DCG is Very Emotional

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I am feeling so bad for my little dcg. I decided to stop daycare, so she is now going to a relative 2 days a week to start and will go full time int he next few weeks. She started there yesterday and I guess it went okay, but mom said she was a nightmare last night, which I told her is very common as she adjusts. Well, today, she has been very quiet and so emotional! Every little thing brings big crocodile tears and I know she is just feeling so vulnerable and I am not sure if there is anything else I can besides give extra cuddles and keep her busy. Mom wants to slowly transition to the new place, but I almost wonder if it wouldn't be better for her to just dive right in? As for now, she will be with me 3 days and at the new place 2 days, but we all know how hard it can be to transition when you only go 2 days a week, so do you think I should talk with her mom about moving on sooner? And advice on how I can help the transition when I have her? Maybe a playdate with the other provider? (a stay at home mom) Thanks for any help!

[childcaremom]

I always tell my parents that children will pick up on any emotions they are having. So if mom and dad are worried, upset, etc, dcg will pick up on that. Best thing is to look at it as a positive experience and encourage dcg to do the same.

I think that children are pretty resilient on the whole and will adapt easily if mom and dad are on board. Of course, there will always be the few that have a hard time with transitions but I'm sure she'll be fine once she does the full switch.

[laundrymom]

I agree about her picking up and support your thoughts on a clean break. I feel it's the best way.

[Play Care]

I agree about her picking up and support your thoughts on a clean break. I feel it's the best way.

This. I think when the time comes for me to be closed, I will have a set end date as well as allowing parents to pull their child *completely* before that time. Once new day care is secured then they need to go there. It just drags out transitions and I think parents and kids start behaving badly toward the end.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

So dcm said she would like to do two days at the new place next week and then three days the following week. She is VERY sad that I am closing, so I am not sure how to push her out a little quicker, without making her even more upset. I did give her an end date of Nov. 20, so she technically has until then, but I have a feeling the weeks are gonna get harder and harder for dcg. Any way to word it nicely? I really don't have an issue with her staying, but it makes me feel sad to see her upset and I can tell she is just really confused