Too many texts from DCM

[daycare]

I would just send a friendly email saying "sorry I haven't been able to get to your texts but it can get hectic here during the day with 3 other children. I will give you updates at the end of the day from here on in unless there is an emergency. Thanks and have a great day"

There has to be trust between you both and she needs to cut the chord!

This.

I also like silvers idea of just tapering off. That is what I do. I always send a pic here and there, but ONLY WHEN I CAN.

I have kids here for years and I still at least once a week send their parents a pic.

The other day I had a kid crying all day for his mom, she is out of the country on business. I took a pic of him doing the hokey pokey and sent it to his mom. She sent me a text back and told her it ust made her day and that she was thankful that after being in my program for 3.5 years I still do things like that for them. The last time I sent any text to that family of any kind had to been several weeks prior.

the mom will adjust to it and if she doesnt, then you to tell her sorry, I am not able to text as your request, and then tell her as this person above did...

[pinkyswear]

Silversabre, I wasn't getting defensive. I was just saying I won't use that program and the reasons why.

[Snowmom]

Blackcat, your a straight arrow. Much like myself. My dh said I can tell folks off with a smile & they never realize it. This DCM is totally a MyChild mom. I feel for you pinkyswear.

Do you give lessons on that skill?

[Lovisa]

I had a DCM like this. It progressively got worse and worse. Finally, I told her that not only was her texting/calling excessive, but getting texts every hour or so was leading me to believe that perhaps my daycare wasn't a great fit for her family. Trust is huge and by her questioning every.single.thing I did or didn't do, that showed me that while she SAID she trusted me to care for her child, maybe she didn't. I ended up terming her and she got VERY upset to the point of insulting me. She got mean and nasty. Seems I dodged a bullet honestly.

I learned a lot though!

[midaycare]

I will give a morning and afternoon update to crazy-texting parents for a few weeks. They soon see a pattern that everything is okay, and things are good here. Then I move them to one text for another few weeks. Then I don't text daily.