Is email okay to discuss behavior? (Long)

[sahm1225]

I have had dcg4 for over 3 years now. About 2 months ago I noticed she was eating hair. Well not sure if she eats it, but putting random pieces of hair in her mouth. I thought it was a phase (she's very into sticking things in her mouth/oral fixation). I mentioned it briefly at pick up to dcm and she says that dcg is not doing it at home. I mentioned it to grandma at drop off when dcg had a giant piece of hair in her mouth. Neither were concerned.

Well, it's gotten worse! I take her and pick her up from preschool and friday she walked out with something in her mouth. When she saw me looking at her mouth as she walked out, she pulls out a wad of hair and tossed it on the floor. When I ask her to show me her mouth, she will try to hide it under her tongue or stuff it low on side of her cheeks. Today I saw her walk to the trash and pretend to toss a handful of hairs but instead put it in her pocket.

Then there's her other attention seeking behaviors. She will keep getting in the other kids faces, like seriously waving her face in theirs and chasing them when they get up to walk away (she won't stop when they ask her to stop). I'm at a loss of what to do. She will go up to the after school kids (my 6&8 year olds and one SA 6) and hit them while laughing. She loves to pout that no one will play with her and part of me wonders if she understands the connection between her actions and them not playing with her.

Sorry so long! I've been thinking about this for days and just need to get it all out! Help me out guys please! lovethis

[Ariana]

The parents know this is happening at home so rest assured they do not care and likely won't fix it. Does this behavior affect your daycare? are you afraid of choking? Is this something you want to term over?

[CalCare]

I would be afraid to email because I don't like the idea of people having a record of something they can use against me ha-ha! I know it sounds ridiculous, but who knows. So, if I were you I would maybe write it all out as if emailing just so I have really processed and edited the best way I want to word things, then keep that write up for my own personal notes - not sent to anyone via email or writing. Then when you do have a meeting in person, have the paper with your notes for you to look at. I, myself, can't remember all I want to say in that kind of situation. So, notes help a lot. As far as what to say! Oh my, idk that sounds like quite a situation. Good luck!

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I would speak to them in person and let them see te concern on your face. It is not super uncommon for kids to eat their hair, but it can be serious if they do it too much and if they swallow large amounts. They ca get sick and in extreme cases, need surgery to have it removed. I would think a trip to the doctor would be best and maybe they can make sure she is physically okay and offer support or services to help stop the problem. As far as being in others faces, I would put her on strict watch. Until she can control her urge to be kind and stay out of other's faces, she will be my shadow. But the hair thing is something that could require medical attention and may be worth a good talk with mom about.

[sahm1225]

It's not her hair she's eating. It's hair she finds around the place! She comes up to me (I have long hair) and she plays with my hair and saves any hair that might fall off. I won't let her touch my hair anymore!

[Unregistered]

Is it only hair, I had one girl before who ate her own hair not to bad or to much hair but still.I looked it up at the time , what I read said she was lacking something like a certain vitamin.

[childcaremom]

I would be afraid to email because I don't like the idea of people having a record of something they can use against me ha-ha! I know it sounds ridiculous, but who knows. So, if I were you I would maybe write it all out as if emailing just so I have really processed and edited the best way I want to word things, then keep that write up for my own personal notes - not sent to anyone via email or writing. Then when you do have a meeting in person, have the paper with your notes for you to look at. I, myself, can't remember all I want to say in that kind of situation. So, notes help a lot. As far as what to say! Oh my, idk that sounds like quite a situation. Good luck!

Ha, I'm the opposite. I like to have a written trail so that I can prove that I've discussed it with them.

I think if you are comfortable discussing with them in person, to do it, but if not I think email is fine.

I absolutely would be concerned and would let the parents know that you are concerned for her.

[spedmommy4]

If she is actually eating the hair the parents need to address it. I worked with a two year old who ate hair. (she had autism and pica) From this experience I learned that hair doesn't digest and can cause a blockage. The little girl had to have the hair removed and then they shaved her head. . If she is eating her hair snap a photo and share it with the parents.