2 year old wild man

[lizzlee]

I need some advice please. I have a just turned two year old boy who is having some behavior issues. He basically just wants to throw things, jump on furniture, push other kids and snatch their toys, throw his whole body on top of others who are trying to sit and play and run through the house.
It has been worse this week with the rainy weather and not being able to play outside. I do have a covered porch that we have been playing on but there isn't room to run. I redirect constantly, "H those are C's crayons, come color with your crayons," etc. He has been my buddy for the past two days because of hitting other children with toys and body slamming them. Mom's answer is to spank him or make him stand facing the wall, really??? Seriously if I turn my back on him for 30 seconds, he's on top of my dining table or trying to get out the front door. I would term if I wouldn't lose his siblings, but at the same time I feel like I should be able to figure out how to deal with him.
I have lots of fun toys and activities available, I have sat with him and modeled playing and showed him how to use materials. Don't know what else to try.

[daycare]

trying to bump this back up for you hoping others will respond too.

do you have a set consistent routine? is the child full time?

[lizzlee]

He's here five days a week for part days. Either 11 til 4 or 1 til 4, depending on parents work schedule, mom works days and dad works nights. Yes we do have a consistent routine. The worst time is after nap time when the 2 preschoolers and school ager come. I don't have as much attention for him because of preparing snack for the older three (he has a snack right after his nap). I honestly think he can tell when I'm busy because that 's when he usually acts up. Thank goodness he's picked up within an hour of the sa kids getting here .

[midaycare]

This sounds like the 2 year old dcb I am having issues with. Fun stuff! I have no answers ... he's been in my care since June and I've seen improvement, but it's not always consistent and he never really has a "good" day.

[daycare]

so it sounds like there are some inconsistencies in his drop off schedule.

what is his nap time routine? Is he still on two naps or 1.

[BabyMonkeys]

One of my little guys is like this. He will be 2 in December. If I had not had him since birth and fallen in love with him when he was cute and tiny...

He is constantly covered head to toe in bruises. Thank God his parents know how he is. I just sent him home with an egg on his head today because he got his rocking horse going so fast he flipped it over. It is in the same place that he hit his head last week racing around the house pushing a little people bus. He ended up going too fast and bashed his forehead on the tile. He will climb anything. The child has no fear.

He isn't "bad" per say, he's just active, and impulsive. I just chalk it up to being almost 2. I've found that as he starts talking his aggression is lessening. He will tell another kid "no no no" if they take his toy. That gives me the 10 seconds I need to intervene if the other boy doesn't back down. Today he started saying "move please" instead of just tackling and biting if someone is in his way. Does your little guy talk yet?

When he gets out of control and aggressive I throw a whole bunch of soft blankets and pillows on the floor and give him his paci, which is normally reserved for bed. He will relax for 5-10 min and then go back to playing and be much better behaved.

Good luck!

[lizzlee]

Thanks for the responses. Yes there are inconsistencies in drop off time, he does take one nap a day, and I try to keep it at the same time but some days he sleeps in at home or has a nap before he comes so he doesn't nap at my house. That's probably part of the problem. However, even on days when he has a great nap at my house, as soon as he's awake he's wild and crazy. It's almost like he doesn't know how to play with toys. He just wants to throw them or crash them into something or someone or jump on top of someone. He really seems to go for my daughter; pushing, pinching, pulling hair, etc. She's in preschool most of the time he's here but as soon as she walks in he's on her. There are five kids in his family, only eleven months between him and the next older child, and around 19 months between him and the baby...maybe he just doesn't get enough attention and he's trying to get someone to pay attention to him. Maybe I need to try harder to focus on him when he's behaving nicely. Just writing this down as I've thought it through has given me some new ideas...thanks!

[mamamanda]

When you're getting ready to make snack, interact with older kids, etc I would put him in a highchair with a fun table activity or a book right beside you. Don't give him the option to run around or get into anything. It's not a punishment. Make it fun. While you're making snack, maybe you're also singing songs, telling a story, or just talking to him about his activity. He's getting your attention, but not running the show. That's what I've had to do in the past.