I Have A Problem

[countrymom]

ok, so dcd comes in and in a nutshell says that he doesn't want dcb to have a nap. I explained to him that if he doesn't go to school, he gets rest time, he doesn't need to sleep but he needs to have a break, most of the time he falls asleep, but its not for long maybe an hour or hour and a half, but he stays in bed for 2.5 hours (watching tv.) dcd says that last night he didn't want to go to sleep and that the old daycare they had to cut the nap out. The problem is, (he's 3) that he's bad, and in the 2 hours that I have a break from them I spend an hour of it cleaning up. He is the f bomb kid, he dumps toys left and right and he's not a really good fit, but (I only have him for 6 months so I will stick it out) the thing is, if I get him up, then I'm not getting nothing done (gee I sound like all of you who have sleep problems) but the sister is bugging me too, I pick her up from the bus and when we get back (its at the end of the driveway so its only a couple of feet) I go get her brother up, but I think she's tattling to her dad, she is becoming this very evil little girl. sorry I think this is more of a vent, I know what i'm going to do, but what do you all think I should do and I'll let you know what I'm going to do.

[Cat Herder]

I use the standard "If your child has outgrown their nap, they have outgrown my program." It then goes on the explain the "Giving Notice of Termination of Care" policy.

Luckily my rules and regs require a quiet/rest period...so do all the centers, so it is a "No discussion" issue for me. Check your rules and regs again, you may already have backup in your corner.

Good luck, hun, I really dislike when parents try to force me into going against the policies they agreed to. It is supposed to be what is in the best interest of the child, not what is most convenient at night for the parents.

I wish they understood that an overtired child WILL have more sleep/behavior problems than a child who gets regular mid-day naps. We cannot force a child to fall asleep, we are not wizards. The fall asleep because they are tired. Sad.

[daysofelijah]

I'd still nap him, but maybe wake him up before you get the sister off the bus. All children under school age nap here. The state requires a rest time so I use that and the fact that I work an 11 hour day w/o a break as my rationale when parents ask me to stop napping kids.

[marniewon]

I agree with Catherder - check your regs, if you are licensed. Here in MI we are required to allow a rest time for all children. They don't have to sleep but they have to remain still and quiet so those who need sleep, get it.

Or you could do what Nannyde always says to do regarding non-nappers....Of course I'll keep little junior up during nap time. That will be an extra $20/day, payable now. ::

[countrymom]

there are no regulations here, but I'm just going to let him nap and get him up before sister gets here. But, (I just discussed this with my sister) he is here for 745am till 515pm, thats a long day for any kid. Also, when I wake him up, he's usually so boohoo so I know that he's only fallen asleep for less than a half hour, because if he had enough sleep he would wake up like the rest of them, cheerful. I'll let you know how it goes today.

[Live and Learn]

Every child naps here period.....I have said it before....nap time is sacred.

You have two choices:

1) stand your ground and keep doing things the way you have been doing them......if did brings it up again say everyone gets an afternoon quiet time here.::

2) move everyone's nap up a half hour or so....DCb will be up from nap before tattling sis gets off the bus.::

The no nap option that the parent suggests wouldn't fly here.
Good luck!

[countrymom]

so, I just checked on him and he's already sleeping, so he obviously needs a nap (unlike the other two today) I should let him talk to my other dcm who wanted to do the same thing and how it back fired on her. So I will wake him up before I get sister. (I have another problem with sister)

[sahm2three]

ok, so dcd comes in and in a nutshell says that he doesn't want dcb to have a nap. I explained to him that if he doesn't go to school, he gets rest time, he doesn't need to sleep but he needs to have a break, most of the time he falls asleep, but its not for long maybe an hour or hour and a half, but he stays in bed for 2.5 hours (watching tv.) dcd says that last night he didn't want to go to sleep and that the old daycare they had to cut the nap out. The problem is, (he's 3) that he's bad, and in the 2 hours that I have a break from them I spend an hour of it cleaning up. He is the f bomb kid, he dumps toys left and right and he's not a really good fit, but (I only have him for 6 months so I will stick it out) the thing is, if I get him up, then I'm not getting nothing done (gee I sound like all of you who have sleep problems) but the sister is bugging me too, I pick her up from the bus and when we get back (its at the end of the driveway so its only a couple of feet) I go get her brother up, but I think she's tattling to her dad, she is becoming this very evil little girl. sorry I think this is more of a vent, I know what i'm going to do, but what do you all think I should do and I'll let you know what I'm going to do.

Too bad for dcd! Ask him if he is willing to work 10 to 12 hours a day with no break. This is what I have said to my dcp's. Sorry, everyone lies down here. Or at least I give it my BEST shot! I am not going to make my days miserable day in and day out by intentionally NOT giving naps and not getting a break. Sorry. Good luck.