, I'll have to come up with something else. Or nothing else, but I know she'll want a reason. I've been advertising on fb and got a call yesterday. Ugh. Such a rough time of year to replace kids.