Dcm wants to hang out

[jgcp]

So i had a family start in Aug and they are really nice and dcb is great but dcm comes in at pick up and just hangs out and wants to talk but i still have dck and sa ones that need help with homework, Then dcd asked if he could borrow a tool from my dh? My dh let him ( he has a hard time with that haha) and we got it back. Then this week they are on fall break ( both work for school) and dcm called and asked if she could come over and hang out with dcb in tow of course, because she is just so board(i said ohh im making lunch and then its nap sorry: and today she asked if dcd could borrow something else from my dh and i just told her he didnt have one:: either these ppl are the neediest ppl ive ever met or they are that oblivious! They are super nice i just dont have time to just hang out or any of that, i barely keep up with my really close, good friends:confused: I feel bad always saying no tho but geeeeeez.

[Nisaryn]

So i had a family start in Aug and they are really nice and dcb is great but dcm comes in at pick up and just hangs out and wants to talk but i still have dck and sa ones that need help with homework, Then dcd asked if he could borrow a tool from my dh? My dh let him ( he has a hard time with that haha) and we got it back. Then this week they are on fall break ( both work for school) and dcm called and asked if she could come over and hang out with dcb in tow of course, because she is just so board(i said ohh im making lunch and then its nap sorry: and today she asked if dcd could borrow something else from my dh and i just told her he didnt have one:: either these ppl are the neediest ppl ive ever met or they are that oblivious! They are super nice i just dont have time to just hang out or any of that, i barely keep up with my really close, good friends:confused: I feel bad always saying no tho but geeeeeez.

I had a DCM that was just like this...she would text me throughout the day (even when her child wasn't with me) would text me funny/fun things they did over the weekend. Then at pickup she would stay for almost an hour with her child and while I still had other kids to gossip about things at work or people she knows (that I don't know/don't care to know). It got so bad that my hubby said I needed to charge her for the extra time since during these daily 'hang out' times her child would still be be participating in activities, she would even 'help out' with him and other kids! I finally had to put my foot down and sent an official notice to all parents that pick up time meant "pick up your child and leave" otherwise I would charge the late fee since technically their child still being here (even if they are present with them) means they are being picked up late. She stopped staying over REALLY quickly after that....though she does still text me a lot.

[Ariana]

I have a similar DCM! She is always trying to hang out with me and unfortunately I did once. It was because she invited me to this super cool outing that I really wanted to go to and I knew if I didn't go with her we would end up bumping into each other and well...awkward! I have been refusing everything ever since though and she seems to be getting the hint. I feel terrible because I think her husband works a lot and she is lonely BUT I do not want to mix business with friends and her child is not friends with my child at all. He is at my daycare but he is on the spectrum I think so he ignored my DD all day long. Meahwhile mom is in major denial and I think she thinks ours kids are BFF's because I send pics home of them "playing". They aren't.