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[Play Care]

Is it normal to have a policy in place to refuse all siblings if one is sick?

Currently I don't have that policy. But it's probably one of those ones that depends on the clients. If you have a family who frequently "fibs" about illnesses and the severity you're more likely to put something like that in place to protect the other kids. But I wouldn't say it's standard.

[Fiddlesticks]

Please don't flame me, but I honestly don't see what the problem is. Trust me, I totally get it's your worst family and it would be nice to have both kids stay home and give ya a break, I really get that, but if one child was up alot during the night for whatever reason and the mom is beat and the other child is healthy, why not bring him/her? Maybe the mom needs to rest because she was up all night? Or did I not read it right? Again, I don't mean to be snarky, but just trying to understand the situation. If it's because you think the one child is sick and the other one may come down with it too, I mean all of the kids could come down with something from anywhere.

From what I understood, the mother did not initially say the child staying home was up all night coughing, just that the child was up late and she was staying home anyway…. Had the mother said child one was ill, I am sure OP would not have responded as she did. I posted that I had one child stay home "just because" while his sibling came to daycare, and the next morning I sent him home with a fever. He obviously stayed home the first day because he was sick, not "just because" but the parents don't want to follow the 24 hour rule. So, instead he is out again today because he was sick here yesterday. The mother in the original post was trying to hide the fact that the child was ill, so instead she made it look like she was just going to spend the day with her well child, why not spend the day with both of your well children? Parents just need to be honest.

[lovemykidstoo]

From what I understood, the mother did not initially say the child staying home was up all night coughing, just that the child was up late and she was staying home anyway…. Had the mother said child one was ill, I am sure OP would not have responded as she did. I posted that I had one child stay home "just because" while his sibling came to daycare, and the next morning I sent him home with a fever. He obviously stayed home the first day because he was sick, not "just because" but the parents don't want to follow the 24 hour rule. So, instead he is out again today because he was sick here yesterday. The mother in the original post was trying to hide the fact that the child was ill, so instead she made it look like she was just going to spend the day with her well child, why not spend the day with both of your well children? Parents just need to be honest.

Oh I completely understand your point of view. I agree some parents will fib an illness to get around the 24 hr rule most definitely. I actually just had a family keep 1 child home yesterday and bring 1 child actually. The child that stayed home helped dad get moms birthday present ready to surprise her and the younger one came here. Luckily, I get paid no matter if they're here or not, so I got paid for both kids yea! Sometimes parents do want to give 1 on 1 time with their kids too. Of course you get the parents that take advantage or feed us a line of bs, but sometimes I think it's ok to keep just 1 home.

[Fiddlesticks]

I have had parents keep one child home for some special time, especially the older child when the sibling is an infant. I have never had a parent keep the youngest child home for special time and not the older sibling (us poor youngest children!) But it has always been planned---"FYI: I am keeping *dck* home on Friday so we can *do something fun*" I have never had a parent show up at the door with just one child because that morning they decided to spend quality time with the other child. The other child has always been ill on those occasions, and to my dcps credit, they are honest about that 90% of the time.

[lovemykidstoo]

I have had parents keep one child home for some special time, especially the older child when the sibling is an infant. I have never had a parent keep the youngest child home for special time and not the older sibling (us poor youngest children!) But it has always been planned---"FYI: I am keeping *dck* home on Friday so we can *do something fun*" I have never had a parent show up at the door with just one child because that morning they decided to spend quality time with the other child. The other child has always been ill on those occasions, and to my dcps credit, they are honest about that 90% of the time.

I know, why do they never keep the younger one home? ! I know it's weird, but honestly I just had it yesterday with the family I wrote about above. He was supposed to come after preschool at noon and at 11:30 dad texted and said he was keeping him to do the birthday surprise for mom.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Is it normal to have a policy in place to refuse all siblings if one is sick?

I have this policy for contagious illnesses. My kids always get whatever the other one gets. Right now, we are on day four of a stomach bug. Started with me, went to my daughter, then to my son. My husband is the only one to not get...so far

[Sugaree]

I have this policy for contagious illnesses. My kids always get whatever the other one gets. Right now, we are on day four of a stomach bug. Started with me, went to my daughter, then to my son. My husband is the only one to not get...so far

That makes sense. But I can definitely see where staying home while mom is busy taking care of a sick sibling would be not fun for a kid who isn't sick yet. I was just kind of curious as to why mom would lie about kid being sick vs up late.

Although, up late is generally a sign my kid is getting sick. He didn't sleep well the night before last. Hyper and wanted to play all night. Sure enough, he started running a fever last night (and still up at 2 a.m. wanting to play). Luckily, DH didn't have class or clinicals today.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

That makes sense. But I can definitely see where staying home while mom is busy taking care of a sick sibling would be not fun for a kid who isn't sick yet. I was just kind of curious as to why mom would lie about kid being sick vs up late.

Although, up late is generally a sign my kid is getting sick. He didn't sleep well the night before last. Hyper and wanted to play all night. Sure enough, he started running a fever last night (and still up at 2 a.m. wanting to play). Luckily, DH didn't have class or clinicals today.

I think parents lie or don't tell the whole truth about it because they want to keep an "out" of sorts. If they just say their little one is tired and needs a day at home, then it seems like no big deal, but if they say little Jimmy was up all night coughing, then they may have to follow that up with possibly more sick days, a doctor visit, meds, ect. They don't want to go there unless they HAVE to, imo.

[nannyde]

That makes sense. But I can definitely see where staying home while mom is busy taking care of a sick sibling would be not fun for a kid who isn't sick yet. I was just kind of curious as to why mom would lie about kid being sick vs up late.

Although, up late is generally a sign my kid is getting sick. He didn't sleep well the night before last. Hyper and wanted to play all night. Sure enough, he started running a fever last night (and still up at 2 a.m. wanting to play). Luckily, DH didn't have class or clinicals today.

Having a kid stay up late as a precursor to getting sick may be common but a parent keeping a kid home from paid daycare for it would be VERY rare.

Now if the provider allows unpaid days off then YES the tired scenario would be common.