mostly a vent

[mamamanda]

Why do I let the little things bother me? I have a family of 2 kids who have just become so selfish and entitled I can't hardly stand it. Mom justifies everything they do and rewards them even if they've been awful. Everytime I think I've handled an issue at daycare dcg 5 tattles to mom and they come back with a solution of their own making which I put a stop to. My daycare my rules, but still its frustrating. Dcg constantly asks everyone to make her things Every picture that gets colored at daycare gets a "Can you give that to me? Are yo making it for me?" And when a kid says no its "Well, that hurts my feelings. Don't you like me? Don't you want to be my friend?" I respond with "They can make their picture for whoever they like just as you can make yours for whoever you like. Don't ask them again." So today she comes in and says to ds, "Will you make that for me?" I interject, "I told you to stop asking him that. Focus on your own project." At which point she tells ds, "My mom said if someone makes you a picture you HAVE to make one back and I made you one so you need to make that for me." I said, "He doesn't HAVE to make you a picture ever. Do NOT ask anyone else to make you something. If they make you something it should be b/c they want to do something nice for you and not b/c you're begging for it." Then she proceeds to whisper in his ear asking for it. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't even matter. Who cares? Send her elsewhere to play and move on, but it gets under my skin. And the part that irks me most is that mom probably did tell her to tell him he has to make it for her b/c she wants to solve all of dcg's problems and make sure everyone treats her like a princess. Irritates the heck out of me. Anyway, I just needed to say it so I could process and let it go. They've only been here an hour and already we've had about 5 issues. I'm done. Thankfully I'll be done soon.

[daycarediva]

That sounds super annoying.

My very entitled princess dcg's are always telling me "My Mom says...." and "My Dad says....." and it drives me up a WALL.

My Mom says I don't have to clean up if I didn't play with it. (Here I assign an area and we clean up, doesn't matter who played there)

My Dad says we shouldn't go outside in the rain. (Here we do, that's why you have a raincoat.)

My Mom says you should carve pumpkins and not paint them.

My Dad says I can sleep in a crib. (mat here, not pack and play)

My Mom says I can have a bottle (they get BOTTLES AT BEDTIME, I won't even give them a sippy cup.)

I just ignore it. Seriously NO response from me anymore because they argue. It's like nails on a chalkboard though.

[Mandy]

Youre doing the best you can.

You are handiling the situation well. Just keep redirecting her and keep repeating what you said. As for her mother, I think she is setting her kid up for much more trouble in the future. If her kid's behavior is this way now and her mom is not addressing it properly, her kid will have a rude awakening in public school. No idea if shes in kindergarden yet but soon she will steal toys because she wants them. As she gets older, she will not have the skills to cope with life because her mummy never taught her how to deal with it. All she has taught her so far is the gift (and I use this term very loosely) of entitlement. Entitlement does not result in a good life filled with harmony. It only results in disaster. If her mom just realized the damage she is doing to her kid, she would hopefully change her tune and talk to her kid about how to behave properly. I know that last sentence may seem like a dream that might not come true, but sometimes, people change

[childcaremom]

I have had dcks make the odd comment here and there. I ignored it the first few times and then just told them that mom and dad know what my rules are and that they expect you to follow them while you are here.

That stopped it.

[Unregistered]

That sounds pretty annoying- I've been there too. I know a certain child from a center I worked at that I'm picturing as I read your description... annoying! Anyway- just to play devil's advocate for a moment- maybe mom said to make a picture for those that make pictures for you to actually get her to make pictures for the kids that are giving them to her... ? (and not the way dcg is using the idea - to solicit more pics for herself).

[Controlled Chaos]

I would probably give one verbal warning "We worry about our own projects and leave our friends alone" and she continued I would physically walk her to another area to play. "You've lost the privileged of coloring. Now you may play with the blocks" etc. Sorry its buggin you