Adult words

[Unregistered]

Has anyone here ever slipped an adult word in front of the kids?

I realize that babysitters and providers are only human and do mess up just as a parent does. But as I was dropping off my child this morning my babysitter was walking through her kitchen door into her living room. Her helper was sitting in the floor tending to an infant. As she walked through the door I thought i heard her say under her breath I ran into that F***ing cactus...I asked her what she said and she said I am sorry yes I did let the F word slip. I ran into a cactus with 2 inch needles and it hurt very badly and I am sorry. I do not use adult words in front of the kids but that one did slip and I am sorry.

I am angry and want to pull my child out.

What do you all think about that?

[auntymimi]

I said damn it in front of a 5 yo before. I was pulling out zucchini bread from the oven, while I thought everyone was asleep, and the dish towel I was using to pull out the hot pan was a bit damp and burned my hand. Imagine my surprise when I turn around to 5 yo dcb who giggles and said " I woke up now, and you said a bad word!" Luckily mom is a friend of mine and has a mouth like a sailor, so I know he's heard worse at home, but still I try to keep it g rated at my house! The f word, though? I don't know about that one.

[Cat Herder]

I'd probably meet her halfway and ask her to get rid of the bleeping cactus. :hug:

[Unregistered]

Well I will not be all goodie goodie and say that i have never let an adult word slip in front of my kids.

she is a really great babysitter and does more then what most license people or center will do and she takes great care of my son. He has never said an adult word and has been going to her for awhile now and he can talk great so that tells me that he isnt hearing these words all the time.

I know she is only human and i know she will mess up as me. Actually, she could have lied and said NO I SAID FREAKING...but she was honest abou tit which tells me she is honest?

IDK though I know she feels just aweful and I do too and I dont want to be "one of those" parents who pulls out over something stupid.

[Cat Herder]

More than likely it is fresh humiliation in her mind, so she will be very careful for quite a while. Years, probably. More than likely she also would have explained to the kids that it was a bad word and that she was embarrassed and sorry if she had said it in their presence. That using bad words just tells the world you are not trying hard enough to come up with your own awesome thoughts. Everything we do is a learning opportunity for kids.

**We can all make mistakes and turn them into learning opportunities. The pressure to be perfect is debilitating.** lovethis

Now, about the cactus in reach of children. I was serious. That is an actual health and safety hazard and needs to be addressed. Yesterday.

Good luck hun.

[Thriftylady]

Well I will not be all goodie goodie and say that i have never let an adult word slip in front of my kids.

she is a really great babysitter and does more then what most license people or center will do and she takes great care of my son. He has never said an adult word and has been going to her for awhile now and he can talk great so that tells me that he isnt hearing these words all the time.

I know she is only human and i know she will mess up as me. Actually, she could have lied and said NO I SAID FREAKING...but she was honest abou tit which tells me she is honest?

IDK though I know she feels just aweful and I do too and I dont want to be "one of those" parents who pulls out over something stupid.

I wouldn't pull over this. IMHO it would be over something stupid. I have slipped up before once. It happens we are only human. It isn't like she was calling a kid foul names, that I would term over. Or if I heard it several times I week I may term. I say let it go, you will never find a perfect provider, because there is no such thing.

[Unregistered]

No the plants are all in a different room and she has like a gate so they have the living room and a playroom and another learning room that they are in. She only has 4 kids and they nor parents are not allowed past these gates.

More than likely it is fresh humiliation in her mind, so she will be very careful for quite a while. Years, probably. More than likely she also would have explained to the kids that it was a bad word and that she was embarrassed and sorry if she had said it in their presence. That using bad words just tells the world you are not trying hard enough to come up with your own awesome thoughts. Everything we do is a learning opportunity for kids.

**We can all make mistakes and turn them into learning opportunities. The pressure to be perfect is debilitating.** lovethis

Now, about the cactus in reach of children. I was serious. That is an actual health and safety hazard and needs to be addressed. Yesterday.

Good luck hun.

[Cat Herder]

From your description, it sounds like she has worked very hard to make it a safe environment. That ratio is really low and would be very expensive here. I would have to double my rates to do it.

It sounds like you have a keeper.

[Fiddlesticks]

She has otherwise provided great care for your child, she only takes care of four children at a time AND has a helper, she has dedicated three rooms of her home as space for four children, and has done an excellent job keeping the children safe, but you want to pull out your child because she slipped one time and used an inappropriate word, for which she admitted her inappropriateness and apologized, AND you are fairly confident that she doesn't use inappropriate language around your son, at least not regularly. Do I understand that correctly? I personally NEVER use foul language, whether in my professional or personal life, literally never. I am VERY turned off by foul language, which has become more and more prevalent in our society. So I do completely understand why you would not want that language used around your child. But if you yourself have slipped and used inappropriate words in front of your child, and you are otherwise happy with your provider, then no, I wouldn't remove your child from this setting.

[Snowmom]

I've let some low-profile words slip (damn, crap, etc) during daycare hours. Nothing huge like an F-bomb though.

If you're happy with everything else and this is the one infraction that you have with your caregiver, then that's pretty petty to me. But, you need to do what you're comfortable with.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Well I will not be all goodie goodie and say that i have never let an adult word slip in front of my kids.

she is a really great babysitter and does more then what most license people or center will do and she takes great care of my son. He has never said an adult word and has been going to her for awhile now and he can talk great so that tells me that he isnt hearing these words all the time.

I know she is only human and i know she will mess up as me. Actually, she could have lied and said NO I SAID FREAKING...but she was honest abou tit which tells me she is honest?

IDK though I know she feels just aweful and I do too and I dont want to be "one of those" parents who pulls out over something stupid.

I think it would be an over reaction to pull your child. Even you admit to having said a bad word in front of your kid here and there. Guess what? Daycare providers are human too! I have slipped before and if a parent wanted to pull over that, then I would open the door for them and say see ya! Most of us do the best we can to provide care each and everyday and go above and beyond, but one tiny thing could potentially set parents off and make them want to pull their child. It makes many of us walk on eggshells in our own homes. As I have gotten older, I just don't care anymore and realize that even if I do amazing 99.9% of the time, all it takes is that .1% to lose income and it is very disheartening. I think that if you trust your provider, think she does great with your child, and you love taking your kid there, you shouldn't have even questioned pulling your child because of one bad word she said under her breath after getting hurt. Either there is something else going on there that you don't care for and you are looking for reasons to leave, or you are setting a human up for very high standards that you cannot even meet yourself. Sorry to be so harsh, but I think it sounds like you ave a great provider you are happy with and you should cut her some slack. She is human and worthy of forgiveness for this small mistake.

[Hunni Bee]

She was upfront about it, she apologized, she had a pretty good reason and not just letting off foul language for no reason (that had to hurt ), you are confident she doesn't use bad words in front of kids and it sounds like she's an excellent provider.

I would totally forget about. I don't know if I'd call her a babysitter anymore either - she sounds like much more than that lovethis