Another One of 'Those' Need Care Emails...

[Nisaryn]

Surely she meant per week ::

As an after thought (and to give her the benefit of the doubt) I DID ask her this...nope, she meant per month. I told her, good luck.

[Nisaryn]

Now, I know that circumstances change, people fall on hard times, Whomp, Whomp. It seems to me that the cost of having multiple children are no longer taken into consideration when parents decide to bring these children into the world. I'm always hearing from private pay clients that my rates are too expensive. I charge 20$ a day for up to 10 hrs of care, and I provide all meals and snacks. This is as low as I can possibly go and still continue to provide all that I do while still complying with licensing ratios. I get parents with 3 kids, and I understand that 300$ a week is a lot of money, but jeez! You CHOSE to have 3 kids! Why would you make that decision if you weren't in a position to either stay home to care for them, or make enough money in your career to justify paying for care for the children you CHOSE to have?

Unfortunately this happens a LOT with military families...they see that their "free housing" and "free insurance" as a reason to have as many kids as they possibly can. They get used to not having to pay for their electricity or water when in base or PPV housing (and you get enough money to live off base that it usually isn't an issue either) the only bill we actually have to pay for is internet/phone pretty much everything else is covered. I know many women that have over 5 children for this very reason and their husband (or wife) stay in the military (even if they don't want to) simply because it is the ONLY way they can afford to continue taking care of them. I know some of these women (and some men) wouldn't be able to survive outside the military lifestyle if they had to actually worry about when their bills were due. After a while though, even that "extra money" you saved for your housing/bills isn't enough to pay for the care of that many children! On top that...they don't actually payed as much as people think. I made more money than my husband when I was teaching. So I can understand how some of them might feel about the cost of childcare but to ask for that much work for so little pay??? Nope, never, not happening. I'm not THAT understanding, LOL. Especially when I see you out buying your alcohol and pics of you out with your friends to dinner and buying designer clothes...I like to treat myself on occasion too but some of these women are out ALL the time spending ALL their extra income...and then complain when they have to pay for their children to be taken care of. As one said to me "School is free so why can't childcare be free?" *sigh*

I'm not saying all military families are like this, but a LOT are. My parents were dual-military, I served for 4 years and am now a military spouse and grew up with these types of people. My neighbors growing up have EIGHT kids!

Anyway, rant over!

[Ariana]

She probably shares custody with her ex - so they live with their dad the other week & he finds his own care

So she shares custody, works 11 hours a day, dad has his own care and she wants $100 a month?

Still a pile of BS

[KidGrind]

Unfortunately this happens a LOT with military families...they see that their "free housing" and "free insurance" as a reason to have as many kids as they possibly can. They get used to not having to pay for their electricity or water when in base or PPV housing (and you get enough money to live off base that it usually isn't an issue either) the only bill we actually have to pay for is internet/phone pretty much everything else is covered. I know many women that have over 5 children for this very reason and their husband (or wife) stay in the military (even if they don't want to) simply because it is the ONLY way they can afford to continue taking care of them. I know some of these women (and some men) wouldn't be able to survive outside the military lifestyle if they had to actually worry about when their bills were due. After a while though, even that "extra money" you saved for your housing/bills isn't enough to pay for the care of that many children! On top that...they don't actually payed as much as people think. I made more money than my husband when I was teaching. So I can understand how some of them might feel about the cost of childcare but to ask for that much work for so little pay??? Nope, never, not happening. I'm not THAT understanding, LOL. Especially when I see you out buying your alcohol and pics of you out with your friends to dinner and buying designer clothes...I like to treat myself on occasion too but some of these women are out ALL the time spending ALL their extra income...and then complain when they have to pay for their children to be taken care of. As one said to me "School is free so why can't childcare be free?" *sigh*

I'm not saying all military families are like this, but a LOT are. My parents were dual-military, I served for 4 years and am now a military spouse and grew up with these types of people. My neighbors growing up have EIGHT kids!

Anyway, rant over!

As a retired sailor and as an active military family I strongly disagree with the free housing. I’ve never lived anywhere free. The rates my husband and I performed as military personnel far surpassed the income and benefits we received and receive as military personnel compared to what we would’ve and can earn in the civilian sector. I am not complaining. Military life with all it’s ups and downs; sacrifices and benefits has been a good life for us. BAH is not free money.

I do agree that a lot of FREE WHATEVER or subsidized childcare does create in some military personnel and their spouses a sense of entitlement. And that entitlement has been the reason they’ve been sent right out of my door. I agree active duty can be monsters as clients. What I’ve learned is a lot of military do not understand they receive subsidized care. They are clueless to the fact that what comes out of their pockets isn’t the going rate for childcare. I’ve explained to each military client that they are receiving subsidized care. They are only paying a portion of their childcare costs. Most are shocked and even question, “Really?” I do my math and then say would you work for that amount? They all say, “No ma’am."

I gave up a lot of freedoms while serving and am a 40% disabled veteran. My husband continues to serve honorably. Everything we have including are housing and medical has been EARNED and PAID by us.

What I’ve done with the “Dealers” is when they give me I can afford to pay you $500 per month.

I reply with, “Give me a second, please. 50 hours per week times 4.043 equals 286 hours. 500 divided by 286 equals 1.74. Ma’am I don’t work for $1.74 per hour to care for one precious little one and I won’t for 2 or 3.”

They usually get off the phone quickly with me civilian or military.